Enigma11561

Lets be realistic. Unless you have a strong desire to move to France, which it appears you do not have since you filed a K-1 for him to move here, you need to adjust your thinking. He comes here, you get married within the 90 days. Typically the fiancee will not be working during this adjustment period. You file for his AOS and in a few months he will receive his EAD that allows him to work LEGALLY. I know many people that started to work before that time, doing more or less menially jobs to help support the family, but also took this time to prepare resumes, search out the job market for appropriate positions and get established. The job market here is not the greatest, but better than in many other countries and there are jobs to be had. It just depends on what he is qualified for and be willing to take. He can be added on to your health insurance at work and be covered right away. I would not make decisions based solely on modes of transportation or health insurance plans. No matter where you will there will always be compromises.

Can some of the utilities be changed over to your or joint name? Cannot hurt to make a phone call. I know that I was able, for example, to get my wife's name on the cable bill.

Bring the letter and passport. Finished.

Getting outside insurance could be 2-3 times that amount. And you do not want "just basic". God forbid you are in an accident, who will pay for the major medical, emergency visits, surgery? It's unfortunate but health care is expensive.

Since you do not know exactly when you will give birth, nor do you know when they will reschedule, would it be easier to ask them to reschedule in April? then you can go and be with him with no stress. I know it means an additional month of waiting, but in the long run it may be even better. Bring the baby with you !

You are 55 years old. You are no longer required to be registered with the Selective Service. That ended when you were in your 30's or so.Maybe even younger. As far as arrest records are concerned, I am going to assume they were from some time ago. Were you just arrested or convicted? Was there any outcome ( jail/fine/probation)? It is possible that those records are no longer active but stored in some archive in another place/state. Getting those would require some work on your part by asking the place where you were arrested to retrieve those records. Could take a few weeks to do this. I do not know if the CO would need to see these if you have the other docs. Maybe some one who has been through this can give you a clearer picture.

Nope. You can travel anywhere in the US. Watch out for Elvis !! ( and take your marriage cert with you ). But I think you may have done your AOS by the summer and have green card in hand anyway.

She should get any contact number from her husband family and their address in case of emergency.....now she gets a lesson to not just jump to marry a guy from somewhere with out knowing him....

Agree. But she should have started this " search" 5.5 months ago.

To the OP. From your posts is seems you do not have a good understanding of the process. K-1 or CR-1. You really need to do some reading about this. It would be a shame if you did/did not do something your were supposed to and things got screwed up.

Wow, I can't imagine not hearing from my husband longer than 8 hours, after a few days I'd be worried.

This is what bothers me the most. After a few days, even a week or so, and I did not hear from my wife I would be burning up the phone lines trying to find out what happened. 6 Months? And now she cannot locate him? This is a relationship? Something is very seriously wrong here.

We always recommend telling the truth. If you told them, if asked, yeah, I made a few hundred dollars about ten years ago working as a waitress for a month or so, somehow I do not think this would be an issue. Also, making that small amount of money you would not have had to file taxes or pay taxes anyway.

Where you a bum or a hobo?

Actually I was working as a systems engineer at IBM at the time. Just happened to meet a few guys while taking a few days off in Key West,and stayed at their place. Unknown to me their landlady did not like guests without her permission and called the cops.

Cheese, maple syrup, teddy bears, ice cream, chocolate, also vulcan cannons, mini guns, skiing, heavily armed nude sunbathers, fishing, swimming (for three days in the summer)hippies...

And UKR women with rifles. OMG. Don't wear shoes in the house, they will never find your body.

It has been my experience that even if your criminal case is dropped, sealed, or expunged, your fingerprints will remain forever in the FBI's database. They just don't go away. In the 1970's I was busted for " sleeping on private property" in the Florida Keys. It was only a $50 fine. But they took my fingerprints and to this day when a company does a background check on me they show up. It becomes a bit funny explaining that situation but I do have to explain, every time. You cannot hide this stuff.

One thing bout RUB women. Rarely are they the submissive type. If you do not have a strong mentality they will eat you for lunch. But man will they stick behind you through thick and thin.

Vermont. Go there if you like...hmmmm...well.... just had it...no..I think you...no...dang! I know there is SOMETHING up there.

My wife was given full custody of her son when she got divorced. Her son was only a few years old and his father lived in another country. I sent that in with our original filing but was never asked again. But he was over 18 when he came here so maybe age was an issue.

The purpose of the originals ( birth cert as example) is to ensure that the copies submitted earlier were not fakes. However, I did not need them for my wife's AOS. They were mostly concerned about a bonafide relationship at that point. Like photographs and such. I would think that an apostle version should be sufficient, after you explain why, if they even ask, should be ok.Your original passport should be with you. How else did you enter the US?

If your married, why not file as married? Seems you would get a better deduction. Doesn't matter if your spouse is working or not.

I am a bit surprised that she got the K-2 visa without the fathers permission in the first place. But she did. I will stand corrected by others, but once you have a visa, that should be it. I have not heard of people checking for permission at the POE. The issue may be more leaving Russia than arriving in the US.

I have used Nobel.com and that seems to work fine. Also understand that no matter what card you use, underseas cables are mostly controlled by major telecom companies not the calling card company. No matter what card you use, the calls will typically go over the same wire. Then you have to contend with the telecom company she uses in the UKR.

VV, you certainly do deserve credit for making your first marriage last 22 years, especially if you have had to deal with PTSD! But I hope, for your sake, that you can see another rationale for marriage you didn't mention. Whether you call it friendship, love, maybe even companionship, we all need it. It is not as intense as the infatuation type of love but it can be far deeper and stronger! I get the sense that RUB women place a higher value proprtionately on this type of 'love' than on the puppy-dog, infatuation kind of 'love' that is so glorified by Hollywood here. Rather than wearing out over time, this kind of love, if nurtured, can continue growing. Will we make our marriage work for 10 or more years? I don't know for a certainty but I have never felt so optimistic before! I hope you can find a way to regain your own optimism for your personal future!

From what I have read here::

Philly women: OMG ! I cannot wait! I am freaking out! It's been 2 days and I cannot live without him.

RUB women: Ok. No Problem. I will wait for you.

She did. Almost 3years. And we have now been together almost 2 years and going strong.

PS. VERMONT. Someplace north of New York.

People at the VSC do not speak or read Russian. Nuff said. You may get an RFE. No problem, just get your translations in order now.

Can you meet her at your mom's house? Get married and fly back to your post? These proxy things don't bode well for immigration purposes and to go this far and then have something go possible wrong, is not worth it.

If grad school finals are just about over and you plan to move and live with your wife in NY soon, then use the NY address.

freshaire,

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Look, you got scammed. You thought she would work out and then found you were betrayed.You are angry. Rightfully so. But there is little you can do about it. If you want to go to some anti scammer sites to have her name and photos listed, and it makes you feel better, then go for it. For all you know she might already be there, from a guy before you. I know some guys who were saved because another had posted their story. But there will be others after you who will fall into the same trap and you cannot be a savior to everyone. As far as saying something to an embassy, you can write a letter to them, as a form of catharsis, but I doubt it will do any good. But try to keep in mind this thought. These women will eventually screw up trying to juggle everything and in the end lose it all.