AsientoDelNegro

Just now, Kanja said:

Lol 

1) how am I punishing you? 
2) how am I prejudiced against you ? 
 

i pointed out the obvious and you didn’t deny it.

 

..okay so why are you on my case without provocation?

Do you listen to yourself, you sound like a fevered, mindless, attack dog. 

Accusing innocent people of crimes, of domestic abuse. 

What's wrong with you.

Telling people they're not listening to advise and are lost causes, simply because they're asking questions and giving their two cents.

Seriously, grow up and get out of this gang up mentality. 

1 minute ago, Timona said:

 

Boss,they're not gonna do that. USCIS doesn't click on external links nor insert thumb drivers on their systems, gadgets provided by outsiders. Think security.

 

If that video really matters to you, just take screenshots of the video, number them in sequential order.

Okay screenshots only, got it. Yeah numbering is good so they connect the dates. I mean, listen, I still might not submit it, but if I do, this is good to know. Thanks. 

9 minutes ago, Kanja said:

Here he asked how he can withdraw his Affidavit of support. Everyone told him it’s not possible so now it seems like he’s looking for another way to get back at her by reporting her for working unauthorized. Even the language is same. 
 

 

You obviously believe you are apart of some tribe of some sort and seem emotionally invested in punishing people who you are prejudiced against, without provocation. Good luck with all that. 

10 minutes ago, Timona said:

Lemme sum it up:

1. You have been told how to submit evidence. You can submit anything apart from videos / anything on flash drives etc. So, take statics of the video of you want. 

2. Once you're satisfied, because that's what you want, concentrate on your divorce. 

3. I would not even be talking to the lady about you doing 1 above because she can use it and twist it against you to justify why she divorced you. 

4. I'd suggest heal and then try dating and marrying closer to home, someone without need for immigration paperwork. 

 

If you want sidechat, PM me. I can tell you about a divorce that happened this year, a friend, same story. I can tell you how he went through it. He did pay an attorney but results are the same. So, instead of you paying an attorney, I can give you the specifics and you can then choose if it worth huffing and puffing. 

Okay, I'll consider this. Thanks.

7 minutes ago, milimelo said:

They won’t accept anything that’s not on paper only. Digital thumb drives, cds, dvd’s. So anything video is out (unless they’re willing to go to a link you provide to watch the video but that’s be unlikely). 

I was going to submit it through their tips page, I could link to a image holder website, and a video holder website, where they could click on a link I provide and they could easily view and download the screenshots and/or the video.

10 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

Exactly. Move on. Divorce quickly and quietly. 

We have given the OP advice on exactly that but they are stuck on revenge.

 

@AsientoDelNegro you are not painting a very good picture of yourself by wanting to continue to abuse. THINK about what I just said. No matter what your immigrant did to you, your actions now are that of abuse. I am not saying that to be mean or make you want to fight back. I am saying it matter of factly. WHY do you want to continue? 

End it and walk.

 

 

"..continue abuse..," what are you talking about? I've just been asking questions on whether or not to hand in screenshots of violations of work authorization, and I have conceded that nothing will most likely come of it. 

You people just seem bent on framing me as an unrepentant murderer of innocent orphaned children and the elderly, or something equally hellish. Christ. What's wrong with you people. 

A few folks here seem extremely bias towards sponsors and American citizens. Jesus. 

It's hard to focus on salient advise when it's peppered with constant reflexive damaging assumptions and prejudgements. 

Ridiculous.
 

2 minutes ago, Kanja said:

I’m not assuming, it’s a fact. Inquire with a lawyer if you are very invested. They will tell you. USCIS won’t write that out explicitly on their website for obvious reasons. 

..what obvious reasons, that people will take advantage of marriage, and use it to circumvent the employment authorization laws.  

1 minute ago, K1visaHopeful said:

A violation of what?  She is not obligated to work however you signed the I864 so your obligation is fortified in immigration statute and law.

Understanding the I864 liability prior to signing was imperative. 

See one comment up. 

