Hello everyone, about 2 years ago I met a woman on a dating app (Badoo) who had set her location to the United States. I used to do this myself as I’d get very little matches in the states but seemingly endless amounts abroad, she wanted to try pursuing a relationship with somebody abroad as well and we immediately expressed deep attraction towards one another. The relationship progressed rather fast, we used to speak for extended periods of time over calls , show one another where we live , talk about interesting topics and themes , practice language .. I eventually came to see her two months later and she went above and beyond to make me feel happy and comfortable , she always brought me fruits , gifts , took many photos of me, she wanted my to meet her entire family and she wanted to meet my family as well because she said it’s necessary, she tried to get me involved in her church community , I’m not religious or faithful but It’s a nice gesture and I liked the sense of community , she never asked me to pay anything for her and most of the money i brought we used for groceries to cook together. I returned home and we were away for about a year , I returned again briefly and went home again, I felt like the happiest I ever had in my life because I never truly had a girlfriend and a genuine person who I felt loved me as much. After several months I returned again , i stayed In an apartment , she initially said we cannot sleep together in the same room because her parents disapprove of it before marriage although they were aware that we were together everyday , she eventually stayed with me when her roommate left . She has two phones and never worried about me using one of them but I noticed she seemed more cautious about the second one , in her contacts there weee probably hundreds of people many of which had American flags next to their name , she had shown me previously that she had met many friends on the dating apps and kept their contact information , even showing me all their messages and pages , it seemed a bit unusual to me but maybe it’s none of my business. Anyways , recently she had shared her phone screen and I saw the same dating app we met even though we both deleted the app after meeting, I deleted the account but it seems she still had hers, she told me she had merely deleted it on her other phone and forgot to do so on the other one although I don’t recall seeing the icon when I was using that phone months prior, it seems to have reappeared , most of the people she matched with were Americans but also people from countries she also expressed moving too she always wanted to move to American temporarily to work save money and send it back, she told me it doesn’t make sense why she’d used me because hypothetically she could have done that with anyone not me. She also has big plans saying she’d want to marry me eventually and have children , and establish a business together , she says she doesn’t want to live in the US and that she merely wants to work there and live with me in her home country, I spent a lot of money on various trips and my friends suggested that if she really cared about me she’d tell me to be mindful of how much money I’m spending on these short trips, which was probably a couple thousand dollars . She’s never acted toxic or immature towards me we’ve always communicated when I’ve been sick she’s always taken me to the hospital and stayed with me often being awake half the night if necessary , she’s helped me scope out hotels when we couldn’t find any and if I ever ran out of money somewhere she’d help even if she doesn’t make a lot . Im not sure what to think
