im married to a crazy woman i need help

[nabil kazawi 0]

i have been married with my wife for 5 years now and i have 10 years green card and i have one problem is my wife i love her so much but she drive me crazy and the problems we have is

she is so jealous she dont trust me and i never cheat in my life the problem is i love to workout but its drive my wife crazy how girls dress at the gym and if a girl workout close to me she will come to me and tell me u need to change the spot i dont want y husband close to those bitches if i say that not good you not suppose to insult them they are free to wear what they want and she tell me you defend them because you like to look at them and i cant even watch tv how i want i cant watch shows have women wearing cloths show their body she come to my job to see who is working with me and she accuse me of me talking to the girls at my work and i said sometime because we work at the same job and she accuse me of cheating and we always fight i don't know what to do i hate this married i wish i never married this American woman i love her that why im so confused right now leave or stay im lost i need advices please

sorry i dont know where im suppose to write this but i really need help im getting crazy

Edited February 3, 2015 by nabil kazawi

[Ontarkie 14,218]

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What do you want?

Do you want your marriage to work? If so counseling would be the way to go.

If you are done with your marriage then file for divorce.

[nabil kazawi 0]

i did ask her to go counseling she did not want and i want my marriage work but i cant handle this anymore

[Boiler 45,467]

Could you find a men only gym?

[Ms Hogan 295]

Perhaps changing your gym is in order. If she is uncomfortable and jealous then if you care about her it would be helpful to work through it with her. Jealousy is very hard to deal with. But it sound like she is feeling insecure and would like some reassurance from you even though she isn't using those words.

[Lemonslice 4,835]

Could you find a men only gym?

Men-only filter for TV might be harder to find.

nabil kazawi - you could tell your wife that your limit has been reached - depending on her answer, you then need to find a counsellor or a lawyer. Good luck.

[Boiler 45,467]

Men-only filter for TV might be harder to find.

nabil kazawi - you could tell your wife that your limit has been reached - depending on her answer, you then need to find a counsellor or a lawyer. Good luck.

Cut out the iffy channels?

[Shauna&Wael 211]

I really think she doesn't trust you. Have you done anything in the past to make her not trust you anymore? Maybe someone cheated on her in the past. I think she is very worried another woman will take her place. You need to reassure her she has nothing to worry about. You need to talk to her when she is calm and ready to talk. I don't think she's ready for counseling right now. I hope things can get better for you guys.

[Lemonslice 4,835]

Cut out the iffy channels?

Hey, I've got a friend who's into weather ladies...

He said TV in general... I thought she was jealous of all girls on TV, clothed or not.

[Not a Tailor 1,370]

This sounds like really abusive, controlling behaviour. I mean, if a woman were posting here that her husband got mad at her for working out near a man at the gym, watching a show that had a man with his top off and daring to talk to male coworkers, we'd all be telling her run for the hills.

This sounds like domestic violence from a woman against a man. If she won't go to counselling, get out.

[nabil kazawi 0]

im not watching porn we only have normal channels i cant watch shows like dance with star or party down south or bachelor or big brother i just like reality show i cant help it i watch shipping war storage war too and we did change the gym the same think its only because girls check me out a lot at gym and my wife she don't like it and she start insulting them and put her anger on me im tall and athletech and brown so its normal for a girls to look at me but i dont pay attention when im working out im not going to lie i do look sometime but its normal im a guy but i will never cheat and her but her ex husband did cheat on her but its not my fault

[wbeem 568]

It sounds to me more like she has self confidence issues. Jealous behavior usually has more to do with the jealous person's own low self esteem than anything to do with the other person. Counseling has its place, but don't miss the first step of talking to each other. Try find out what it is that is making her feel so uncomfortable - I mean the real reason, not the symptoms. Always remember thought, working through issues like this take time. It's a process, not an event. I sincerely wish you all the best.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

You are married to a control freak/abuser, insulting other women in the gym is despicable to say the least,displaying jealousy on your workplace is unacceptable.Her behavior fall into the category of mental abuse.Life is too short to be unhappy.She does not respect you,but respect yourself enough to walk away.

[LoveMyTico 999]

im not watching porn we only have normal channels i cant watch shows like dance with star or party down south or bachelor or big brother i just like reality show i cant help it i watch shipping war storage war too and we did change the gym the same think its only because girls check me out a lot at gym and my wife she don't like it and she start insulting them and put her anger on me im tall and athletech and brown so its normal for a girls to look at me but i dont pay attention when im working out im not going to lie i do look sometime but its normal im a guy but i will never cheat and her but her ex husband did cheat on her but its not my fault

if you really love her, maybe investing in some workout machines for your home might be an option. As far as watching TV, jeez..... Sounds like you need to spend some time with her and reassure her. I hope she doesn't expect you to wear blinders and only associate with men...

[sweetgal8 4]

counseling.

He loves her, at least try and make things work,.