Enigma11561

You were never arrested. Period. End of conversation. And half of America has anxiety and depression. I do not think they even check medical records. Relax, you are good to go.

I cannot speal for your state but here in New York there is a "fair and equal" distribution of assets. If items such as a house or cars were purchased during the marriage you have a right to them in some fashion. Many people will sell the home, split the equity and the wife now goes on to something smaller that she can afford on her salary. Sometimes there will be alimony for the wife. The $1,500 for the kids seems reasonable. However, there could be terms where he needs to contribute to some type of educational trust for a higher education. Also, make sure your attorney makes him take out both disability and life insurance where you are the beneficiary. In the event something happens to him, you are assured of some lump sum income to cover expenses. Regardless of the reasons given, you are just one of many millions of couples who get divorced each year. It happens.

I have to agree with some of the other posters here. There is a HUGE elephant in this room. He knew a woman for 2 years. He married her ( love or otherwise). Now ONLY 5 months later he is in love with you? Within 5 months of marriage he has already cheated on his wife? Missy, you really need to think about this very seriously. The implications here here are far reaching on many different levels. Even considering the immigration/divorce issues, you have only known him for a few months and you want to get involved in all this? If he is not happy where he is,for whatever reason, let him deal with his issues first, and then once he is "free", however long that takes, THEN start again. If you are truly his soul mate, and it is meant to be, a time out should not stop you from being with him in the end. Do not be the reason his marriage failed.

Note: how many people here have been separated for many months, years even, during the immigration process but still wind up together.

In the U.S. a Christian ceremony ( Catholic or otherwise) IS A LEGAL CEREMONY. The minister ( priest or otherwise) has the power to pronounce you man and wife. YOu sign papers in the church. I cannot speak for other countries, but you need to be very careful here. Don't screw up something you waited so long for just because mama "needs" or "wants" to see her baby in a white dress. Or your fiancee just has to have a ceremony over there. You should have discussed this a long time ago.

Been awhile but I believe you cannot use your phone until after you leave immigration, and picked up your bags. They do not have a phone for you to use. I cannot say if your phone would have service in the US, but if it works then OK. It would be easier if your husband justed waited ( and waited and waited..sorry this can take a bit of time) just outside the immigration area, like everyone else. There is usually a crowd of people waiting for ttheir loved ones. When you get off the plane, just follow the crowd, stand in line for non citizens, present your paperwork, usually take an electronic fingerprint, and then get your bags. If everything is in order its not difficult at all. Depending on how many planes land at the same time, it can take 1-2-3 hours or so.

As some others have stated, do please very careful about sending money to a person whom you have never met. 98% of the time this had a tendency of going south, way south. And when they insist on two more tickets for chaperones, sorry, but the hair on the back of my neck goes straight out.

Technically she came here as a K2? Also, babies born here can get a SS almost after birth so I do not understand what you mean by "too young".

Ok. You win. You have given good advise here. No need to argue over $10.

How exactly is it a "gift" when $10 is exchanged for shoveling snow? It doesn't matter what you call it. To the rest of us, it sure looks like she paid $10 for someone to work to clear her driveway.

Aaron really. We can go back and forth on this all day. But...Do you think the government is going to give this person a hard time for something as insignificant as this? The OP just wants to make sure he does not do anything to screw up his process. I am not suggesting anything "illegal" such as working as a waiter for cash tips or something like that.

The true definition of work is anything that requires physical exertion. Doing dishes or cleaning your room could be considered "work". However I seriously doubt that washing your car would create problems with the government. For the purpose of "working" before you get your EAD, I would think money exchanging hands should be considered a no-no. Having said that if you went and shoveled the snow off the walk of a little old lady next door and she gave you $10, ( as a gift )I would not worry about it.

Direct question to you. what do you mean by "relationship"?

If he has said that he loves you, you are the only woman in the world for him, and he cannot wait to be with you and waits for the day when you are married and have a family, that is one kind of relationship. We are talking ready to file visa paperwork here.

On the other hand, if this relationship is we talk all the time, met once or twice, really like each other and seeing if we can take it to the next (I love you) stage then that is different again.

If it is the second, then I suggest you have no right to put demands on him to be faithful only to you. Why? He is still "free" to date whom he wants and hence no cheating. You are not yet a "couple". You live here, he lives there, and you both have lives to live. There is no solid commitment.

But if it the first type of relationship, then you need to trust your gut. confront him. see how he responds. You cannot depend on what a third party tells you. You are in a bit of a paranoid stage now and it's possible that this could continue through marriage. Do you want to live this way? Trust is very hard to develop sometimes. It must be earned. He has not yet earned your trust. And finally,, what does he need to do to earn that trust. think about that. What will satisfy you?

You CAN go to Canada if you have your AP.

I will defer to Canadians who may know better but this if from the Canadian Visa website.

