Chinyere Married

Being alive is a choice but hey, here we are.

That’s coming from a place of privilege. If I don’t have money to travel, I could move that universe and the money won’t come out. Real life can make you unable to travel to be with each other. Life happens! People lose jobs, fall sick after marriage, many factors occur, people even have cases they are dealing with that prohibits them from traveling. If you are unable to visit, can you prove communication? How often do you communicate; emails, text, phone calls. People marry for real love and one has to leave for work for a while. It doesn’t mean they love each other less but real people in real relationships must find a way to communicate. That’s for sure! Show them what you got! Be true and real. If you don’t have money to travel to meet your spouse, take it easy on yourself and do the best you can. Most officers go by their intuition and evidence. It’s not an absolute rule in life to anything. What can you show that makes you both committed to the marriage?

They didn’t get away with anything. They were/are in love. Got married and they are still together till date and life has only gotten better for them in every way together. They travel together, they live together, they do everything together. If it wasn’t love, they wouldn’t be together till now. Their families all know one another.

It’s kinda weird that I told someone something I’ve seen someone experience and I’m asked numerous questions. I will answer very briefly. Age gap was normal. I already said they only met once physically and that was during the wedding period. They only did their honeymoon together and he had to return back to work so he had to leave. Country is definitely Nigeria. Process took less than 3 years in total. It was during Covid. It’s not my story so I can’t be saying more. All I know is they provided evidence without irrefutable doubts. Lots of evidence and that was it but they had met way before the wedding, just not physically. The 3 years plus thing was recent. Precisely around end of 2021. It wasn’t like that pre Covid and during Covid. Each case differs. You can’t judge them with the same spoon. What they wanna be sure of is that it is love and there is evidence of love. Once you can show them you are truly in love and married for love and having bonding evidence of shared life, family and experiences, that’s what they wanna see. Sadly many assume that just being married gives you the permit to come in. Prove the love factor! That’s literally what marriage is about.

What’s the meaning of an OP? Whatever that is, I’m not.

It doesn’t matter, as long as you have enough evidence to prove you are married for love. My sibling only met her husband once and that was during the wedding. He only visited that one time and she got approved for a 10 year green card. She’s still with him now for many years even after entry. However she submitted enough evidence that prove they were married and both families were in support and submitted evidence.