How soon after my Fiance arrives in US, can she start working?

[Hank_ 9,174]

While I earn enough to take care of my Fiance and her child... it's not "ideal". I surpass the 125% of poverty line requirement. I make about $30,000/yr as an EMT... the biggest saving grace is that my house is completely paid off and I have no car payments and practically no debt.

The faster my Fiance can start working, the easier our lives will be by ... *A LOT*. She's actually an Engineer, has years of experience working for an American company overseas, speaks perfect English... I figure she will easily earn at least $50,000 to start. Coupled with my income, our household income would be *VERY* nice considering our house would be paid off. Her working is the difference between money being somewhat tight... and being moderately wealthy. So the question is, how quickly can she be eligible to work? I understand that filing for working privileges really only makes sense to do in conjunction with your AOS due to timing, fee costs, etc. So that basically means, we should be able to file our AOS as soon as we get married? How soon would she be able to work? What is the latest expected we'd have to wait.

My Fiance is coming from the Philippines if it makes any difference.

Once you are married and have certified copies of your marriage certificates (we took the original down to the county (lived in Tucson at the time) and got certified copies within a couple hours), you can then file the I-485 for Adjustment of status. You can also file the I-131(emergency travel) and I-765 EAD (work permit) for FREE when filing the I-485. You will get the EAD work authorization about 2-4 months after filing. If there are no issues you will get the green card 4-8 months after filing.

Potentially your wife could be working in two months after filing.

https://www.uscis.gov/i-485

How quickly can she get her SS #?

About a week after arriving in the USA head down to SSA with the form S-5, passport, copy of the I-94 to get her SSN. The card should arrive in the mail a couple weeks after.

Edited June 1, 2016 by Hank_

[JFox762 18]

This topic can be closed.

It seems like our relationship has fallen apart. My Fiance and me, had an argument, there was a miscommunication somewhere... and she just on impulse decided to break up with me. She said "I don't want to talk to you anymore". I asked her if she is breaking up with me... and she didn't reply. I've tried calling her, tried emailing her... no replies.

It seems like this whole thing is now a moot point. What sucks is that our I-129f was *JUST* approved the other day. I am so incredibly heart broken right now... I've invested so much money and time into this relationship... and now it's all over. I stayed true to her and everything. I went all this time without the comfort of female affection, sex, or in person interaction... on the idea that someday I would be with her. It was all a waste.



Honestly, I wonder if maybe the entire time, she just wanted a Visa out of me and nothing more.

Edited June 1, 2016 by JFox762

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Sorry to hear that but maybe you will both patch it up, give it some time and don't make a rash decision, it just happened today.
A miscommunication shouldn't be the cause of a break up but should be talked through.

[notusinganymore 31]

I would say Filipinas are very emotional. To some extent it can be overreacting. I don't want to generalize but that's what I mostly see. Filipinos be it a man or a woman are sensitive. At least you know now that eventually this person is going to be like this. It's a hassle to deal with this attitude but if you want the relationship then fight for it. If you don't want to deal with it and will have no regrets then don't do anything. Communication is the hardest and most important thing for long distance relationships.

[JFox762 18]

You know... the thing that sucks is that I really don't want to go back into the single's world and go try dating in America again. I gave up on American women. I'm not trying to about American women being awful or anything like that.... but something about the Demographics, or culture, something I have no idea why.... it just seems like women have the pick of the litter in America. They have a ridiculous upper hand it seems. I message hundreds of women, and not a single one will message me back. I'm not some unemployed oaf. I have a decent job, house paid off, finances are pretty good.

Before I met my fiance, I was constantly striking out... even with women who weighed more than I did, and who were on the same socio-economic status and everything. It just felt like they all had better options than me... and at the time, I was obese... but I did have a decent job, a house that is paid off... and other things going for me.

Now I can say with some pride, that I've lost a lot of weight (240lbs to 185)... and am no longer obese. Just a bit overweight. I've gotten tons of compliments for it. I also no longer look at the mirror in disgust... but actually look at it and go "Damn, that guy's a stud... oh wait, that's me!" So I do have that to add to things now going for me. The question is, is that enough?

I thought I finally found someone who cared about me, and wanted me for me... and accepted me flaws and all. And honestly... she was gorgeous.
She was about the same age as me (one year younger), and her having an Engineering degree and being more educated... that sort of made me think the chance of her just farming me out for a Visa was very low. I thought the warning signs just weren't there. But now I have no idea what to think.