United States citizens and permanent residents: You do not need a visa to visit or transit in Canada if you are a United States citizen or a person lawfully admitted to the United States for permanent residence who is in possession of their alien registration card (Green card) or can provide other evidence of permanent residence.

What your saying is that with AP and some other proof of residence you can safely travel to Canada?

You cannot go to Canada until you get your GC. That is my understanding. I am not sure about the AP being valid for this.Just wait a bit, do the right thing by applying for the AOS and get enjoy your new wife here before going out someplace in Europe.

This site is NOT NOT a marriage broker. It is a dating/chat site. As Gary said they put in the IMBRA stuff just to cover their butts.I would not open a can of worms by saying you met thru a marriage broker..because you did not. You simply met online at a chat site as thousands of us have done. Geez. how else do you meet some one from 5,000 miles away unless you just happen to work internationally or were on vacation someplace. If you want really specific info about this site go here. www.russianwomendiscussion.com

Sorry but there are no hopeless romantics there. You need to play within the rules and just try to work it out as best as you can.

Plain and simple. Me thinks you just filed the wrong form. Put on the glasses and check the form number at the top and let us know. Maybe you just had a "semi-senior " moment.

It NEVER hurts to look nice.But no need to go overboard.I wore some nice black pants with a nice shirt and my wife wore something similar.

ANY job with DHS WILL require some type of background check. Count on this. They WILL want to know about your spouse. It is to your best interests to get your husband some type of legal status before you apply. Even working for TSA as a baggage handler requires you providing detail information. Remember this is the Department of Homeland SECURITY and having a spouse who is "unknown" is a big no-no and could put him in jeopardy.

Her bags contain the final destination on the tags. They transfer automatically.

There are several petitions both here and elsewhere regarding the speeding up of the immigration process.Although there may be a speed up in one type of visa to the detriment of another type of visa, not much is going to change. Here, in my opinion , is why.

There are countries around the world where foreign nationals may choose to immigrate.But not like here, in the "good ole US of A". I live in New York. They say if you stand on a street corner for 15-20 minutes you will hear many different languages. I tried that in a busy midtown avenue. In about 10 minutes I heard, stopped and asked : Spanish ( Spain, Phils, Mexico, etc..), French, Italian, Russian, Chinese, Japanese, Greek, Jamaican, Haitian, and some others. People want to come here. Legally or illegally.

So when you have tens and tens of thousands of different visas being applied for each year, how long should the process take?

Six months, two months, 5 days? You cannot simply hire more and more workers to process all this without incurring more expense and therefore higher visa fees. You can only streamline the info required so much or you defeat the purpose of ensuring legality. And you cannot just say, enough immigrants for awhile until we catch up.

What we CAN do:

1. Understand the system and how it works before even starting ( READ !!)

2. Be patient

3. Understand that the process takes time ( really know this )

4. Be patient

5. Give them the proper documentation so you do not slow YOURSELF down

6. then be patient

7. Understand some people will go faster than others

8. Some people will go slower than others

9. Some countries (consulates/embassies) are just going to be a pain in the butt

10.And for goodness sake...have some patience.

And..to complete my venting...to all those who absolutely, positively, just gotta be with your loved one NOW. NO. You don't. You will not die. You will not suffer any illness. Life and civilization will not end tomorrow ( unless maybe if you are Mayan) because your hormones are in over drive. You will survive. And be better for it. See numbers 2,4,6,and 10.

PS. After you are married for maybe 5-10 years, come back here and tell us how fast you want your wife to come back from shopping with the kids when you and the guys are drinking beer and watching the game on TV. Really.

By civil do you mean like a city official? Go to your local town hall, make an appointment, give them your info so they can type up the marriage certificate, come back a few days/weeks later and get married. My wife and I did this and it took maybe 3 minutes. Then we went out to eat. ( the exact flow is..you stand here, your fiancee stands there, listen to the official, say I DO, put on the ring, kiss..sign the papers..then go and eat).

Hello,

We applied May 2012 for my wife AOS. I have now a new job opportunity on the other side of the state and I was curious as to how big a risk it is to move before our AOS approval? I have found were on the USCIS website to do the online address change, a address change form and also a 800 number to call.. I am looking forward to this new job, but dont want to take ANY unnecessary risks if their are any chances for someone to mess up our address. How common is this? Is there a need to worry?

Thanks all for any help!

If you have to move..then move. As long as you have put in the change of address don't worry. You can always call later and confirm it is in the system. The real problem is how your wife will spend the extra money from the new job!!

Clint

I hope you mean July 2013otherwise your already late.

Of course you can. Thousands before you have done this. Read the guides here and ask, repeat ASK any questions you may have.

Hello,

Please help! How does this go? Just have witnesses type a letter and sign both for him and me? Or have it notarized?

I don't understand. Help.

Thanks

Don't you have a marriage certificate?