Fradulent husband married for a visa

[taal 28]

I hope I posted this question in the right place...

Fraudulent marriage, Husband admitted he's using me for a green card....What to do?

Journey Time Table below:

July 2010 went to India for a month, got engaged

September 2010 filed fiancé visa.

July 2011 fiancé visa interview in India= denied visa

March-July 2nd, 2012 flew to India to get married.

April 2012 petitioned visa marriage CR-1

December 20th 2012 interview Delhi embassy( flew there for joint interview)=approved visa

January 2013 flew back with my husband to the states

Feb 22, 2013 received ssn and welcome packet

In March 2013 started having problems on our one year anniversary. Finally became daily, figured it was just hard to adjust to a new country then finally he admitted his intent was just to obtain his visa, and divorce me. In India he was sure to always take me places and take plenty of pictures, worked well at the embassy. (The embassy stated themselves they would have denied the visa if it wasn't for me attending. The officer only asked me questions did not once ask my husband a thing.) However, here not one picture or place has been visited. Instead he prefers to go with his friends, or my family that we live with. He is a truck driver and refuses to make a joint bank account, and refuses me to have access to it. I have worked and attended school for 5 months to make sure he is comfortable and does not have to worry about a thing.

He wants to divorce me and go back to India and marry a girl he knows and have her come here like he planned for so long. (How can a person be so manipulative and continue this fraudulent scam for 3 years? Okay I spent maybe 9 months with him in the last 3 years.

I have no proof of what he's doing, he's very clever and makes sure he does not text or say anything that will incriminate him. He even makes sure that when he tells me about the divorce he is in a place that I would not have a recorder, video camera, or phone. He told me while we were about to sleep the first time, then told me while I was cooking, and then finally told me while I was shopping at the grocery store. Whenever I brought up the topic he refused he ever stated it. I unfortunately do not have the support of my family, they think am lying or not trying hard enough. I have, tried more than any person can or would, I did not purchase a thing for my self, made sure he had everything even a 600 dollar phone, cut my internet on my phone so that would save me 25 dollars a month on my cell phone. Refuse the help financially from my parents, I'm grown, and make sure to pay them 500 dollars to help out. Usually buy the groceries each month. I have been Working full time and attending school full time, make sure to cook and clean without having him help. Have not gotten the opportunity to go out some where nice, because I am trying my best to obtain my financial aid back from school being gone so long, and no longer put my education 2nd.

As soon as he started earning money past couple months, I was not allowed to touch a penny, instead he wants to send it to India, and spend it on himself, this issue upsets me because I want to move out and have enough in savings so I can stop working, and double up my load for school finish faster. So I blow up every time he says he's sending money there. I was told I would not have to worry about a thing, in terms of him sending money home, his parents were well taken care of. I was lied he borrowed money and has to pay the collectors back. Lastly, he has no interest in spending time with me other than "intimate" time. He does not want to be by my side for a minute. In front of my parents or family he'll pretend like things are great. I explained this to my family numerous times and yet they think I should try harder......I dislike being an Indian girl, its not fair at times.......I have thought over and over how can I make this man pay for the illegal actions he has in mind. I wish that citizens were taken care of and there were stricter laws to make sure that marriages weren't scams... What can I do?

[Darnell 8,478]

as a recent green card holder,

if you divorce him now,

he really doesn't have any fast path to bring in the next wife.

you could write up letters of attestation about what's going on, and submit them to the IV Unit somewhere in India, so at least what you're purporting happened to you would get into the next casefile - but that's some time down the road of HIS next venture..

I dunno, I suggest you simply divorce him and make certain his name is on nothing that shows any 'joint co-mingling' - utility bills, bank accounts, etc. i also suggest you move this week, and find some room mate situation with some classmate for the fall term.

If you are renting somewhere, don't pay the August bill. If you are living with your parents, don't tell them where you are going. Change your cell # asap, as well.

File for divorce on Monday - you can prep the documents and file it yourself.

I'm a bit unfocused for time and timing, at the moment, so the best advice I can give you is - PLAN and them IMPLEMENT.

You can't get his green card revoked, at the moment, but you can certainly make things difficult for him down the road, if you choose that path.

