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I got the letter sent off to withdraw the Affidavit of Support, but a week later we received notification that the AOS was approved for both my wife and my step son.

I thought that if I only cancelled her AOS, his might still continue to be processed. Granting a GC for him even if he had left the country.

I don't think I would win custody. I have not adopted my step son. I was working on that whnw all this mess started and my wife won't sign anything.

Which would be my wife and all she would do is lie. Especially if she gets deported. Of course it would be all my fault.

He's too young for a talk about his bio father. All he would know is that daddy sent him away.

She won't leave him. I asked her to let me adopt him so he could be raised here and have a good future. If kids weren't involved, it would be so much easier. My step son believes I'm his real father and so I'm torn because I don't know what I'm supposed to tell him.

If she leaves, the baby would most likely stay with me

Divorce us generally not a fast process. I don't know how long after the petition is withdrawn that she has to leave the country. I don't even know what that process looks like. Maybe she receives a letter stating she has to leave by a certain date.

And this is the case even if I have not adopted him legally? I guess she is still legally able to leave with him, but I hope she wouldn't.

Thanks. What happens with her Son? Since they are on their own processes? Can I revoke hers but not his?

I have decided to withdraw the Affidavit of Support for my wife. She's not willing to make any changes nor go to counseling or speak to a therapist about her behavior. We are still waiting for her green card. What exactly is the correct process?

I've reported it to Child Protective Services and they are going to send a case worker to the home. Child abuse/domestic violence is a mandatory arrest. Even if asked not to press charges. With a pending AOS she mostly likely could be deported. And the son would have to go with her. That doesn't help him much as he continues to be around an abusive mother. I'm try to get them help, not get my wife in trouble.

She doesn't want to talk to anyone other than a lawyer. Yet she keeps telling me that I'm the one who needs to make an appointment in that regard. I've pointed out that her actions are child abuse, but she doesn't seem to understand that or care and tries to justify it. Won't take responsibility for her actions and tries to blame me. She says she acted that way in the Philippines. It's difficult to know what she wants or what I need to do. One minute she's telling me if I don't call a lawyer, she will up an leave, and take the kids. I told her if she does, she would be in her own and I would pull her affidavit of support. If she's going to be abusive, she can't take the kids,at least in my opinion. Then she says she will stay at the house only because I'm supporting them, but not because she loves me which she claims she doesn't. She wants to live with me, but be separated. So who knows. She's wishy washy about everything and has been since day one

Greetings, What effects does a police report have on a pending AOS application? I need to file a report against my wife for violence in the home in front of our children. She has an explosive temper and resorts to throwing objects and destroying things when she gets upset. She's done this on multiple occasions now in front of our two children. One is hers from a previous relationship and the other is our 4 month old child. Both my wife and her son are pending AOS which we filed last year. I don't want to press charges, but I need to get this stuff reported so there is a record. Could a report with the police cause any issues with the AOS.?