is it normal? no send money to your girlfriend in other country?, please answer american men (merged)

[Ilovemyman 147]

hello, i have a relationship with an american man.

i am teacher and i work in my country, but economy isnt good here.

with my money i can eat.

i have a boyfriend and he never hasnt sent me money, and i dont ask him for money

i am no the woman who ask for money to man.

i want to ask to those men who have girlfriend in others country:

can i have future with a man who doesnt send me money now?

he works in a good job and make a lot of money, but never send me nothing.

i mean, is it normal, that american men dont send money to their girlfriend in other country?

Edited November 7, 2016 by Ilovemyman

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Some men send money, but a lot probably don't for a whole variety of reasons. I wouldn't think of it as being a bad thing. Does he send small gifts or cards?

[Pinkrlion 2,719]

Most men dont send money when the woman works. If u dont ask, how does he know u need money.

[Unlockable 7,314]

This may very well be a cultural thing.

Many Americans don't feel they need to send money unless they are asked. It is not expected.

[Mary Lou 681]

My husband is from the DR, he works, he never has asked me for money. I do send some on occasion, but he doesn't expect it.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

He probably thinks that you were fine before you met him so you are fine on money now. And I would agree. You don't live together and you're not married so it's weird to give money. Plus cash gifts are gauche, at least from an American perspective..

Edited November 8, 2016 by Harpa Timsah

[p-ana 933]

Do you expect him to give you money or do you want him to give you money? Are you in need of some financial help or would the money be for superfluous spending?

I have the opinion that helping each other out is great, when the need arises, of course. But if it's a one thing, just looks/ sounds very fishy.

[Georgia16 2,858]

hello, i have a relationship with an american man.

i am teacher and i work in my country, but economy isnt good here.

with my money i can eat.

i have a boyfriend and he never hasnt sent me money, and i dont ask him for money

i am no the woman who ask for money to man. Don't expect anything if you don't ask.

i want to ask to those men who have girlfriend in others country:

can i have future with a man who doesnt send me money now? Sure why not you are not marrying a ATM machine!

he works in a good job and make a lot of money, but never send me nothing. Didn't know he had too!

i mean, is it normal, that american men dont send money to their girlfriend in other country? Sounds like you got an AMERICAN MAN so he can send you money!

[Ilovemyman 147]

Do you expect him to give you money or do you want him to give you money? Are you in need of some financial help or would the money be for superfluous spending?

I have the opinion that helping each other out is great, when the need arises, of course. But if it's a one thing, just looks/ sounds very fishy.

i a mno a fishy person,

maybe you missundertand my question, and what i mean.

we have 8 months now, and he never have try to help even if he knows that i need help.

on august he got mad because he asked me who is reposible for my mother and i answer me, then he broke up with me, he said he didnt need a woman who has to send money to her country when be living at USA.

then we started again but i feel that when i live there, we will have problem because he wont that i help my mother.

[NikLR 13,227]

You're right he probably wont and he really will not do it for you.

If you want someone who is more free with their money, this doesnt sound like the person for you.

Edited November 8, 2016 by NikLR

[Ilovemyman 147]

You're right he probably wont and he really will not do it for you.

If you want someone who is more free with their money, this doesnt sound like the person for you.

if i go to live to USA, i need to work i know, but if i go i cant work after work permit, so i thinkk he wont give me money to send to my mother until i be able to work.

[Ilovemyman 147]

hello, i have a relationship with an american man.

i am teacher and i work in my country, but economy isnt good here.

with my money i can eat.

i have a boyfriend and he never hasnt sent me money, and i dont ask him for money

i am no the woman who ask for money to man.

i want to ask to those men who have girlfriend in others country:

can i have future with a man who doesnt send me money now?

he works in a good job and make a lot of money, but never send me nothing.

i mean, is it normal, that american men dont send money to their girlfriend in other country?

i have to add to my topic, that he always says he miss me and want we be together, then he says that he dosnt want i quit my job.

one day he says he will do a visa for me, and other he repeat he doesnt want i quit my job.

i ask him move to my country and i can continue working, but he says he doesnt like to live here.

so i am thinking that he doesnt want help me with money in case that i go there until i can work.

is this normal say that he doesnt want that i quit my job?

i see that when you find someone that you love you want to live together, it doesnt matter if is in USA or in the other country.

[NikLR 13,227]

Spousal visa allows you to start working right away. Again however, you have much to discuss. All these questions should be asked of him, not us. These are relationship questions.

[Ilovemyman 147]

hello , i am in a relationship with an american, 8 months now.

he never send me money even if he knows that i need it.

i am the kind of woman that doesnt ask for money, but he knows that i have situation that he can helps.

on august he broke up me because i am responsible for my mother and he said he didnt want a woman who needs send money to relatives when live at USA.

then he talk to me again and we started again.

one ay he says he want that i live at US and that will makea visa forme, but another day he says he doesnt want that i quit my job.

i tell him about move here and live here and i can continue working here.

but he says he doesnt like here.

the thing it is that i am thinking break up him because he only want keep travel for vacations time and no a life together.

i think that if you are with a person who you love, you want be together and no keep travel.

what do you think about this situation?

[JenniferNangel 137]

Hi I would be the American and my husband is Dominican. Before I came here we decided that I would stay in dr and see how well we did (silly me I thought it'd be easy for a gringa to get a job here) until we got pregnant we thought it'd be best for our child to be raised in America, we married in June and started his visa in August. I love my husband and his family has become my family as well so I expect him to send packages, money and I'm completely fine with it. I've been here 8 months and know how hard it is.

Has your fiancé talked about doing a k1 visa at all or marrying you here and then bringing you to America??