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Thank you, it seems the highest concern if filing this way is to prove there was no prior intent to stay, how would you prove a negative? That seems like it can be very subjective to whoever is handling the case 🤔

Wow.. I am glad I posted here then, as the attorney seems to have intentionally misled me during the consultation, in order to make the process harder (so higher cost?). Good to know, I'll speak to my partner about this

She has been spending time with the pets, meeting up with my family and going on walks with the dog, she has a good friend here that she met through myself, they hang out sometimes. She reads a lot and watches shows, has learned some new recipes and is trying to perfect baking bread (her words not mine lol) come to think of it, she's never expressed boredom she just kind of finds things to do. Her only issue has been the public transport system here is not great so to get to the beach she'd have to Uber, walk in the heat or wait for a friend to be available, though that is only an issue while I am at work, and I only work 4 days a week (40hrs, and occasionally an extra 10hrs). But I will read through that for sure, thank you! Do you have any suggestions for when to marry/adjust? As in, within the 90 days legal stay or not?

Sorry for the multi-quote response, I spoke to her about this last night, overall (as there were some grievances) she expressed she felt the same about not wanting to be apart anymore as (due to outside of relationship factors for both of us) it's taking a toll on her mental health. As for what the attorney said, he didn't say it was a 90 day rule but that marrying AND adjusting status within 90 day period shows prior intent to stay (I think that sounds silly). I have shown her this post due to what people want her to know, sadly the proposal couldn't be special with the 1week restraint I now would have. She says the most recent time she has been to either a wedding, funeral or birth is over 10 years ago, it seems as if that part will also not be an issue lol, and if it is she can choose to accept that risk. Plus if any of this is an issue for her I'm more than happy for her to decline as it's her life also, but I am posting here asking for the facts for "IF she agrees" as written originally, so that it can be an informed decision and/or process. I truly appreciate the warnings for the legal costs, however looking at the total, it is a lot cheaper than what I expected initially (not cheap, just cheaper) and I can cover it comfortably with my savings alone. So, would marrying and filing for adjustment before her legal stay here ends be ok? Are there any legal issues to be aware of, and as for what the attorney said, how would we prove there was no prior attempt to stay in the country (that seems like a catch22, how do you prove a negative?). She says her only personal belongings back home are electronics (gaming equipment, TV), clothes and her (sorry my mind has gone blank for the word) personal items (childhood items, gifts from family, objects tied to memories or trips), no car as she doesn't drive and lived with parents so nothing in terms of property. So I'm guessing she can choose to sell/ship whatever she wants if needed. Thank you again for all the responses so far and apologies for the long text.

I would be able to sponsor her myself, I am eligible by the 3x or so the required amount and also do have a good amount of money in savings and crypto (lol), I just did not want to touch them for things that aren't emergencies, but of course would if needed for a time-constrained and important thing like my partner.

Well, she did mention possible plans about seeing her cousin (who lives in another country to her), but outside of that I don't believe she would have a problem with that, plus the attorney I consulted (only a consultation, not hired) told me she would be able to apply for a work permit while waiting. For travelling, I live in a good place with lots to do, however financially recently I am struggling with the rent increases, vet bills and car accidents to pay for, so she understands travelling is not a priority at the moment. Though the attorney did also mention deaths in the family can be a big issue but fingers crossed that would not happen..

No she lives with her parents, we are young (early and mid 20s) she was in and out of school but did start a new job a couple of months before her most recent trip here, the job however was supposed to be a full-time but ended up being a 0 hour contract (until she worked there long enough or something) so they were ok with her leaving for 3 months. She is looking to start online schooling or a small online business. What do you mean by golden cage? I feel like she'd be okay with it, but again I won't know until after proposing and discussing this. My reason for this post is to know what to do in case she is on board with marriage and staying (if possible). As if we'd have to get married within the 90 day period, that is soon up and I want to plan it in time.

Hi, My girlfriend is due to leave the country in a week, she came on a tourist visa (visa waiver and global entry), this is her 3rd trip here and I can't stand to be apart from her for long periods again. I want to marry her and I want her to stay here with me. If she agrees to this, when is best to get married if we plan on then adjusting her status after, before or after her 90 day period? I talked to an attorney who said to get married after the 90 days (due to within 90 days would supposedly show prior intent to stay, and then file for adjustment after that). There are outside factors that have pushed me to decide I can't be apart from her for longer, she is in a bad situation in her home country and a week before she arrived here had to call the police to report physical assault on herself within her home, and my job is a risky one and close encounters at work make me fear if something happens to me she won't be here. I am a citizen with a US passport. Please advise!