I really don't want to go back into that cold, dark, horrible prospect of endless worthless dates where I basically get the privilege to spend $50 on a meal for a woman who will never acknowledge my existence after the conclusion of the date.

I remember many years ago, thinking about all the filipinas that would gravitate towards me in chat rooms... and figured "Well sure are friendly, and forward. If I ever get totally discouraged... I can just try a long distance thing with a filipina. What the heck, right?" That is exactly what I did... Now that I feel I may have been betrayed... I'm not sure I can trust a filipina again. I know that is cruel, because when I was there... they seemed so lovable and admirable in so many ways.

The thing that sucks is... after having been with her... and after having been to the philippines.. I honestly wonder if now I can only find filipinas attractive. I absolutely fell in love with the culture and the people there.

Maybe I'm just panicking...

[Merrytooth 5,748]

You know... the thing that sucks is that I really don't want to go back into the single's world and go try dating in America again. I gave up on American women. I'm not trying to ###### about American women being awful or anything like that.... but something about the Demographics, or culture, something I have no idea why.... it just seems like women have the pick of the litter in America. They have a ridiculous upper hand it seems. I message hundreds of women, and not a single one will message me back. I'm not some unemployed oaf. I have a decent job, house paid off, finances are pretty good.

Before I met my fiance, I was constantly striking out... even with women who weighed more than I did, and who were on the same socio-economic status and everything. It just felt like they all had better options than me... and at the time, I was obese... but I did have a decent job, a house that is paid off... and other things going for me.

Now I can say with some pride, that I've lost a lot of weight (240lbs to 185)... and am no longer obese. Just a bit overweight. I've gotten tons of compliments for it. I also no longer look at the mirror in disgust... but actually look at it and go "Damn, that guy's a stud... oh wait, that's me!" So I do have that to add to things now going for me. The question is, is that enough?

I thought I finally found someone who cared about me, and wanted me for me... and accepted me flaws and all. And honestly... she was gorgeous.

She was about the same age as me (one year younger), and her having an Engineering degree and being more educated... that sort of made me think the chance of her just farming me out for a Visa was very low. I thought the warning signs just weren't there. But now I have no idea what to think.

I really don't want to go back into that cold, dark, horrible prospect of endless worthless dates where I basically get the privilege to spend $50 on a meal for a woman who will never acknowledge my existence after the conclusion of the date.

I remember many years ago, thinking about all the filipinas that would gravitate towards me in chat rooms... and figured "Well sure are friendly, and forward. If I ever get totally discouraged... I can just try a long distance thing with a filipina. What the heck, right?" That is exactly what I did... Now that I feel I may have been betrayed... I'm not sure I can trust a filipina again. I know that is cruel, because when I was there... they seemed so lovable and admirable in so many ways.

The thing that sucks is... after having been with her... and after having been to the philippines.. I honestly wonder if now I can only find filipinas attractive. I absolutely fell in love with the culture and the people there.

Maybe I'm just panicking...

You just not meeting the right woman (local or foreign) for you yet.

Try meetup.com to meet like-minded people for activities to widen your social circle.

Perhaps love will appear when you are not that desperate seeking for it.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

Once your fiance is in the country get her SSN before you two get married, it is very simple to get it changed once y'all get married. If you file for AP with your AOS it will be a good 3-6 months before she can start working legally.

[notusinganymore 31]

You know... the thing that sucks is that I really don't want to go back into the single's world and go try dating in America again. I gave up on American women. I'm not trying to ###### about American women being awful or anything like that.... but something about the Demographics, or culture, something I have no idea why.... it just seems like women have the pick of the litter in America. They have a ridiculous upper hand it seems. I message hundreds of women, and not a single one will message me back. I'm not some unemployed oaf. I have a decent job, house paid off, finances are pretty good.

Before I met my fiance, I was constantly striking out... even with women who weighed more than I did, and who were on the same socio-economic status and everything. It just felt like they all had better options than me... and at the time, I was obese... but I did have a decent job, a house that is paid off... and other things going for me.

Now I can say with some pride, that I've lost a lot of weight (240lbs to 185)... and am no longer obese. Just a bit overweight. I've gotten tons of compliments for it. I also no longer look at the mirror in disgust... but actually look at it and go "Damn, that guy's a stud... oh wait, that's me!" So I do have that to add to things now going for me. The question is, is that enough?

I thought I finally found someone who cared about me, and wanted me for me... and accepted me flaws and all. And honestly... she was gorgeous.