So short of killing myself, which more and more seems like not such a bad idea.

There's nothing I can do.

Got it. Thanks.

24 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

She has the video of when you shoved her.

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If you must report her, get an InfoPass appointment with USCIS, and ask to speak with the FDNS officer.  Hand that officer all your objective evidence of your wife's illegalities.  (They cannot accept recorded media.)  Keep vitriol out of it.  Keep foremost in your mind that you will NEVER hear of any result or outcome.  File it, and forget it.  If you insist on wanting to file a report, this is the way that things have to be.

They can't accept recorded media, so they can't accept video? 

Or by recorded media, does that include capturing methods, like screenshots, photos, etc? 

I have screenshots of text messages that show she violated her work authorization, is that admissible?

I can also video screen record the text message threads, so that they can see the messages in their entirety, and in context, with dates, etc. I was thinking of submitting it that way, together with the static screenshots.



 

3 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

Go for it but...

Perhaps she is here and reading all of this too.

Like I said, she has a lot more ammo than you perceive. 

About 8 years of it if she wishes to sue based on the I864. She could quit her job and you'd be required to pay $1400ish/month in support.

This isn't the first time someone has wanted to punish their immigrant in the forums.

Final but sadly repetitive thought: Tread lightly. Like a mouse. 

Yeah but if she willingly quits her job, isn't that in and of itself a violation? 

This makes no sense. It's like the sponsor has no rights. 

I understand that as the sponsor I'm responsible for her, ultimately, but does that give her the free reign to be belligerently taking advantage of my sponsorship.

That doesn't seem right. 

 

Just now, Kanja said:

Based on what you posted (screenshot from USCIS), it says there are certain exception. The exception is she married a US citizen. That violation is forgiven. 

Yeah but I have clear evidence of her working before we were married, i.e., before August 2021. 

And you're reading a lot into exceptions, no..?

You're assuming as such.


 

5 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

Won't happen until after divorce. 

Legally, you cannot remove a spouse from HI benefits until after divorce is final. 

Damn. I just can't catch a break. 

5 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

A 2 year green card holder is a resident. She cannot be found guilty of anything after the fact as she is already a resident. 

The questions were already asked on the I485. 

Let it go. 

Get a quiet divorce. 

She has a lot more on you than you perceive. 

...I'll consider your advise, but I can't let go of the fact that I don't see anywhere on USCIS website that backs up what you're saying.

That basically, she can do whatever she wants and break any laws and has absolute immunity, now that she has the all encompassing and all powerful green card.

It seems I have nothing to lose by reporting her and testing your theory. 
 

5 minutes ago, Kanja said:

You were deceptive too though, as you admitted. You had this information before and did nothing with it. How do you suggest they hold you accountable? 

I'm willing to accept any punishment they have for me as a first time offender and someone who isn't an immigration law expert. 

And as someone who was initially in a loving relationship with my spirited and plucky wife at the time, who convinced me that it was not a big deal.

I doubt I'm going to get the chair. 

4 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

You're still welcome. 

I strongly suggest you do some research on DV in case it bites you in the hiney.

DV does NOT equivocate to physical violence. You are very misunderstood. 

DV is many things including a lot of which you have mentioned. 

If you are in an at fault state she could make your life complicated if she filed a contested divorce based on DV.

..Luckily, we filed for divorce jointly and uncontested. It's just going to take 12-15 months to finalize, per the lawyer, because of covid slow downs in the courts apparently. 

It was filed literally a week after I submitted my Benefits package at work, so she's going to be on my benefits for a year.

When I get back from vacation, I will attempt to talk to HR directly to try and get her off of it. 


 

5 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

She has been APPROVED for residency. 

Anything you quoted is in regards to AFTER FILING and PRIOR approval. 

So if that's the case and she has her 2 year Green Card (not her 10 year green card, not her citizenship), then I should just go ahead and report her and see what happens, and leave it in the hands of USCIS.

Worst case scenario is USCIS does nothing.

Best case scenario is that something and someone finally holds someone accountable around here, for lies and deception.


