Kanja

👍🏾 Good luck. i hope you heal and find peace.

You were deceptive too though, as you admitted. You had this information before and did nothing with it. How do you suggest they hold you accountable?

What exactly do they offer? A bit confused….

This sounds eerily similar to a post a few weeks ago where the OP was arguing with most of us about for what constitutes domestic violence. Even the tone of the OP sounds the same. i agree with everyone who says just let it go, you mihjt get yourself in trouble also if she wants to get back at you. Domestic violence doesn’t require bruises or cuts, it doesn’t even require physical assault however in your case you did physically assault her. It seems like from your explanation she also assaulted you. you also cannot kick someone out in New York (where your profile says you are) without going through court, it doesn’t matter if she’s not on the lease. You also can’t stop someone from getting their belongings(unless you have an order of protection or something). I know this for a fact because I helped countless women and men get BACK in their homes with the police after their spouse wrongfully kicked them out. maybe you can arrange for a police escort for her to get her stuff and she can be out of your life forever. you can of course report her as you have a lot evidence but it may not go anywhere. I don’t think you will have liability in it, but you do have liability in everything else you have done and if she knew about the report (that likely won’t go anywhere), she may be pushed to attack back. my question to you is what will you get out of reporting her? Do you want her deported?

Oh yes that makes perfect sense. Thanks for explanation.

Exception of what? Not disagreeing, just trying to learn 😊 thank you! OP, I agree with everyone else. Bring any documents you feel will be helpful but they don’t really prove anything. focus on spending more time ensuring you clearly answering the consulars questions.

Just want to say wishing you and your family peace, I hope your mom beats it.

Wish you the best of luck. Do let us know how it goes and which direction you decide to go. Always good to get feedback so we can advise other folks who may be in the same situation. good luck again 😊

Great advice and thank you .

Good question. In terms of laws, I am not aware of any laws that require you to change your passport before it is up for renewal. This is not a fact, this is just based on what I researched for myself. You would just need to make sure that your ticket matches your passport. I am not sure about the naturalization certificate.

How is it unfair if I am leading my response with “i don’t think”? I didn’t say “it absolutely won’t be a problem and you have nothing to worry about”. Many of the comments on this very forum is based on opinions and experiences. It can go either way and has in many cases. where did I ever indicate that my opinion means it’s facts, much of what’s posted on this forum is opinions and experiences (either personal or what they have heard from others). i even started my response with saying “this is just my thinking” which clearly indicates it’s based on my opinions and thoughts. it’s also really weird that you didn’t reply to someone above me that also said they don’t think it would be denial if they can explain it’s a term of endearment at the interview and that they should be ready to explain it, but chose to target my post.

This is just my thinking but I also believe it may depend on the context of the country. for example, in some languages in my country there is not a real word for fiancée. So it’s common for people to say the equivalent of my husband or my wife. I think the consular understands that and I’ve never heard of anyone getting denied for that (of course this is just anecdotal). Most people do speak English though as it’s the official language and with the younger generation the fiancée term is becoming more common. I don’t you will have a major problem in your case as it sounds like it was just said playfully. For a long time (and even still currently a bit) the term “wifey” was a common term of endearment among the AFrican American community . Again, context matters.

So this happened to my husbands cousin. He came over back in 2009 on a k1 visa, he got his conditional green card like normal. Had three children with his wife. When he went to remove conditions or when he went to file for citizenship (I don’t recall which process it was revealed on), it came out that she was actually married when she petitioned for him and when she married him. It was revealed because the person USC (wife) was first married to, tried to submit a petition for a k1 visa and was actually truthful. He submitted the divorce decree and it showed a date after her petitioning and marriage to the beneficiary (my husbands cousin). he ended up getting a lawyer and he was able to get his citizenship and remain in the country: the only difference is is that he stayed with the usc petitioner but ( I guess they had to remarry? That part I wasn’t clear on).

Very true. It goes beyond the girlfriend gaining admission at POE.

I thought he said it was a surprise proposal and that his spouse was not aware of his plan?

I believe OP indicated they have enough savings.

The child may be eligible for a U visa or T visa because it seems they may have been a victim of trafficking and/or forced labor. There are some organizations that will do this pro Bono but I’m not sure of the names. A good google search will help find some hopefully. Agree this is not a DIY case, some lawyers may be able to direct to funding to cover expenses, some lawyers also take on this pro Bono also.

Very true. I totally agree.

Sorry, my mind thinks faster than I type. I meant I agreed with you when you said her sponsoring of now three spouses is an area for concern. i meant that some folks had said she should not highlight her previous marriages but maybe she should.

I agree , there is no reason you cannot get another chaperone. This waiver will likely not be granted.

I thought this as well. But it seems like most people think this shouldn’t be acknowledged? my thoughts are they should be acknowledged (since they already brought it up), indicate that these were bona-fide relationships that did not work (indicate dates of divorce) but indicate that you are looking forward to starting life with your new husband.

Good point. I think a lot of family is involved so yes, theoretically spouse would live with other family members until wedding.

Not saying it does. 😬

Not that I am an expert in customs of the DRC but I have a lot of friends from there and have never ever in my life heard of such a custom, based on this I’m not surprised they were denied, which seems like a good decision.

Out of curiosity, do you remember a bit more of the background of the folks that got the waiver?