Lily_SD

Thank you for your information and comments—I agree with most of what you said. You’ve shared some good thoughts. If I ever get married, it will be a genuine marriage made with serious consideration and with the right person. For context, my ex, who was born and raised in the U.S., proposed to me four times during our 11-year relationship. What I’m trying to convey is that I view marriage as something far more serious and important than other factors. I would never get married solely for benefits like immigration. To be honest, I don’t really need to do that. Lately, I’ve been feeling like I want to settle down. I think I’m a bit tired of being single. Other things, like backlog or loneliness, occasionally cross my mind, but they’re not the main drivers. The only thing I don’t agree with is the statement that “entering into a marriage for anything other than love is a recipe for disaster.” To me, love is just a fleeting illusion based on physiology. Everyone defines and interprets it differently, and feelings constantly change. I wouldn’t marry for love. I would marry for the person himself and his qualities and characteristics, like responsibility, integrity, care, intelligence, and so on.

I currently reside and work in California and am under a green card process sponsored by my company. My I-140 is approved, but I am stuck in a three-year backlog to file my I-485, due to being from one of the backlogged countries (India, China, Philippines, Mexico). My immigration lawyer mentioned a potential solution: marrying a person not born in these countries could allow me to use their country of birth for filing and bypass the backlog. I have met some wonderful gentlemen who are interested in a relationship, but I am hesitant to pursue marriage primarily for the sake of expediting my green card process. I am torn and would appreciate any insights or experiences from those who might have faced similar decisions. Is it worth considering marriage under these circumstances, or should I explore other options? Thank you in advance for your help!