Not sure how to say this without being rude and I do not mean to be ride but you need to focus on the actual issues, 90% of what you have posted is essentially filler.
To do anything you need to marry, I have seen similar cases where a marriage has been premature and there has been no issue with fraud.
I would marry and see if the Consulate will allow you to file direct as that is much quicker, if not file with the lockbox and seek an expedited, much longer.