Timothy V

Negative I got the kiddo in this situation.

Could I do the following: Submit 192F to at least start the clock, then work on trying to get the logistics together to visit and get married? If married change to CR1. I understand the clock resets at that point again but at least that way if I am unable to marry her there quickly and or it falls through I have a buffer zone? My understanding the 192F is around 600$ (I have the exact amount written elsewhere) so that seems like a cheap fallback plan to at least start (my understanding is that the medical exam and other fees come latter) Gotta talk to her too of course 🤣

So what I'm hearing is that her parents could die while she is here and she would be in a position where she cannot legally leave to attend a funeral? That does change the calculus a bit. I guess my hesitation to the CR1 is I wanted to marry her here as traveling over there right now is difficult (mostly again to childcare issues x won't allow a visa for the kiddo).

Emphysema from what I can tell. His lungs are crackles in all lobes. Several contributing factors: 1) Smoking x30yrs, 2) exposure to pesticides 3) Covid+PNA. No CT or xrays so these are assumptions on my part but I'm confident in my assessment based on the presentation and mechanisms of illness. I didn't consider that she can't travel back quickly that is kinda worrisome. I'm guessing asthma as well she and her mother described several incidents of respiratory distress. The family asked me what to do.... That was a hard conversation. I got him a nebulizer to make things easier. He's just a hardworking farmer at the end of his life. Man probably worked harder than I ever will (kids/pig farm/5 acers of rice) before it was given to the children.

I understand it's years and years?

Thanks man I appreciate it. I do understand the sentiment 😊

The father being 72 years old has end stage COPD. For those that don't know what that is its a progressive lung disease that is managed but not treated. When I came I brought my medical kit with me (force of habit i am an Army Medic). When I took a look at the man he had tell tell signs of untreated late stage COPD (Barrel chest, and clubbed fingers). Long story short that means his body has been in a state of hypoxia (Low O2) for several years. He is also suffering from long covid. Baseline 02 saturation was around 87% (much lower when walking), weight maybe 80-90 pounds (ribs showing, tibia can be seen without surrounding muscle), not far off from POW pictures to be honest. She was working at Watson's (Pharmacy) before my arrival 6 days a week and living in town (Town is about 45 minutes away from family residence). Looking at the dad it is obvious to me that he will most likely be dead in 1-2 years (end stage COPD rate of survival is 50% per year). As she was working full time and could visit only one day a week, I thought it would be best that she be with her dad as he dies. The mother is also 72 and while in better health I am not sure how long she will survive her husband (they have been married since they were both 19). The 4 brothers inherited the rice fields and she is with her parents on the remaining farm (the brothers work it for mom and dad). So when she leaves she will most likely be dealing with death of her father and potentially her mothers death as well. The family all have many children (Brothers) and are busy supporting themselves. I do understand the comments and I understand they are well intentioned. Obviously scams can be common in these type of scenario, if it all turns out to be that I've been a fool I am prepared to accept the consequences of that. I am only responsible for my moral behavior in this life, i cannot control other peoples behavior or viewpoints. I myself have thought about this often but I feel it is the responsible thing to do. I am taking a leap of faith in this process. It is a gamble I am aware of that. However, I am an adult and this is the path I've chosen. The current life expectancy for Philippines in 2023 is 71.66 years, a 0.18% increase from 2022. The life expectancy for Philippines in 2022 was 71.53 years, a 0.18% increase from 2021. The life expectancy for Philippines in 2021 was 71.41 years, a 0.18% increase from 2020. The 5-year life expectancy for people with COPD ranges from 40% to 70%, depending on disease severity. This means that 5 years after diagnosis 40 to 70 out of 100 people will be alive. For severe COPD, the 2-year survival rate is just 50%.

Its pretty simple really. I am expecting a gap of 12-20 months between when I file the 192F before she arrives. I am currently working full time as a nurse, I support myself and provide her family aid. With a 12-20 month lead time I will be able to accumulate all of the funds I need to get her here and file an adjustment of status. My issue with not rolling in the $$$ is due to the fact I have 50/50 custody and can only work certain days of the week due to childcare issues. Example I work SUN MON TUES (16HR) along with additional shifts as needed. I have been offered positions with a 10-15$ HR increase, and sign on bonuses of up to 15,000 USD. I cannot accept them at this point because i am locked into working SUN MON TUES (and additional days as babysitters are available). With her arrival my flexibility of working other days increases so my potential for $$$ increases.....

The financial strain is due to a childcare issue when she arrives I am able to take higher paying jobs and work additional overtime without paying for babysitters. Right now i work as a nurse so its the ability to work that is becoming the issue. The jobs are there the raises are there the OT is there. Me and her have talked about supporting her family and i have no issues or concerns on that front.

Having done the research I am really leaning towards the K1. Any wedding now would be a low budget event with tremendous stress involved (I work long hours take care of my daughter close family member with cancer ECT) so I'm really leaning towards the 192F

Thank you for the reply. 2B did concern me but I'm not sure how to correct it besides writing a letter that the divorce was in process (had to go through the process twice each time has a mandatory waiting period). I'm not concerned about what happened everyone knew what was going on I was not engaged in anything I would consider immoral but I digress and I understand how someone could look at that with a raised eyebrow or 2.

Hello all! This will be my first post on this forum. I am currently working on submitting a K1 VISA for my fiancée. We have meet in person for 3 weeks after speaking for 6 months. Her values and I are aligned and I'm very eager and thankful to be marrying her. Her and her family are also terribly excited. Now on to the questions for the community 1) How large should I make the section for proof of relationship (We have been texting every day for 6 months phone calls ect). Is more better I honestly think I could provide pages upon pages. 2) Is it better to attach documents before receiving an RFO this pertains to two examples: 2A: We meet on Filipino cupid which is technically not a marriage broker site (I could provide documentation of this from the website if you all think its useful) 2B: I have been moved out and not in a relationship with my x, however due to discussions about custody and life events my divorce was just recently finalized. (I have documentation on the divorce stating we have not been together since 2019). Should I write a letter of explanation have her sign me sign (My partner was aware of this when we started texting and calling). 3) I am in the US Army reserves and childcare for my daughter is becoming an issue, could this potentially qualify me for expideted processing? If so who would i talk too? I know its a lot but i really would appreciate any help or comments. My plan is to file June 10th after completing all the documents and double checking them. Currently i do not have money for a lawyer or a visa service so I'm doing the best I can.