[taal 28]

I know in January we could have gotten his temporary green card conditions removed. 3 months before your 2 year anniversary, that is supposed to be signed and submitted from me. At first he told me he would just pay me for the years I wasted. I asked him how much I was worth = 20k is the answer I got. It upset me and hurt me. I never went in to this marriage as a financial venture. It was real deal for me, it just hurts knowing what this outcome has led me to.. Very depressing. My parents told me divorce would be the biggest embarrassment I could bring them....Hurts....

[AA100 19]

Hi

I can't really suggest anything. There are people on VJ more educated like Darnell and Dwheels immigration wise than myself. Just wanted to say shame on those people who misuse others for their own benefit.

[taal 28]

I appreciate that. As I look back, I recall going crazy being on visa journey trying to get my husband here faster and staying up all night figuring out the forms. Just saddens me, thinking why me?

[TBoneTX 45,522]

Avoid beating yourself up. Sometimes, we simply get snookered.

[catknit 144]

Taal - so sorry to hear this - my heart goes out to you!

Has he removed conditions at this point? Sort of insignificant but it would lend some clarity as to where you are with this...

I would follow Darnell's advice. Please get a letter into the IV unit at the US embassy [Mumbai or Delhi] - unfortunately this story is all too common.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

Read this post:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/439326-reporting-fraud-to-uscis/

Time to stand up for yourself, remove yourself from the bad situation.

If your family doesn't support/understand you, find someone like your close friends, schoolmates to lean on.

Divorce is not the biggest embarrassment. You have every right to be happy.

[MedRoni 161]

If I read this right.. and your husband just got here in 2013 he is not due to remove his conditions any time soon. It is done within 90days prior to his 2 year card expiration, not 2 years of marriage. So not until near the end of 2014.

Do like suggested and leave, do not leave him with any comingling proof. Divorce him and he will then be forced to do his ROC... alone snd with no proof of a real marriage here. It will be tough on him at best to get this approved. No approval means no legal status and no way to bring over someone else.

[InHisTime 110]

Sorry for what you are going through. I do agree with Darnell suggestions and other posters as well. I know how it hurts you....and yeah embarrassing, but now is the time for you to love yourself, move on as life is too short to deal with liars and impostors. Let him handle his immigration stuff....take care of yourself and be happy, you will be fine for sure and God bless.

[Dan and Judy 614]

I know in January we could have gotten his temporary green card conditions removed. 3 months before your 2 year anniversary, that is supposed to be signed and submitted from me. At first he told me he would just pay me for the years I wasted. I asked him how much I was worth = 20k is the answer I got. It upset me and hurt me. I never went in to this marriage as a financial venture. It was real deal for me, it just hurts knowing what this outcome has led me to.. Very depressing. My parents told me divorce would be the biggest embarrassment I could bring them....Hurts....

Sounds like the divorce is coming whether you like it or not. You are not saving your parents any embarrassment by waiting for him to divorce you. I believe taking money from him as mentioned would implicate you in fraud. Do not sign any papers to remove green card conditions. Tell the immigration authorities what you told us.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

Yes, please divorce him first. You will hold the power when you are the one starting the process. Don't let him screw you over any more by letting him file first.

Also, please please report him for fraud. Do it factually, unemotionally, and without his knowledge.

[lonelywithouthim1 36]

I'm so sorry to hear this but most of all I'm sorry you don't have your family's support. If he has said there is someone else he wants to bring, you should take the suggestions you received here ASAP. It doesn't matter if your family believe you or not, it only matter what he is telling you and how he is making you feel. Marriage is hard but even harder when you have a husband that can be so cruel by saying one thing to you and playing the good guy around your family. Good Luck to you.

[Cathi 5,771]

I know in January we could have gotten his temporary green card conditions removed. 3 months before your 2 year anniversary, that is supposed to be signed and submitted from me. At first he told me he would just pay me for the years I wasted. I asked him how much I was worth = 20k is the answer I got. It upset me and hurt me. I never went in to this marriage as a financial venture. It was real deal for me, it just hurts knowing what this outcome has led me to.. Very depressing. My parents told me divorce would be the biggest embarrassment I could bring them....Hurts....

No, you apply for removal of conditions is 2 years, less 90 days, after he enters the US, NOT 2 years after the marriage took place. Make an info pass appointment without his knowledge and report him. Tell them what you told us, but without emotion, and bring any proof if you have it. Divorce him and do not take any money from him or you will be a party to fraud. Best of luck.

[Brian & Sil 1]

I am sorry for what you are going through, but you are also responsible and should take responsibility for what happened. Once done, report it as fraud;

Do not suffer anymore and move on!