USC husband changes his mind

[mas85 0]

I am almost on my final step on this visa journey. My interview is next month already and now my husband changes his mind and doesn't want me and our 1 year old son to go to the US because of a very shallow reason. My question is.. Is my case hopeless? does really my visa depend on my husband's decision? The original paperworks is still with him and he is supposed to give me those when he comes back in th philippines this march. What should I do now? I really want to go the US to meet his family because it is so unfair on my part that he can go here anytime he wants but Me and our son doesn't have that priviledge. anyone advise?

[Jamie & Izzy 98]

He changed his mind,and you want to meet his Family? not to be rude but sounds bit strange :S

[lost_at_sea 995]

If your husband no longer supports your visa, then you can't do much about it. You should be talking to him. When is your interview? I assume it is after March, as you were relying on his visit.

[NikLR 13,227]

According to your timeline you have p4 which is the interview date. Anything sent to the NVC will go to the embassy so I'm unsure what you need from your husband. However, I do think you guys need to have some serious conversations about why he doesn't want his family with him in the USA. You don't sound like this is an okay decision with you, so stand up for yourself.

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

That's a strange decision for him to make :-(

You are not going to be able to do anything about it except talk to him and try to get him to change his mind. If he doesn't want you to live in the US with him then what does he want?

[JFH 12,190]

He doesn't want his child to be able to live with him? I can understand that he may no longer want you in his life. I don't mean that In nasty way but we all know couples break up all the time. But his child? If this is his attitude towards his child, do you see a future with him anyway? Is he the kind of man you want?

[NikLR 13,227]

NM misread...

Edited January 19, 2014 by NLR

[poolbruce 22]

sounds like he just wants to use you as mistress, not a partner

[Ketsuban 1,034]

This man seemingly wants nothing to do with his own child. I know a couple of kids here in the UK whose dad also wants nothing to do with them, and it has caused them all sorts of emotional damage, since they grew up with him for a few years to begin with, then... he just left, stopped all contact and refused to even acknowledge them. It's really sad.

OP, if I were you, I would have nothing further to do with this person who does not acknowledge his own child and find someone else in the world who will step up to the plate and be a man for both of you. You and your son deserve MUCH better than this flakey has-been.

[Darnell 8,478]

since you had a case complete at NVC on 2013-12-27

these 'original documents ' you speak of were :

1. already submitted to NVC and

2. NVC put them in the casefile and

3. That casefile is either IN Manila IV already or headed that way.

So, this concept of 'original documents in his hand', I suggest to you, is a fallacy. Perhaps he's lying to you about this, to use as leverage against you.

But that's really a side issue. If he doesn't want you and his child, that's on you and him to work out. IMO, you could get the medical done, go to the interview , get the Phils interview thingie, all without his intervention.

Then what?

[Darnell 8,478]

slowlyman - great advice for a K-1, but the OP is chasing a CR-1/IR-1 visa, so 'what to do in USA' is totally different than a K-1 visa chaser/holder.

[slowlyman 118]

Oops my bad. Saw K-1 for some reason. Disregard, Carry on.

[SteveKarlaMayer 21]

I'm so sorry that your relationship is on a bumpy road right now. But what you should really do for your own good and your child's good is to stay in the Philippines. This petitioner seems so irresponsible to do that to you and HIS child. Imagine a future with him. Lets say he change his mind and would allow you and the child to come over in the USA and then a month or so you will have a misunderstanding with you and then he would do the same crazy BS. You will be left behind with nothing.

Edited January 19, 2014 by MrsMayer

[BlovesD 14]

whats his 'shallow reason?'

[justojai 53]

Sort everything out with him if you have to live with him in the US. You don't want to start another thread here.