Bigdaddy288

Ok I will respond to your long rambling one paragraph at a time: Anger is not an excuse, never was never will. It's better to walk away when angry rather than saying stuff you don't mean. However many people don't know when to walk away and they say stuff they don't mean in order to feel they won the argument. Is it right? No. Can it be changed? Absolutely, with COMMUNICATION. I don't know how you concluded that in my relationship, that my spouse and I call each other names? Maybe ignorance or arrogance from your part. I quoted the op's original post, which indicates that this was the first time. That she "THINKS" this could happen again (I underlined the word and bolded it for you too). Again I'm not saying the guy is an angel but humans make mistakes especially when angry. COMMUNICATION to establish BOUNDARIES is necessary (what I've been trying to say from the begining) walking away from the first argument doesn't establish your boundaries. Also what made you conclude he doesn't care? And if the op divorces her husband, I'm gonna be offended? That's a new one, I don't know the op, the op don't know me. It won't affect me in any way or shape. Congrats on coming close to your retirement and your 15th year anniversary. But I'm pretty sure your boundaries were not established without COMMUNICATION which what I've been trying to say the whole time. Im sure communicating doesn't make you miserable or in a bad marriage, I thought it would actually make your life with your spouse better. My views are dangerous to opinions that encourage spouses to walk away from a marriage just because one spouse made a mistake which is absolutely dangerous to humanity. If it's a repeat l, absolutely I got your back and I would say get out. But these two love birds just got married, they just had their real first argument. Why ruin their marriage by telling them to divorce when they can fix it? Op: you are an adult woman who is intelligent and knows what she wants from her spouse. I'm not advising you to stay in an unhealthy, unhappy, disrespectful relationship with your husband like these people are trying to make me sound like. What I'm advising is, since this is the first time your husband disrespected you in a moment of anger. Communicate your expectations to establish your boundaries. If such behavior re-occurs, than walking out is the strongest solution and divorce is an even better solution because you already established your boundaries. This is only an advise I'm not saying you should do it. You are a free woman who can chose how to direct her life.

Thanks for assuming that was my experience, but you know what assuming makes out of you. But to each their own. I value a relationship (especially a spouse), and I think those need harder work than walking away. Good night

But as you said OP is an adult and they know what's best for them. I might be to old school, but I dont give up without fixing first. If fixing is not an option for me than I walk away. Apologies if my views are too outdated.

I agree. But you can't factor out the human part. Every single human gets angry and says what they don't mean. What does that mean? Divorce and walk away? No, communicate and if the issue is not fix, than walk away and divorce.

This mentality is the reason why divorce rates are higher than 50 years ago. It destroys the fundamentals of marriage which are communication, respect and working together. Those 3 come even before love. Love fades away after a short while. Learning those 3 will make you dive deeper than love itself.

I didn't say tolerate it. I said communicate your expectations which should include respect from that spouse. The issue with many newly weds is they expect the other spouse to meet their non communicated expectation like that spouse is able to read minds. It doesn't work that way. Communication of expectations, goals and other stuff should happen before marriage in order to be in the same page and that would eliminate the being surprised by unknown things in marriage; which a lot of newer generations run to divorce as a solution. Divorce should be a last resort, not an lightly chosen option. Sit down with your spouse and figure it out, that's how old school did it and they learned to love each other with their flaws. Again I didn't say tolerate the behavior, I said communicate and if it happens again than use other option which might include separation or divorce. Men are not mind readers, and women are not either. Instead of walking off of a relationship because something simple, put your feelings aside and fix it. The true BS will be giving up at the beginning of the road because the man expects to be treated as king or the woman being treated as a queen when both are not on the same page.

If him calling you the B word made you feel unsafe or unloved, pack your clothes and leave. Coming from someone who was married for 13 years and hoping for more years to come and this is my genuine advice: don't leave. Communicate with your husband. Tell him what your expectations and what you want from him. He should tell you his as well. Once that is established I think both of you will be able to communicate better and respectfully. You have to ask him what are his expectations as well and realize that a marriage is a 2 way Street. Respect does not come without expressing your expectations, how you feel about situations and your goals. Last night's argument was your ice breaker to establish that so you can have a healthy successful happy marriage. I pray for you two to figure it out. But trust me, marriage demands thick skin. And once you communicate you will go through your ups and downs a lot easier together.

The weird thing is NVC has never contacted him so far. They contacted him about his wife's application but not his son.

1- Case wasn't denies. It was closed and forwarded to department of state. 2- both parents 3- both parents were married at the time of birth

Thank you for the reply But wouldn't the child has to be admitted to the US as a permanent resident for N600 to take effect? Why would uscis forward his application to the state department instead of nvc with his mother's?

Hello: So a friend of mine applied for his wife and son's I130 last year (around March). Uscis approved the wife's I130 and sent it to NVC. However the son's I130 was closed and sent to department of state. My friend married before he became a US citizen and his son was born before he became a citizen too. So we were under the impression that the son needs an I130 with his mother. Why would USCIS send the application to the department of state and what is his next step? Thank you.

It baffles me how they consider brothers and sisters immediate family members but when it comes to this they are not 😂

Side question but related to this subject. I filed for my brother in 2014, uscis still processing I130. Are you saying after uscis approves i130, nvc has another lengthy wait?