My dad married a Filipino lady(25 y younger) and brought her to the US with her daughter. Ever since they got married, she has changed. She was very sweet in the beginning, but after they signed the papers, she became very hostile, passive aggressive and would ignore me. The daughter and her did not have a close relationship since the daughter was not raised by her so they did not have a mother and daughter bond so I tried being the daughters best friend (she’s is 3 years younger then me) while my dad and his wife could be happy. After a while, I started noticing some changes in her attitude, and I tried my very best to have her involved and make her happy but that never helped, she ignores me and is always on Facebook as if it’s her journal.
My dad is a very hard-working man and he works to provide for all of us, while she gets to stay home and doesn’t do anything. I understand that she’s from a different country and it might be hard but while she’s at home she ignores me and will talk Filipino with her daughter, even though she knows English.
My dad takes them shopping and we always take them on trips at least once a month. While we take them on trips, my relationship between the daughter will go away since the mother has no one to talk to you, since she doesn’t like me for some reason. It seems like she will turn her daughter against me as if the daughter doesn’t even know who I am anymore.
On my dad’s bday, stepmom willfully ignore me, and pretend I don’t even exist. She will not get involved with trying to make his birthday better, or will not appreciate the dinner I took them to, etc.
They have been here for nine months and I have been nothing but nice and I’m trying my best to not cause any problems since I’ve seen things that have m been going on between the family. Outside friends have seen the same thing.
i’ve tried to talk to my dad about these problems, but he is in denial and will stick up for her no matter what.
I am writing this because I would like to know what’s going on or if she has the right intentions of being with my dad/or just wants to get me out of this family so she can be the leader and control his life. PLEASE HELP
