How many of you have wedding plans before your fiance gets here.

[Turbo SS 6]

I guess this wouldnt really apply to people with Fiances in countries like Canada or the UK where its much easier for their fiance to get tourist visas and get to see the US before the commitment.

I am curious because I have seen so many threads with people talking about all this wedding planning and being worried about the date because approval process for a K1 is so slow. So I am mostly talking about people with fiances that have not been to the US yet.

To me it seems a little crazy. Before anyone jumps in and questions my commitment, yes I know we are right for each other and all that. However, I still have it in the back of my head what if she absolutely hates the US. If I planned a wedding all that money would go to waste.

So I am wondering if these people considered their fiance may hate living here and want to go home. I guess its ok if you want to pack up and move back to their country with them. Or maybe after living together for a few months you guys start to hate each other?

For us we plan to do just a simple courthouse wedding near the 90 day waiting period. That way if she absolutely cant stand it and has to walk away we at least saved some money and trouble for people who would fly in to Tulsa for the wedding. Then we plan to take time and have a real wedding like a year after.

Anyway, just curious.

[* Kristin * 49]

I worry about that sometimes, actually, and my fiance is British. (He has only visited the US once... long story short, it took him 3 years of the 4 years of our relationship for him to get a passport. But do note we did live together in the UK for 3 years).

Visiting the US is one thing, but actually starting over and starting from scratch is probably pretty daunting - no matter where you are from. I worry that sometimes, he thinks it's going to be 'great' here and what if it's not? We do realise that it's going to be very difficult in the beginning (e.g. him not being able to work straight away, AOS process = more paperwork!), but know that deep down - for us - the quality of life is better here. We can actually afford things here, whereas in the UK we were skint the whole time (and we both have decent jobs).... and as corny as it may sound, the sunshine in California really does make everything slightly better.

I just know that us being together again will be great and worth it

I guess this wouldnt really apply to people with Fiances in countries like Canada or the UK where its much easier for their fiance to get tourist visas and get to see the US before the commitment.

I am curious because I have seen so many threads with people talking about all this wedding planning and being worried about the date because approval process for a K1 is so slow. So I am mostly talking about people with fiances that have not been to the US yet.

To me it seems a little crazy. Before anyone jumps in and questions my commitment, yes I know we are right for each other and all that. However, I still have it in the back of my head what if she absolutely hates the US. If I planned a wedding all that money would go to waste.

So I am wondering if these people considered their fiance may hate living here and want to go home. I guess its ok if you want to pack up and move back to their country with them. Or maybe after living together for a few months you guys start to hate each other?

For us we plan to do just a simple courthouse wedding near the 90 day waiting period. That way if she absolutely cant stand it and has to walk away we at least saved some money and trouble for people who would fly in to Tulsa for the wedding. Then we plan to take time and have a real wedding like a year after.

Anyway, just curious.

[TBoneTX 44,671]

we plan to do just a simple courthouse wedding near the 90 day waiting period. Then we plan to take time and have a real wedding like a year after.

This exactly, si man.

[luckytxn 2,264]

Pretty much the courthouse wedding and the huge wedding later here for us. We actually would have had the big wedding right away when she got here but the Catholic church likes to make people wait and get counseling and other stuff beofre they allow wedding since she is Catholic and I was Methodist.

[danik713 21]

We do not have any extravagant plans - we will do a small civil ceremony with immediate family. His family is willing and interested in traveling, but we want to be together as soon as possible and it's too risky to plan a wedding with how processing times are fluctuating. Perhaps we will have a traditional ceremony later or a celebration/reception with everyone.

My fiance had spent 5 years in the US before returning to his home country almsot 2 years ago. We actually met here - so we are the more stereotpical couple although even when in the states we were hundreds of miles apart, so the distance and waiting is not new, but it is always painful. Fortunately we don't have to worry about adjusting and whether he will like it or not.