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  1. NDL2022
    Cause her belongs are still here, and I won’t let her in the apartment. Also she doesn’t want me to send the screenshots to her friends and associates, and I don’t want her to disparage me or disperse the video to my family, etc. I also want her to reimburse me for certain expenses. These are the terms of the affidavit I’ve drawn up, so far, that she may sign. I reduced the amount she owes me, and because of that, I believe, she has come back to the table. She also revealed that she understands why I’m disappointed, but maintains she has her side of the story in terms of the infidelity, and that she would never disparage me or destroy me. So there’s that. For what it’s worth. But I’d rather have it in writing and notarized. Which I’m trying to get done.
  2. NDL2022
    No. But the day I kicked her out, after confronting her about her cheating, and after I gathered the screenshots from her phone, she refused to leave and was deny her cheating. She’s an extremely stubborn and unwavering person, and she customarily would never listen to me, so at one point to compel her to leave I broke a mirror with a baseball bat and I pushed her, all of which she recorded, all the while repeating for her to leave and her refusing. Until she finally did. So the video is useless to her, by her own estimation, cause it shows her refusing to leave. Also, she had numerous health screenings for her HHA certification and for USCIS purposes and she was always healthy and with no signs of abuse. I just know that she’s a documented liar now, and I don’t trust her at all. She still maintains she didn’t cheat and that I should hear her side of things. This, in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary from two of her phones. So yes, I worry about worst case scenarios of a demonstrated desperate person doing desperate things, at all costs and at the disparagement of anyone.
  3. NDL2022
    Actually she may agree to sign an affidavit for us not to disparage each other during her remaining USCIS journey. So in other words, she won’t subject me to VAWA accusations. The divorce is pretty much set, but now it will take 12-15 months to finalize, according to her, from her lawyer(s). My only concern now, is that, in the affidavit that she might sign, if I should include sponsorship protections, along the lines of, she committing to never go on welfare or public assistance? Which I’m certain she can abide by. However, my only concern would be if she goes on NY Healthcare for low income individuals. Would the government come after me, the primary sponsor, if she goes on NY healthcare for low wage earners?
  4. NDL2022
    …oh yeah, I also need the final divorce papers to get her off my benefits package from my job. I was such a fool to marry this woman. But we were dating, things were going well, and she cried in front of me saying she wanted to see her parents in Georgia, and about how she nursed her father back to health after he suffered a stroke. The whole nine yards, and I fell for everything. It was a real marriage, but it was definitely rushed. At the time also, I wasn’t exactly the marriage type either. But I got caught up in the “mission,” of getting her home. Live and learn.
  5. NDL2022
    Yeah, you meant 10 years. 10 years, or 40 quarters, i.e., 4 quarters per year.
  6. NDL2022
    Okay. Yeah, I should receive that in June/July. I just want to make sure my bases are covered, I have a child with another woman, and in case I want to start another family down the road, I don’t want this to be a problem. She’s a hard worker, so I don’t believe she would ever be a ward of the state, i.e., on welfare, government assistance, etc., but I also believed her when she said she never cheats. That’s what scares me. But she has always held multiple jobs, even before she received her work authorization, so I hope she continues working. Also she has two apartments back in Georgia that she claims is primarily to help support her retired parents. So she’s not destitute. Her jobs are medial labor jobs though, but she has more than one, always. Nanny, cafe worker, restaurant bar worker, she has her HHA certificate, her food prep and handling cert, etc. She’s college educated, although a useless “art knowledge” degree from Georgia, and she speaks passable english. But she’s going to be 41 in January. I Don’t know. In ten years she’ll be 51. Time will tell. But thanks all, I appreciate the information and education. If there’s anything else I should know, please feel free to post.
  7. NDL2022
    Okay I get it now. As a hypothetical question, however, can she get another primary sponsor? Let’s say she finds another sponsor, would that then fully relieve me of any financial liabilities as the current primary sponsor?
  8. NDL2022
    Okay I understand now. Just a hypothetical question, can she get another primary sponsor? Let’s say she remarries or let’s say she merely finds another sponsor, friend, associate, employer, etc., would that then definitively relieve me of any responsibility as the current primary sponsor?
  9. NDL2022
    I’m not trying to use anything over her head, I just want to make sure I’m not paying for anything in the future, if she suddenly decides to come after me.
  10. NDL2022
    But that’s the thing, the original sponsor when we filed back in 10/2021 was someone else, who had their own business, cause I was unemployed/underemployed at the time, I didn’t find full employment until 2/2022. So technically isn’t he the primary sponsor? I have to check the case online, which I’m still setting up. Maybe that’ll tell me who the primary sponsor is.
  11. NDL2022
    I read about divorce waiver somewhere, wouldn’t she have to prove that the divorce was due to wrong doing on my part, like abuse or infidelity, etc. Where, wouldn’t I be given a chance to state my case, where I could show that she cheated on me. Then at that point, if she fails to get her 10 year green card, wouldn’t she have to leave the country anyway, thus alleviating me of my sponsor burden? Basically, the divorce waiver isn’t just granted without a burden of conditions that she has to meet. Right?