 

46 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

Too late.

 

 

There are none.

You can't back track now after she has residency. 

Those violations would have been discussed at her first GC and 90% likely forgiven. 

Whether or not her name is on the lease, kicking someone out of their residence is illegal.

If she has EVER received a piece of mail there, she is a resident. 

 

Also illegal.

Again....assault. 

Take that up with your divorce lawyer.

I think you should divorce and move on.

It's her immigration journey now. 

Reporting her for anything may result in your own legal troubles for doing the things you have listed which are forms of domestic violence.

Tread carefully.

..But I appreciate the caution you advise and I still humbly thank you for the feedback. Really, thank you. Just trying to process all this and add my two cents. 

45 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

Too late.

 

 

There are none.

You can't back track now after she has residency. 

Those violations would have been discussed at her first GC and 90% likely forgiven. 

Whether or not her name is on the lease, kicking someone out of their residence is illegal.

If she has EVER received a piece of mail there, she is a resident. 

 

Also illegal.

Again....assault. 

Take that up with your divorce lawyer.

I think you should divorce and move on.

It's her immigration journey now. 

Reporting her for anything may result in your own legal troubles for doing the things you have listed which are forms of domestic violence.

Tread carefully.

EDIT:

..first of all, the domestic violence claim really irks me. Some people seem to have no idea what undeniable domestic violence is, and you throw it around casually without considering the one you're accusing. 

I'm sorry, but shoving someone once (after you catch them cheating and they refuse to leave when you tell them to (regardless of the legality of asking them to leave, that neither of us had awareness of at the time)), who popped right back up and wasn't injured in any way, is not domestic violence. Get real. She has never had any scars, bruises or injuries on her, ever, from anything I did to her. 

And if that is the standard for domestic violence, then I have a video of her aggressively taking my phone out of my hands with a scowl on her face. 

Also I have many texts of her using aggressive language towards me, and can pull quotes from her expressing that she's going to kill me. If we're going to be mindlessly literal and verbatim about everything, then fine. 

Also, there was one time we were arguing (usually about her never listening to me, and about me suspecting her of cheating or sketchy behavior and her vehemently denying it) and I was attempting to leave the apartment without telling her where I was going, and after she asked me where I was going; and then she puts her hands on me and pulls me back in the apartment, from the hallway, and wouldn't let me leave. 

There was another occasion where a similar argument occurred, and I stepped out again, and was walking outside, and she catches up to me and doesn't let me out of her sight and harasses (since we're using legal terms with reckless abandon) me by refusing to let me walk alone. 

So if we're going to start throwing accusations around, then we're going to have to consider her indiscretions also, and be consistent with these uninformed assessments of patterns of behavior. 

I'm sorry, but she's not the dandelion you're making her out to be. Christ. Have an imagination and grow up and be sensible. 

I'm taller than her, yes, but she is a tall athletic woman and is very vocal and not shy at all. You have no idea what you're talking about. 

34 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

Too late.

 

 

There are none.

You can't back track now after she has residency. 

Those violations would have been discussed at her first GC and 90% likely forgiven. 

Whether or not her name is on the lease, kicking someone out of their residence is illegal.

If she has EVER received a piece of mail there, she is a resident. 

 

Also illegal.

Again....assault. 

Take that up with your divorce lawyer.

I think you should divorce and move on.

It's her immigration journey now. 

Reporting her for anything may result in your own legal troubles for doing the things you have listed which are forms of domestic violence.

Tread carefully.

..Also, you're saying she's untouchable now regardless if I have clear evidence she violated her work authorization, because it's too late, according to your own words.

Yet on USCIS own website it clearly says that there is no statute of limitation.

 

Quote

 

With certain exceptions, an applicant is barred from adjusting status if:

• He or she continues in or accepts unauthorized employment prior to filing an application for adjustment of status; ^[1] or

• He or she has ever engaged in unauthorized employment, whether before or after filing an adjustment application. ^[2] 

These bars apply not only to unauthorized employment since an applicant’s most recent entry but also to unauthorized employment during any previous periods of stay in the United States. ^[3] 

 

..or am I missing something?