She was about the same age as me (one year younger), and her having an Engineering degree and being more educated... that sort of made me think the chance of her just farming me out for a Visa was very low. I thought the warning signs just weren't there. But now I have no idea what to think.

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I really don't want to go back into that cold, dark, horrible prospect of endless worthless dates where I basically get the privilege to spend $50 on a meal for a woman who will never acknowledge my existence after the conclusion of the date.

I remember many years ago, thinking about all the filipinas that would gravitate towards me in chat rooms... and figured "Well sure are friendly, and forward. If I ever get totally discouraged... I can just try a long distance thing with a filipina. What the heck, right?" That is exactly what I did... Now that I feel I may have been betrayed... I'm not sure I can trust a filipina again. I know that is cruel, because when I was there... they seemed so lovable and admirable in so many ways.

The thing that sucks is... after having been with her... and after having been to the philippines.. I honestly wonder if now I can only find filipinas attractive. I absolutely fell in love with the culture and the people there.

Maybe I'm just panicking...

I see what you're trying to say. I was the petitioned by my husband. My husband is Filipino by birth but is essentially an American in ways. He did get the chance to pick out some Filipino traits that he likes through his upbringing but like I said his thinking is American. He doesn't trust Filipinos though he admits they are very friendly. He feels awkward in parties because he is obese and even in family parties he saw how some Filipinos showed no boundaries with him and he disliked that. I'm 110lbs and he's in the 200s. When he first saw me I think he was around 170lbs. I'm a nurse and he used to be a Pharmacy technician and living with his parents until now. We live with the parents but are the ones paying the mortgage. Now he stays at home trading stocks and pretty much act as my driver. From what you're saying you are set with finances but not emotionally. You are proud of your accomplishments but aren't secured by them. Marriage is not something that you can be prepared for and measured by educational degree. It's not an assurance that people won't go after a visa even if they are highly educated.

You can be the most fit guy married to one of the smartest person in the world and yet will be divorced because some things are hard to fix. Old couples are nice to look at because either they tried to fix all their problems or they did not see one failed marriage as the end. We all have problems, insecurities, and doubts. How long you want to keep on fixing something is dependent on you. Fight for it if it's worth it. Miscommunication should not cause falling apart. That thing is fixable! Talk. Filipinas, by culture, like to be wooed. Some try to be hard to get. If she did not answer you right then who cares? It's better to keep quiet if you have nothing good to say. Some people keep quiet if they are unsure. If you still want to fix the relationship, contact her again, contact family members, or contact other friends. You may look desperate but isn't that what love is for? To keep you're other half be it in paper or words?

I'm not forcing you to go for her always but maybe have an open conversation regarding communication. That's if things are fixed. Whether you are in the same room or 7,000 miles apart. Your case is not isolated and you are entitled to be scared and afraid for visa scam but not everyone with your same stats and fears have ended to be in a pickle.

[LionessDeon 2,060]

Please read the AOS guide. It explains quite a bit at the bottom.

http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1k3aos

Should apply for SS# very soon after entry before marriage.

[SunflowerSweet 1,321]

Please read the AOS guide. It explains quite a bit at the bottom.

http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1k3aos

Should apply for SS# very soon after entry before marriage.

It seems that OP is no longer with the fiance, if you notice above in the thread he asked it to be closed..

Though to be fair "I don't want to talk to you anymore" and then silence when asked if you are breaking up doesn't sound like a for sure break up to me.

If it is, then my fiance and I are guilty of breaking up a few times ourselves..

[Tahoma 2,292]

What was the argument about?

[We Keep Receipts 9,238]

You know... the thing that sucks is that I really don't want to go back into the single's world and go try dating in America again. I gave up on American women. I'm not trying to ###### about American women being awful or anything like that.... but something about the Demographics, or culture, something I have no idea why.... it just seems like women have the pick of the litter in America. They have a ridiculous upper hand it seems. I message hundreds of women, and not a single one will message me back. I'm not some unemployed oaf. I have a decent job, house paid off, finances are pretty good.

Before I met my fiance, I was constantly striking out... even with women who weighed more than I did, and who were on the same socio-economic status and everything. It just felt like they all had better options than me... and at the time, I was obese... but I did have a decent job, a house that is paid off... and other things going for me.

Now I can say with some pride, that I've lost a lot of weight (240lbs to 185)... and am no longer obese. Just a bit overweight. I've gotten tons of compliments for it. I also no longer look at the mirror in disgust... but actually look at it and go "Damn, that guy's a stud... oh wait, that's me!" So I do have that to add to things now going for me. The question is, is that enough?

