Considering how important the ceremony is to you (and there's nothing wrong with that), I would recommend choosing one of two ways for you to move forward:
1. Go the CR-1 route. Have the big, celebratory wedding with family and friends. Then, you start the CR-1 process and wait to be reunited.
2. Go the K1 route. Once your fiancee gets here, have a small wedding. Once she is able to travel out of the country, go back to her country and have the big, celebratory wedding with family and friends.
Just my suggestions.
Good luck.