My interest is in developing a wonderful life for my family by achieving what i know my best could be based on my potential,discipline,actions,integrity,knowledge and love for GOD A passion for and towards life drives me...but sometimes i just want to do what i want to do and not think about the consequences.. which can be a great weakness of mind along with my stubborness. I feel that if you want something out of life you got to go for it and that involves taking risk.. which is something that some get uncomfortable with doing. Try new things, GET INVOLVED IN SOMETHING..AS WE ALL KNOW, we only live once! Oh Yeah.. I love, love, love the outdoors and all that is possible to do outdoors i Will definitely try.Shopping calms me, along with HANGING WITH THE SEXIEST LADIES ALIVE, my sisters janella,julie,marnie, angela and my best friends lee
Immigration Info
Immigration Status
Other
Place benefits filed at
California Service Center
Country
Nigeria
Our Story
THEY BROKE UP MY FAMILY
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Category: Life
Hey to all my friends and family...if you know or don't know my family has recently experienced a traumatic event on 7/19/07. You see on this day one was taken from my family...my husband. He was pulled over at gun point while in route to take our children to school and on to work. Homeland security held a gun at my husband in front of my 4yr old twin daughters and 2yr old son..removed him from the car while they got in touch with one of my family members to pick up the kids or they would be taken to CPS. As the arresting officers proceeded to take my husband they stated to my daughters,"have a good day at preschool". L et me give everyone a little more insight on this incident, my husband has been in the country for about 18yrs,he has no criminal record, he's not a terrorist or threat to society,he's a hardworking man,husband and father with a vision for his family / life! He has overcome many many trials just to have a good life. We have been fighting with the courts to appeal judgement of deportation. But the final decision was made and the judge issued deportation immediately to return my husband to Nigeria,Africa his native country. By the advice of his lawyer he was told to lay low, stay out of the radar..pretty much live in a box until the government has passed an immigration reform bill or leave on his own to a country he hasn't been to in 18yrs. Not to mention he has a family,wife and kids! Family / friends let me talk to you, the emotion of this feels like death to me...all in one swoop my kids father and the love of my life taken away ...we have to go through an adjustment for an unknown amount of time. My children ask me everyday," mommy where's daddy?"
You see at the beginning I'd explain to them daddy's on a business trip and hope that would give me some time to clear my thoughts and process what's going on. He was taken to mira loma detention center until his deportation.
The condition for him was frightening and horrible! when I went to visit my husband, i was allowed 1hr for the entire weekend either 30 min sat/sun or 1hr total on a sat or sun, I thought can they just give my husband an ankle bracelet and send him home until he is verified and deported. When I would visit, lunch would be served to him, it consisted of 2 pieces of bread,2 cookies, a bag of carrots, snack size flavored water, mayonaise and mustard packet..excuse my language but where the hell is the meat ..this is a grown man..and I know they take taxes out of my checks,at least they could give lunch n' loaf or spam! My husband told me they treat them like dogs ..no respect, all due to the fact he's not a U.S citizen! I wanted to have my kids see him before he was deported but i wanted him to be in civilian clothes so my kids don't see their dad in an orange jump suit. Well when we went to see him, he was in a place that looked like and old abandon motel revised to hold inmates, between my husband and his family were 2 officers and a fence instead glass window. when they brought my husband out it took about 5 min for my son to realize who he was, then he yelled daddy with a big smile on his face and stuck his little finger through the fence to touch his fathers. they then took my husband out the room so my daughters can come in the room, when they brought my husband back into the room he came in saying hi daughters but they quickly reacted fearful, one of them ducked under the counter top and i tried to let them know that it was daddy, i responded by picking her up, her body stiffened up and she burried her head into my neck, my other daughter turned her head into my sisters thigh...at know time did they acknowledge their dad! My daughters have been dramatically traumatized by what took place. trying to keep things as normal as possible and stay in routine with what my children are use to. I took them to preschool a week later and my youngest twin just yelled as i was waling away from her,"mommy i need you,i need you" just crying her little eyes out. I had to take them out of school at that moment until they were comfortable and had a better understanding of what was going on at home. She has started to wet the bed and I'm not talking just a small area of pea..this was piss that circled her and came running down the sides of my bed.