I thought I finally found someone who cared about me, and wanted me for me... and accepted me flaws and all. And honestly... she was gorgeous.

She was about the same age as me (one year younger), and her having an Engineering degree and being more educated... that sort of made me think the chance of her just farming me out for a Visa was very low. I thought the warning signs just weren't there. But now I have no idea what to think.

I really don't want to go back into that cold, dark, horrible prospect of endless worthless dates where I basically get the privilege to spend $50 on a meal for a woman who will never acknowledge my existence after the conclusion of the date.

I remember many years ago, thinking about all the filipinas that would gravitate towards me in chat rooms... and figured "Well sure are friendly, and forward. If I ever get totally discouraged... I can just try a long distance thing with a filipina. What the heck, right?" That is exactly what I did... Now that I feel I may have been betrayed... I'm not sure I can trust a filipina again. I know that is cruel, because when I was there... they seemed so lovable and admirable in so many ways.

The thing that sucks is... after having been with her... and after having been to the philippines.. I honestly wonder if now I can only find filipinas attractive. I absolutely fell in love with the culture and the people there.

Maybe I'm just panicking...

Just some pointers:

Women are women everywhere. Foreign and domestic. You need to find someone who has the same things in common and have like-minded endeavors with(Merrytooth's suggestion is on the money). Being a good person and having money isn't always a guarantee. How you see yourself might be different how others see you. It's like trying to get a job, just because the resume is good, doesn't mean you get the job. You have to interview for the part, show up dressed to impress, and sell yourself to the person interviewing you. Chemistry and other factors come into play; if she's not intrigued by you, guess what? You won't make the cut.

It's not about the weight or good looks, it's about what you are bringing to the table AND how well you get along with her. These things make all the difference. Don't shut out American women, nor start trying to date one race of women exclusively. Do some soul searching and make sure everything in your world is right. Because when you do that, a good woman will be drawn to you. Key word, good. One that deserves you and will love and cherish you just like you will her.

[chillin4me 15]

While I earn enough to take care of my Fiance and her child... it's not "ideal". I surpass the 125% of poverty line requirement. I make about $30,000/yr as an EMT... the biggest saving grace is that my house is completely paid off and I have no car payments and practically no debt.

The faster my Fiance can start working, the easier our lives will be by ... *A LOT*. She's actually an Engineer, has years of experience working for an American company overseas, speaks perfect English... I figure she will easily earn at least $50,000 to start. Coupled with my income, our household income would be *VERY* nice considering our house would be paid off. Her working is the difference between money being somewhat tight... and being moderately wealthy. So the question is, how quickly can she be eligible to work? I understand that filing for working privileges really only makes sense to do in conjunction with your AOS due to timing, fee costs, etc. So that basically means, we should be able to file our AOS as soon as we get married? How soon would she be able to work? What is the latest expected we'd have to wait.

My Fiance is coming from the Philippines if it makes any difference.

File Adjustment of Status after getting married. Include application for Employment Authorization Document, the payment will be as one if you include both in one application.. It's about 3 months after filing she can receive her employment card which allows her to work while waiting for the green card. And she needs SSN to work too.. She can apply for that before your wedding. because sometimes it's hard to get SSN after getting married since she came to the US as K1 visa and still single, they might require her a green card to get SSN if you do it after the wedding.

[xbritto 25]

While I earn enough to take care of my Fiance and her child... it's not "ideal". I surpass the 125% of poverty line requirement. I make about $30,000/yr as an EMT... the biggest saving grace is that my house is completely paid off and I have no car payments and practically no debt.

The faster my Fiance can start working, the easier our lives will be by ... *A LOT*. She's actually an Engineer, has years of experience working for an American company overseas, speaks perfect English... I figure she will easily earn at least $50,000 to start. Coupled with my income, our household income would be *VERY* nice considering our house would be paid off. Her working is the difference between money being somewhat tight... and being moderately wealthy. So the question is, how quickly can she be eligible to work? I understand that filing for working privileges really only makes sense to do in conjunction with your AOS due to timing, fee costs, etc. So that basically means, we should be able to file our AOS as soon as we get married? How soon would she be able to work? What is the latest expected we'd have to wait.

My Fiance is coming from the Philippines if it makes any difference.

My husband moved to the US at the end of August, we got married October 18, 2015. We submitted all AOS/Advanced Parole/Employment Authorization, beginning of December. He received his EAD/AP combo card to work on March 2nd, 2016. And had a job by the end of March.