  12. NDL2022
    Well the divorce is on it’s way, it’s been filed amicably because I had leverage over her, she even paid for it. So it’s technically not my attorney. The divorce is estimated by the lawyer to be finalized in June/July 2023. Okay, so that being the case, what if I could have her use another sponsor? It’s a long shot, her stuff is still here, and think I could get her to revert to her initial sponsor, I think that would insure I’m rid of this albatross hanging over me.
  13. NDL2022
    It’s not that I don’t want to listen, it’s that I am processing everything and making sure everyone understands exactly what’s happening. I’m guessing everyone thinks she has the 10 year green card, and she doesn’t, she has the 2 year conditional green card, which itself implies a probationary period. Also, I should mention that before I got full employment in 2/2022 another sponsor was slated to be filed with her USCIS case. Actually, she was called back for a second meeting (not interview), because at the time we were doing our first interview, that sponsor came up in the USCIS systems with red flags. Now, she eventually got her 2 year green card cause she had to sign an affidavit of sorts clarifying that I was the sponsor now and that the original sponsor was legitimately a friend, etc. I don’t know the details, but she definitely had to go back to meet with them to sign some clarifying letter of some sort. But it wasn’t a “stokes” (forgot the terminology) interview, and I wasn’t required to be there for that. To be clear. So I’m just still gathering info and clarifying along the way to make sure I understand what might happen.
  14. NDL2022
    Okay I see. To be clear, I have no interest in her faith in any regards. I’m simply trying to make sure I’m not stuck involuntarily paying this woman x amount of money that is no longer my wife and who cheated on me. Also, remember, she just got her 2 year green card, not her 10 year one. So doesn’t she still have to be on her “best behavior” so to speak until she gets her 10 year card? Also one of the check box questions on one of the forms says “do you plan on engaging in polygamy,” it’s a long shot, but hasn’t she violated that also? Anyway, I just want to make sure years down the road I don’t get a court order saying I have to cough up part of my income to this woman. So I was wondering if in this 2 year moment if there is something I could do to withdraw sponsorship? Or is it truly a lost cause and I have to cross my fingers and have this hanging over me for the rest of my life. Christ.
  15. NDL2022
    Can you merge it under the title “Withdraw” instead of “Redraw,” that’s why I accidentally reposted, I thought I was editing it.
  16. NDL2022
    From what I’ve gathered so far from other sources, I simply have to call USCIS and tell them I wish withdraw my i-130 and i-864 on the bases of infidelity, and with the screenshots of her correspondences alone, they’ll grant me the removal without me being responsible for her financially. Especially since she already has employment since May 2022 officially, it’s apart if her case files. Also, she already has a place to live outside of my residence.
  17. NDL2022
    Based on what? You’re just trolling.
  18. NDL2022
    So I had leverage over my wife from Gerogia compelling her to pay for our divorce, after I collected screenshots from her two phones showing that she cheated on me. She has already received her two year conditional greencard and work authorization and SS # from around August-October, 2022. I kicked her out of my apartment, she’s never been on the lease and is not on the lease, but she would receive mail here since we’ve been married since August 2021. I’ve since demanded that she change her mailing address, I don’t know if she has. There’s still mail coming here for her as of 11/28/2022, we filed for divorce 11/14/2022. So how can I withdraw my sponsorship of her without being held liable? I’m in NYC by the way, and according to the divorce attorney, the divorce will be final in June or July 2023. Also her belongings are still in the apartment, she only took what she could carry when I kicked her out on 11/13/2022.
  19. NDL2022
    EDIT: Withdraw sponsorship of unfaithful 2 year green card holder? As in REMOVE sponsorship. Sorry, that should have been the title of the post. Hopefully a moderator sees this and can edit it for me. …also in the original post “redraw” is repeated when it should be “withdraw.”
  20. NDL2022
    First, this is Ohio. I’m in New York City. Second, I did not bring her here from Georgia, and even though I make significantly more than her and she has some medical issues with bone pain and antidepressant medication (which I discovered after we filed for divorce) she speaks adequate english and has already maintained employment on her own. So none of that applies to my case I would wager. I just want to know how seamless it would be for me to remove my sponsorship of her, especially since I have screenshots proving she cheated on me, via her correspondence with multiple guys on social media and on her main line.
  21. NDL2022
    So I had leverage over my wife from Gerogia compelling her to pay for our divorce, after I collected screenshots from her two phones showing that she cheated on me. She has already received her two year conditional greencard and work authorization and SS # from around August-October, 2022. I kicked her out of my apartment, she’s never been on the lease and is not on the lease, but she would receive mail here since we’ve been married since August 2021. I’ve since demanded that she change her mailing address, I don’t know if she has. There’s still mail coming here for her as of 11/28/2022, we filed for divorce 11/14/2022. So how can I redraw my sponsorship of her without being held liable? I’m in NYC by the way, and according to the divorce attorney, the divorce will be final in June or July 2023. Also her belongings are still in the apartment, she only took what she could carry when I kicked her out on 11/13/2022.
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