The reason for me writing this an allowing everyone to understand a bit of what is going on in my life has to do with me inviting all to write the congress,general attorney,our governor,senators and media to shine light on immigration in the U.S. Hears why.... in order to get my family back reunited we have to go on a journey with INS...A PAPERWORK JOURNEY OF FACTS AND REASON BASED OFF OF WHY HE NEED TO BE HERE AND WHY WE CAN'T JOIN HIM IN NIGERIA. I have file a form called I130 petition for family member cost of $355 and we have to file two waivers, a waiver of deportation and a waiver for permission to reenter the country, each cost $545 not including the lawyer fees to file. the cost for all of these forms is not refundable so when you file it needs to be done right the first time...you know before july 30,2007 the fee for I130 WAS $190 AND THE WAIVERS WERE $355..to me this is exploitation..your judgement? So since 9/11 the waivers and forms about 8of 10 are being denied..we have to prove a hardship and not just use finances or stress as the reason, also prove hardship without using the incident..are they kidding me..what is this ..they come in my life and abruptly disrupt it ,take my husband who is the main provider of our home and want me to prove hardship without using the incident...the people who made the laws must live under a rock and have NO FAMILY!!! Thank God that my kids have one U.S parent, I could not imagines my babies in that situation..both parents deported and their placed in the system ..the system that the government states theirs not enough money to take care of these kids or you wonder why when these kids grow up to be adults that fall into statistics. Something need to be done regarding immigration. Take a second and place yourself in the situation.What DO YOU THINK YOU WOULD DO? Would you move your family to a 3rd world country that you no little to nothing about..a country that is hostile . A country that pays there teachers and staff off of I OWE YOU'S. A country that is rich in beauty with plenty of potential just no government integrity. A government who is actually going to fix roads ,organize the laws,help employment and education rise. I wish I COULD PACK MY BAGS AND FLY TO MY HUSBAND but the simple truth is I would be endangering my kids health and quality of life along with mine! My husband is part of my eternal source of joy, we have a plan,vision for our family. We have goals set ,,you know we work ,pay taxes,vote..like most WE WANT THE SO CALLED,"AMERICAN DREAM ". We are a young family of 5 who have successfully made it to 4 yrs of marriage,through our differences of opinion,culture,age or being newlywed ,new parents we have seem to get through it and understand OUR BIG PICTURE!!!! We are definitely POSITIVE in the situation, which is a great characteristic of our family, we find positive in all things.WE LOVE THE LORD OUR GOD, we have such a commitment to each other, ourselves and respect for our family that we will with out a doubt get through this..we know it won't be easy and have this thing on us that is the most difficult called, "unknown time"!! We don't think about that cause it tends to make you want to break down..and thats' what the government wants us to do ..I understand that we have laws in the country and I 'm not at all angry at the people who's job is to implement those laws but what happen to the spirit of the laws and keeping families together..there has to be a better way.. I COULD SEE IF MY HUSBAND WAS A CRIMINAL OR THREAT, BUT HE'S NOT ,Therefore he should not be made to go back to a country he doesn't even remember and try to adjust and bring is family to such an enviroment. I ask please vote this next presidential election,write your local leaders and help me reunite my family..cause this is plain bull crap..for one to have to go through..I can't help that my soul mate was not born in this country!!!! I appreciate anyone who takes time out from the daily things they aspire to who have read this bulletin and plans to reach out for change by writing or just educating yourself on what's rally going on the world besides Paris Hilton going to jail or O.J arrest in Vegas..there's real serious issues in the world other than the medias coverage in the entertainment business.
