MarJhi

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Fresh story today. Any thoughts? houghts?

I will say this. The left, democrats, progressives, whatever label they want to attach themselves to aren't afraid of anyone on the opposite side of the political spectrum. They are FAR more fearful of people on their own side because if you stray off the narrative on any subject you will be cancelled, eaten by your own. That is why you never see anyone on that side call out the perversion you see at some of these drag queen events involving men doing burlesque performances in front of small children. In this world of tribal politics there is no room for diversity of thought in their tribe, you are all in or you are cancelled, and that cancellation is more unthinkable to them than anything that will happen to Budweiser.

I saw a video of a drag queen story hour last year. There was a fat man in a wig and full makeup wearing pantyhose in the video. He lay face up on the floor and had several 4-5 year old children straddle his torso while he said "wiggle wiggle wiggle". This wasn't harmless entertainment for children, this was parents handing over their children to a pervert and thinking to themselves how open minded and progressive they are.

He is essentially wearing blackface. Acting like a cartoon character of a pre-teen girl and dressing up like Audrey Hepburn is nothing more than cosplay. Hair, makeup, dresses and acting silly aren't things that make a woman a woman (or a girl as he likes to pretend). Also, who said anything about gay people? What does this have to do with gay people?

It has nothing to do with someone different eating or drinking the same thing as you do. It has everything to do with someone making a mockery of women and being rewarded for it. Actually, the person never calls himself a woman, he says he is on his journey into "girlhood", which quite frankly is a little creepy. Personally, I have never seen or met a female of ANY age who acts like this man does outside of someone doing a skit about an outrageously silly pre-teen female that nobody has ever seen the likes of. He is doing an Al Jolson style blackface routine.

We got our NOA2 for our K1 and after that it was 96 days of silence from NVC until they sent us a notice that our case had been forwarded to the embassy. Be patient. Once the embassy received our petition things moved quite rapidly.

This will morph into different rates based on race.

My fiance had her interview a few weeks ago with a 6:30AM appointment, she got there about a half hour early and that was plenty. Just make sure she doesn't take her cell phone because it won't be allowed inside.

Don't forget the CFO requirement, it is causing about a 2 month delay in my fiance getting here. Some will tell you you need the visa in hand before your CFO appointment but that is not true. Do the CFO appointment, when you get your visa in hand you can take it down and show it to them and they will give you the certificate of completion. My fiance got her visa in hand on 3/23/23 but the earliest available CFO appointment was 2 months later on 5/22. She would be here by now if it wasn't for the delay.

It took 96 days from NOA2 to the NVC sending us an email saying it was transferred to the embassy in Manila, we heard nothing else the entire time at NVC. Once it got to the embassy things moved rapidly.

So what you seem to want is to file a K1, have her go ahead and come to the US, get married to her so you can live together. Then while you are ALREADY married and she is in the US you want to wait out the time until your K1 is approved. What is the point of the process if you are just trying to circumvent the process? I do not think this works the way you seem to want it to work.

Just keep collecting evidence while you wait for the NOA2. Save every receipt for any money remittances, screenshots of chat messages (the embassy staff actually looked at that), call logs etc., just save everything that proves ongoing communication. Have her get a file folder and start organizing documents so that when the time comes she will have everything available and easy to find for the medical, interview and CFO appointments. You have plenty of time, have her start collecting immunization records, she will need those if they are available otherwise she will be given those shots again at her medical. We met in person twice pre-pandemic and not since. They did ask why we haven't met since and she said "because of covid travel restrictions" and they accepted that answer at her interview.

We had 2 in person meetings 2 weeks each time. Covid hit immediately after our second in person meeting and after a long time (18 months) waiting for travel to open back up we decided to file the K1. You seem to have more time together that we had with a similar age difference and she got her visa last month with no problems or extra scrutiny.

Okay this isn't like test driving a car for 18 months before deciding to buy. You need to prove the validity of the relationship beforehand. You are 100% allowed to live together, but that's going to have be done in their country or a third country.

My grandfather who was the nicest guy you could ever meet had a small farm in Alabama a long time ago. He mostly grew corn, watermelon, green beans and some greens but he did raise a few animals. He would raise about 8 to 10 pigs and he built a smokehouse out back, but when it came time to take them to the slaughterhouse he could not bring himself to do it. He had the bad habit of naming each and every animal on his farm, which led him get attached to them more like pets. His solution was that when it came time to take them to the slaughterhouse, he would trade his pigs to the farmer down the road and that farmer would give him the meat from their pigs in return. Even after a lifetime of farming he never got used to the idea of eating the animals he raised.