 

11 minutes ago, K1visaHopeful said:

Too late.

 

 

There are none.

You can't back track now after she has residency. 

Those violations would have been discussed at her first GC and 90% likely forgiven. 

Whether or not her name is on the lease, kicking someone out of their residence is illegal.

If she has EVER received a piece of mail there, she is a resident. 

 

Also illegal.

Again....assault. 

Take that up with your divorce lawyer.

I think you should divorce and move on.

It's her immigration journey now. 

Reporting her for anything may result in your own legal troubles for doing the things you have listed which are forms of domestic violence.

Tread carefully.

..first of all, the domestic violence claim really irks me. Some people seem to have no idea what undeniable domestic violence is, and you throw it around casually without considering the one you're accusing. 

I'm sorry, but shoving someone once (after you catch them cheating and they refuse to leave when you tell them too (regardless of the legality of asking them to leave, that neither of us had awareness of at the time)), who popped right back up and wasn't injured in any way, is not domestic violence. Get real. She has never had any scares, bruises or injuries on her, ever, from anything I did to her. 

And if that is the standard for domestic violence, then I have a video of her aggressively taking my phone out of my hands with a scowl on her face. 

Also, there was one time we were arguing (usually about her never listening to me, and about me suspecting her of cheating or sketchy behavior and her vehemently denying it) and I was attempting to leave the apartment without telling her where I was going, and after she asked me where I was going; and then she puts her hands on me and pulls me back in the apartment, from the hallway, and wouldn't let me leave. 

There was another occasion where a similar argument occurred and I stepped out again, and was walking outside, and she catches up to me and doesn't let me out of her sight and harasses (since we're using legal terms with reckless abandon) me by refusing to let me walk alone. 

So if we're going to stark throwing accusations around, then we're going to have to consider her indiscretions also. 

I'm sorry, but she's not the dandelion you're making her out to be. Christ. Have an imagination and grow up and be sensible. 

I'm taller than her, yes, but she is a tall athletic woman and is very vocal and not shy at all. You have no idea what you're talking about. 


 

Sponsor Wants To Report Soon To Be Ex Wife For Work Authorization Violation.

I have countless text messages of her discussing working at a cafe and as a nanny, throughout our 2+ year relationship (1+ of those years married), before she received her EAD/social security card, etc, in November 2021, for authorization to work 2/2022-2/2024.

She has her 2 year green card, travel and work papers.

I want to inform USCIS of her work violations.

My only hesitation is my liability in all of it.

I was aware she was working and warned her many times about working without a Social Security number, but she never listens to me.

On a side note, we're divorcing because I have screenshots of her cheating on me, and her stuff is still at my place after I kicked her out of my apartment, which she is not on the lease to. I have since refused her to retrieve her stuff, and was attempting to get her to sign an affidavit that would simultaneously prevent me from reporting her for any reason, and for her to not lie about anything she may claim I have done (she lies a lot, to get what she wants) in order to expedite her citizenship journey. I also have texts from her and her friends detailing that I'm a good guy and that she never said anything bad about me during the entirety of our relationship. Her friends, who were at our wedding, even expressed that what she has done to me was stupid, wrong, embarrassing and crazy (after I showed them the screenshots of her cheating). Literally, I have the messages/screenshots of all of this.

I'm just paranoid because she has a video of me shoving her the day I confronted her about her infidelity because she refused to initially leave the apartment.

Also, through the affidavit, I wanted her to pay me for back rent and medical insurance benefits to the tune of $5,000. 

Now she has refused to sign. So I'm concerned about the texts I've sent her detailing the affidavit while warning her that I would report her to USCIS.

But I have half a mind to report her any way, and just be honest with USCIS about me attempting to recover expenses, and my culpability in initially just taking her word for it, when she expressed that working prior to an EAD was "...no big deal and everyone does it," her words. 


What do you all think?