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Which is why she is asking for him to appear at a virtual court appearance now in September. Another twist to the story is that my friend was not born in the U.S. he is a naturalized U.S. citizen. I would think that he would put his original birth country on the certificate as that is the correct thing to do if he was to even appear at the virtual court appearance.

Very useful information you provided. Much appreciated. I will pass this info onto him. This has helped a lot. Very good point too...21 and then she gets a free ride to the U.S. because unfortunately, the child suffers from severe down syndrome and by the looks of everything, will never be able to function independently. She would have to be his legal guardian for everything and sign everything even past 18 - 21 years old.

He does not deny the paternity of the kid. However he asked her to come to the U.S. to get the paternity test done, she said she would do it only if he paid for her flight and hotel and any other miscellaneous expenses plus the DNA test. I mentioned to my friend that even though she wants the DNA test done for her advantage, but it also looks like she wants a holiday out of this as well by trying to have you pay for everything. Due to his job, it is hard for him to go to Colombia as he has a federal government job with an important agency. I also agree with the U.S. Lawyers and Colombian pesos. but supposedly she has a cousin in Georgia who will let her stay with her, and that she will go to legal aid and try to get a free lawyer...........all this on a 6 month entry tourist visa???? (that's IF they give her that long)

What happened was the child was born in Colombia, my friend was in the U.S. The government of Colombia to my understanding gives you 1 week to register the kid. If the parent is not present, then the child goes under the mother's name. The father is not listed. She asked my friend to put his name on the birth certificate through a virtual court appearance in Colombia, however she also started to ask for large amounts of money which is where the situation went south.

She could possibly overstay if she gets to that point of desperation. My friend is going to write to the U.S. consulate in Bogota and at least warn them of the possible situation that could happen on her part.

Correct, and thank you for mentioning that. She said this morning that the father would not be allowed to see or interact with the kid. Which is why my friend is now even less interested in filing for U.S. citizenship for the child. (Which I totally understand on his part).

He never got to sign the birth certificate because he was in the U.S. at the time the child was born, so she put the child in her name. Due to his federal government job, he is not allowed to just board a plane and go to a foreign country. It is a process with forms he has to fill out. Thank you for the CRBA information. He told he he is willing to give money (a fair amount) or U.S. citizenship for the child so she can make a claim for social security due to the childs unfortunate mental incapacity. He said he was not going to give both as he felt it is just a money grab on her part. (Which I agree).

No, he has not paid anything yet. He has not done so for 2 reasons. - She is asking for A LOT - He has a federal government job and it could possibly create a situation for him when it comes time to renew his security clearance trying to justify the amounts that he sent to Colombia. Thank you for your reply. Unfortunately the mental health of my friend with this situation and what she is demanding is taking a toll on him.

He is attempting to get hold of a family lawyer in Colombia and will start with looking for one in the U.S. After my own research, I learned that a CRBA (Consulate Report of Birth Abroad) is basically the only way that citizenship can be directly passed down and that my friend as the U.S. citizen is the only one that can initiate it, not her as it requires original documents and evidence of continuous residence in the U.S. plus his signatures and would have to appear before a consulate official. My friend's concern is that she is wanting to get as much money from any benefit from any place using the child's mental incapacity as the reason. I told him not to let her get into his head and run him into a corner scared.

Hello, it has been a while since I have posted on here. I am asking on behalf of a friend who has an unfortunate situation. He is a United States Citizen, she is from Colombia. Their relationship did not prosper to marriage, however they had a kid together, she lives in Colombia. He lives in the U.S. She is wanting $1,500 - $2,000 per month in child support plus U.S. citizenship to claim social security for the child as it was born with an incapacity. (which altogether would be $2,000-$3000 per month with child support and social security) They have not been able to come to an agreement due to what she is demanding. My U.S. citizen friend believes she is taking advantage of the situation with a money grab using the child as she also receives benefits from Colombia. She has a current tourist visa and keeps threatening my friend she will come to the U.S., go to court, and ask for child support plus make the judge give the child U.S. citizenship. She also mentioned that she wants his house as well (they were never married). In my honest opinion, I believe that since she is from Colombia, and the child is Colombian born, that this would be a situation for the courts of Colombia to resolve and not the U.S. Can a U.S. family court judge make the father give U.S. citizenship to the child? Or his limitations are just child support according to child support tables based on his income. Thank you