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Absolutely. Of course! I'm hoping so as well.

Yeah, the day I came home and she had left, she left a note stating that if I don't sign the divorce papers or give her a hard time, she will share recordings of me to my friends and family.

I too, from the moment she left me with a threatening letter, believed it would be VAWA. Then the law firm that called and left a voicemail said U-Visa. Can't say I ever watched those shows. Now I lived it 😂

This is a good point, unfortunately feelings and emotions sometimes get the best of you. I am certain she is a narcissist though.

I hope I never came across as blaming anyone else. Yes, I am trying to heal. Easier said than done.

Why not! Well worth it. It destroys a persons life.

The love bombing from the start to completely abandoning - it's evil.

Eastern European? It was a call from the exact attorney office she was speaking to 2 months prior. Same number. I am trying to focus on me, the trauma of the abandonment just destroys me inside. Not an exact quote but, we (law firm) received USCIS receipt for u-visa application. Now all we do is wait. I will email you the paperwork.

I own the telephone number, they called and left a voicemail stating it...

That has been the hardest part honestly. The feeling of being abandoned, then blamed for everything, questioning everything is surreal.

VM from immigration attorney. If you find it, please let me know! That would be unbelievable if this is a thing right now.

By any chance on another forum? I did write about it elsewhere over 2months ago on another site.

This has confused me also - it does lead more towards VAWA, but what I have (concrete evidence) is U-visa. Unless she was part of a crime that I NEVER knew of. Regarding divorce? Unfortunately in our state we have to be separated and not in the same dwelling for 1 year. I meant me. Habit of saying we for 3 years now. 1. We have an good divorce attorney, but he's not familiar with immigration aspect of things. I reached out to a VAWA/U-Visa focused attorney and they advised for me to send tip forms - nothing else can be done. 2. After I realized how she was manipulating me gas lighting me after the abandonment, all contact is done. 3. Have it all. I paid for her entire lifestyle here, all the bills, etc. Have texts admitting she was emotionally cheating on me, how I should still "apply for her waiver if I loved her" (then she said, but don't anymore BUT if you love me you would have even if we get divorced) - my friends are ready to submit anything from their side. They saw how dirty she did me. 4. Hardest part, but I'm trying. Regarding the U-VISA, I would have been notified obviously by now if I did anything wrong right? It's been months since she left...

Originally she came in on a J-1, but when we got married and her overstaying, she was on an ESTA. From what I understand, she may not be able to get an ESTA again if she leaves. Is the correct? We have been in contact with one, he just said we need to wait the 1 year. Absolutely! Completely different states now.

Never received an order to deport, but she was subject to the 10 year bar. She had overstayed her ESTA for over 2 years. 1 year separation first unfortunately Yes, but we can't do anything for a year. Thank you and sorry!

I think I'm having a hard time just swallowing what happened - Spent 100k on her present and future in the last 2 years, let alone a home too. Can't even describe the support she got from my parents and friends too. It was down right evil. I just didn't know if there is anything else I need to do in order to protect myself. Thank you

She's been gone now for over 2 months. We stopped all contact when I realized what she had done and how she played me throughout this marriage. Do I need to do anything immigration wise other than send a letter to say I want to revoke my already approved I-130? Also, will get a work permit automatically for applying to either one? I wouldn't know what "crime" there would be. We have been together almost everyday for 3 years. I just have to wait out the divorce. I am beyond traumatized that I got abandoned the way I did when we had no issues and how much money and time I spent doing everything for her future. Yes, secured from that perspective. Does a VAWA or U-VISA automatically give her a work permit?

That was what we were trying to get waived yes. No Objection waiver came back denied. Our original attorney filed for I-485 originally (with him knowing she was subject to 2 year HRR) and it came back denied obviously. I can't tell you to what great lengths and mental mindset I was put through working on her waiver and she just got up and left. I spent hundreds of hours writing/reading, doctors, trauma for it.

See I would have believed the same, but I have evidence she applied for U-visa. No police report... I would know right? I mean, I didn't do anything... I keep thinking the same, but the proof I have is U-Visa... Can you apply for U-Visa and Vawa together? The proof I have is U-visa 1. yes 2. Married, but separated since she abandoned me (State law 1 year separation) 3. I-485 and I-765 originally denied due to a waiver she needed. I-130 was only approved. 4. The timeline of everything (especially getting her masters then leaving immediately), what she was saying behind my back throughout our marriage to my friends, relatives and employees, also texts of her trying to manipulate me into saying "if I love her" I should still apply for the waiver AFTER she left.

I am certain it's a u-visa, no police report (I'm sure I would have been notified if there was). AFTER she left, she suddenly said she had PTSD "like an army person". I believe she is taking the emotional abuse path by getting a psychological evaluation. She was never "unhappy" in the marriage. It's so sad because every single person that knew us, knew how well she was being treated, what was being done for her. She was called a "princess" by everyone. She is suddenly playing a victim card and blaming me for every single thing in the marriage. She just got her education (completely paid for by me) and literally left in the middle of the day while I was at work. Her waiver I was applying for would have taken 2 years - I don't know if she was that selfish to leave just to get a work permit via U-visa? Any suggestions? No I never posted on here. My other posts were about the waiver I was working on for her prior to her abandoning the marriage.

Hi Everyone, After all the work I was doing for my ex, I believe I was scammed based off the timeline and secrecy that unfolded after she abandoned me. She got everything she needed out of me, while I was still in the process of working on her waiver, and disappeared. No issues with the marriage, but apparently she had been recording me during arguments at home and sharing it amongst my closest friends. NEVER any sort of police reports because we just argued like a... couple. Everyone that knew her was always suspicious of her and all believe she had this planned all along (we're talking 15+ people). I am almost certain she applied for a U-Visa, after she drained me of all my savings, paid off her schooling and so on. Do I need to write to anyone to prove some of the lies, etc? I already submitted tip forms. What can I do? Also, will she receive a work permit quickly? I feel like I am dealing with an absolute narcissist that is suddenly blaming every single thing on me and acting as a victim. I did nothing but give her the best of my capabilities. Thanks

Congratulations! Who was your sponsor?

Have you received your recommendation yet?

Thank you! I honestly had no idea you send the same exact things to both departments.

So you sent the same for both?