I had scheduled a meeting with an advisor for F1 interviews, who told me i could, and should mention my relationship due to my situation and nationality. Phrasing: "Don't be scared about all the stuff you read online, that information doesn't apply to you, you have a Dutch nationality so you're more than fine mentioning your girlfriend as long as you have a feasable plan for leaving the US after your studies" This advice took a lot of pressure off my chest, since i didn't want to lie or hide the truth. But i still can't help but stress over the possibility that mentioning her screws all my chances. That's why i'm coming here for more advice...
Im 21, born and raised in the Netherlands and in a relationship with a United States Citizen whom i will be staying with for the full duration of my studies. I am applying to a Community College which is rated 1# in the state of California and plan to major psychology to then transfer into a 4-year. I have the financial means to back this up. However, those financial means will not carry me much further than a bachelor since my dad will be retiring around the same time i would finish , and he decided that 4-years of funding my education in the States is enough. (Very spoiled indeed, and very fair )
I want to come to the states to study, and be with my girlfriend. But if she didn't live there, i would not have the motivation to go and take risks, and would just start my studies in the Netherlands. But since my girlfriend is hell-bent on going to a T14 law school, and there is not something similar to that in the Netherlands, we decided it best if i move towards her.
My intention is honestly not to immigrate. It's to be with my girlfriend. We'll finish our bachelors at the same time and since a psychology bachelor alone is not very usefull in the job market, and the funds are run dry by then, we plan to move back to Europe together, so that i can afford a master, and she can work in an international law firm. (or get a job using her economics degree she got from stanford).
See, i still feel like this sounds bad, even though it's our actual plan. The advisor said i should not worry, for i have a Dutch nationality, and as long as i have a feasable plan for leaving the US, (the plan above) i should be fine! But all the stories online have scared me so much that it's difficult for me to trust his opinion.
Not mentioning or avoiding my girlfriend is a risk, i plan to stay with her, i have visited her twice, and mentioned both times that i was visiting her to the immigration officer at the airport. My academic record is also spotty, with 2 college drop outs and me currently being in my 2nd gap year. (I needed the personal growth badly, and am now genuinly super motivated to do academics, in the States OR Netherlands). Lastly, i don't have any ties to my home country. (Besides that following a master would be way cheaper here, but in the case that i don't mention my girlfriend, it would'nt make sense to go to america to study, and come back to finish it)
I'm tempted to just hold to this because it's the truth. I see no way of hiding or lying about my girlfriend, and i can't come up with a story on why i'd leave after my studies are finished that would 100% convince the officer.
The road of a K1 visa would take too long, i want to start my education ASAP.
Please don't tell me i am doomed
