i need some help!

[GutsyGirlTravel 0]

Hello. Good day! I have some concerns and I need a guide/ help. Me and my son came to the US (K1/K2) last May 31, 2015 and I get married to a US AMERICAN last July, 2015. My problem is this. After our married, my husband talked and tell me frankly that the reason he marry me is for sex only. Nothing more. So If I cannot give him the sexual desire that he wanted, he won't support me financially and me and my son won't received any single cents from him. We had sex but he is not satisfied and he demands more and more and he likes it like whole day everyday. I feel disappointed to him because I felt I'm just like a sex machine to him. And then many times I caught him going out and look for a hooker and he pay money for sex and he admit that to me also. I cannot do nothing when we are in the US that time, so he continue looking for a hooker. He doesn't support me financially when me and my son stayed there in US for 11 months.

That time, I don't have yet PERMANENT RESIDENT CARD and EAD so I won't able to work and support myself and my son. I just only received that 1 month before we go vacation in the Philippines.

Now we are here in the Philippines for a vacation. My husband talked to me that he doesn't care anymore If me and my son won't go back to US anymore. He plan going back to US next month just by himself only so me and my son will be left here in Philippines. In this case, what shall I do? What gonna happen to our status If me and my son won't go back to US? OUR PERMANENT RESIDENT CARD is valid until 03/07/18 and OUR EAD/ ADVANCE PAROLE is VALID UNTIL 11/11/16.

Please I need some help so I know what shall I do what step shall I need to do. Thanks in advance!

[Allison and James 9]

I dunno.

Realize the marriage is ​not what you both thought.

Another case of both parties involved not knowing each other enough?

[N and J 88]

Hello. Good day! I have some concerns and I need a guide/ help. Me and my son came to the US (K1/K2) last May 31, 2015 and I get married to a US AMERICAN last July, 2015. My problem is this. After our married, my husband talked and tell me frankly that the reason he marry me is for sex only. Nothing more. So If I cannot give him the sexual desire that he wanted, he won't support me financially and me and my son won't received any single cents from him. We had sex but he is not satisfied and he demands more and more and he likes it like whole day everyday. I feel disappointed to him because I felt I'm just like a sex machine to him. And then many times I caught him going out and look for a hooker and he pay money for sex and he admit that to me also. I cannot do nothing when we are in the US that time, so he continue looking for a hooker. He doesn't support me financially when me and my son stayed there in US for 11 months.

That time, I don't have yet PERMANENT RESIDENT CARD and EAD so I won't able to work and support myself and my son. I just only received that 1 month before we go vacation in the Philippines.

Now we are here in the Philippines for a vacation. My husband talked to me that he doesn't care anymore If me and my son won't go back to US anymore. He plan going back to US next month just by himself only so me and my son will be left here in Philippines. In this case, what shall I do? What gonna happen to our status If me and my son won't go back to US? OUR PERMANENT RESIDENT CARD is valid until 03/07/18 and OUR EAD/ ADVANCE PAROLE is VALID UNTIL 11/11/16.

Please I need some help so I know what shall I do what step shall I need to do. Thanks in advance!

If you can't work and support yourself and your son what are you planning on doing? Who do you plan on having support you?

If all you have in the US is yourself and your son....why wouldn't you want to stay in the Philipines?

You said he wants sex every day all day more and more....doesn't he work?

Why would you even entertain the thought of coming back to the US with someone like that...if that is how he is? Do you have family in the Philipines? If so divorce him and stay in your country.

[Allison and James 9]

That is the big question.
​Why do you want to return to the US?

​You have family, your son.........and knowledge of the fact that the marriage didn't work out.

[Boiler 45,486]

Divorce

[Meg&Andrew 297]

I don't think OP is asking what happens if she goes back to the US. I don't think she stated that she wanted to go back with him either, I believe she's asking what will happen if she doesn't go back to the US, as far as immigration status.

[Allison and James 9]

Not to be an ###, but does it matter?
​Her purpose was to be married. The marriage didn't work out.

If she can support herself, then great. But apparently it didn't, so she should look after her son and herself, and what is best for them.

[Boiler 45,486]

If they are not going back, as seems likely, they should surrender their GC's.

[Meg&Andrew 297]

Not to be an ###, but does it matter?

​Her purpose was to be married. The marriage didn't work out.

If she can support herself, then great. But apparently it didn't, so she should look after her son and herself, and what is best for them.

Apparently to her it does, she asked the question. Lol

[Allison and James 9]

LOL.
​ Just makes you wonder.

It isn't America, it's the marriage

[Ortolan 381]

OP: Get a divorce. Stay in the Philippines where you have friends and family and get back on your feet.

[NikLR 13,227]

Divorce in the Philippines is impossible. She can have the marriage annulled but she can't get divorced unless the USC starts the proceedings from the USA.

As for immigration status, you shpuld surrender the green card if you do not plan on living in the USA. Doing so can make it easier to get visitor visas occasionally.

[FxL 39]

These are the types of things that make me go crazy (as I'm still waiting for my husband) and these are far too common! People marry and then when they arrive in the States, they realize they don't like their spouse. Their most concern is about their green card than their marriage.

Take care of your son. I understand his opportunities in the Philippines are limited but if you raise him right you never know.

Edited May 18, 2016 by FxL

[Unlockable 7,314]

Best to have more info on how the OP wishes to move forward with her life. But I agree that continuing a life with that jerk is not health for her nor her son.

[MASH 172]

I recommend going back to the states and starting a new life with your son, as you now have your GC you can work and support yourself and make friends in the states, it might be hard but you can do it,

As for ur ROC you can do it without him once your divorced is settled and see if you can get a waiver

Since I hear it's hard to get to the states from your country it's best to keep your green card and then go back to the states as you will regret it down the line probably