We filed for the K-1 Visa, BUT.....

[schmoopy 0]

I don't want to marry this guy. I can't trust him. I think he is using me. I already sent in all of the K-1 Visa package. I'm not sure, but I don't think it was approved yet. What if he is using me? We have been through hell lately. Manipulation and deceitfulness are included. He has been using vulnerable women in various countries to go and visit. I think he may have a mental problem. Can I cancel the K-1 Visa if it isn't approved yet?

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Wait util you recv the NOA1 and send a letter cancelling it using the A# assigned to the NOA1.

[payxibka 10,045]

send a letter to the USCIS withdrawing your petition.....

[sachinky 465]

Absolutely. Pull the plug now.

Once you receive the NOA1, attach it to a notarized statement withdrawing your petition and outline your concerns in that letter. This way he might get flagged if he tries to use another American woman.

[schmoopy 0]

Thanks guys!!! I have to do something before I am forced into marriage!

[payxibka 10,045]

Thanks guys!!! I have to do something before I am forced into marriage!

You are never FORCED into doing something you do not want to do.... Even if you cannot get it stopped at the USCIS, you can stop it at the consulate before the visa is ever issued.... Even if the visa was somehow issued you NEVER have to say I DO unless you want to

Edited May 30, 2010 by payxibka

[schmoopy 0]

Thanks Payxibka! PHEWW.What a relief! I thought I was stuck in marriage if they approved the K-1. PHEWW. THANKS!! Yes..I was used to say the least!

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I don't want to marry this guy. I can't trust him. I think he is using me. I already sent in all of the K-1 Visa package. I'm not sure, but I don't think it was approved yet. What if he is using me? We have been through hell lately. Manipulation and deceitfulness are included. He has been using vulnerable women in various countries to go and visit. I think he may have a mental problem. Can I cancel the K-1 Visa if it isn't approved yet?

Sure. You can send a letter to the service center (certified) stating you withdraw the petition. wait until you have the case number (NOA1) That way you do not get an approved petition "on the record" and there is nothing to explain in the future.

If the petition gets approved, you can cimply send a letter to the consulate and withdraw the petition, not send an affidavot of support and the visa will not be issued. Even if it is issued, he cannot do anything without marrying you. You hold all the cards. He is from Belgium, it is a visa waiver country, he can come to the US any time he wants, he doesn't need a visa to visit. Only to marry AND adjust status (he doesn't even need a visa just to get married to anyone)

[SuperDuper! 230]

Yes, send a one page letter to the USCIS, and cc it to the NVC and withdraw your petition and I-864 affidavit of support.

ps, you don't need to notarize such a letter, but many uninformed persons will recommend it, so consider the source.

Kudos to you to seeing a scam unfold right B4 your eyes. Take action now to protect yourself, then move on to find true love.

[TBoneTX 45,522]

It can't hurt in any way to notarize the letter. That way, USCIS will know that you are actually the writer of the letter. Notarization isn't mandatory, but it's an extra touch that adds an air of authority. Your bank may have a notary who will do it for you at no charge.

[bimik 4]

Don't worry even if K 1 is issued you don't have to marry him ! In any case, he will still need information from you at the interview such as Aff. of Support but you can surely cancel K 1 before that. Good luck to you

[payxibka 10,045]

The OP is a K-1 petitioner whose petition is still at the USCIS....But many uniformed persons will think there is an I-864 that needs to be withdrawn, but we will consider the source..

[pushbrk 12,975]

Yes, send a one page letter to the USCIS, and cc it to the NVC and withdraw your petition and I-864 affidavit of support.

ps, you don't need to notarize such a letter, but many uninformed persons will recommend it, so consider the source.

Kudos to you to seeing a scam unfold right B4 your eyes. Take action now to protect yourself, then move on to find true love.

Notarizing is a good idea, not a requirement for such a letter. However there is no I-864 to withdraw in a case still at a USCIS service center. The above "source" either didn't read your post carefully or is simply uninformed.

See how pissy begets pissy?

[john & jean 37]

LMAO @ BEGETS, and a plus one for you!!!

[HeatDeath 430]

In addition to the good plan of pulling the plug on the I-129F now using a notarized letter to USCIS, you would have many additional opportunities to pull the plug on this:

Even if your I-129F had already been approved, refusing to provide an I-134, and/or an updated letter of intent to marry, and/or [though this is less reliable if done alone] evidence of a ongoing relationship for his consulate interview would effectively prevent him from being issued a visa and would pull the plug at that stage.

Even if he had already been issued the visa, refusing to sign the marriage certificate or say "I do" would make it impossible for him to adjust status.

Even if you were already married, refusing to fill out or provide any documentation for an I-864 would make it very difficult for him to adjust status, though this is not quite as reliable a plug-puller as the other options.

It becomes much more difficult to stop this once he has married you and successfully adjusted status and received a conditional green card. Divorcing him at that point would probably not prevent him from removing conditions. But right up to that point his status is utterly dependent on your continued cooperation, and you have all the power here.

But I agree with the others, best to pull the plug as early as possible if that's what you need to do.