She started out alive, now she is dead, so your assessment holds true.

Unfortunately, due to the politicization of everything today it is sometimes necessary to know who these people are and what they were thinking. Otherwise, you allow the politicians and the media to steer the narrative in the direction they find most advantageous. The "misgendering" of this murderous woman was no accident in my opinion. I believe the media was struggling with the idea that this woman was a member of the trans community and that doesn't fit the narrative they like to put forward. Usually in these situations, if the shooter is in one demographic, they are just hate filled ____ists or ____phobic (fill in the blank). But if the shooter is not in that demographic, they are mentally ill, struggling with something or were lashing out against some perceived wrongdoing against them. There are those that believe hate is a one way street and it disrupts their point of view when the truth is there are a lot of hateful scumbags going in every direction.

How about we stop raising kids today to be victims? Maybe stop teaching kids that everything about them must be "affirmed" by society at large and if anyone doesn't celebrate their existence then they are the enemy. How about we stop drugging children up for every little thing? Maybe we can teach kids that respect is not demanded, it is earned. Let's teach kids that not everyone you run across in your life is going to like you, and that's ok, it's not the end of the world. Maybe adults who can't deal with their child's behavior at a young age should find a way to deal with them that doesn't involve taking them to a doctor and having something prescribed for the child to make them easier to handle. How about we stop letting the trouble makers off the hook because "maybe they were dealing with something" or they came from a rough upbringing. What about the people who think cops should do something who at the same time wan't to demonize the police for doing something? Sure it's easy for those with an anti 2nd amendment bent to go straight to that well, but they never seem to want to address what we are doing to kids. I work in a building with a lot of young people, and it is frightening how many of them are on meds and are not shy about telling you. We are destroying an entire generation with the nonsense their heads are being filled with and the drugs that are being pumped into them. We have created this incredibly fragile, broken generation who can't handle any adversity. I hate to be that "back in my day" guy, but damn, what the hell happened? The schools didn't look like prisons like they do now with walls and fences surrounding the buildings. Guys had gun racks in their trucks in the parking lot (with guns in them) and it wasn't even something to think about or worry about. The ONLY thing that I see that is different from 40 years ago when I was in school is that nobody was medicated like they are now and we were taught that adversity makes you stronger and it wasn't the end of the world.

Honestly, let's think long term here. If by some miracle you could get beyond the nightmare of having to give up monthly pizza night in order to pay to have communication with this woman, what are you going to do if things progress? There will be a lot of costs in the future. If you make a commitment to this woman, are you going to step up and help her with her monthly living expenses until she gets here? Are you going to argue about the cost of transportation to get her to her medical at St. Lukes or an interview at the embassy? There will be hotels involved, taxis, jeepneys and trikes. She will need to eat while she is there. What about the costs if the whole Visa process itself, are you prepared to shell out that kind of money? She will need to request documents and have things printed, will you stress her out about spending too much money for this or that? Then of course there is the cost of traveling to go see her (staying in better hotels than you would have her stay in of course). Will you try to court her in one trip, or multiple trips. If all goes well, there is flying her to the US, you might have to buy her a suitcase!! Send her $20/$50/whatever, see how she does. It's a drop in the bucket compared to the expenses that lie ahead if this relationship moves forward. If you can't handle spending a small amount on this woman then both of you are wasting time with one another.

There's a huge difference between a woman in the USA who can't pay her phone bill and a woman in the Philippines (particularly in the province) who can't afford load. One is probably just irresponsible, the other might not know if she can afford to eat from one day to the next. I knew a Filipina years ago, a cousin of one of my friends who married an American sailor. They married , had a kid and he moved them to San Diego. When he shipped out for most of the year, he would give his wife enough cash to pay the rent and barely enough to eat. She would let the electricity and phone service get shut off because she had no choice. It took a lot of convincing buy her cousins in the US to get her to finally leave that guy. Don't be that guy.

If at some point to decide to make a commitment to her will you then be "handing over money"? I understand you not wanting to get burned, but when do you want to find out if she is responsible with money or not? I would rather know sooner than later. If you give her $10 or $15 for load and she says she is out of load after 3 days then you know there's a problem.

Well for anyone to help they would have to know what the reason for the denial was. "denied unfairly" isn't much to go on.

When my fiance and I first started talking online and I decided I wanted to talk more without using up all of her load I did an internet search and discovered I could send load to Globe through the Western Union website. It's very easy to do, all you need to know is her first and last name and her phone number. Here is the link below. Reload mobile devices around the world | Western Union US

As long as they are prepared and have all of the documents they need ready for the interview then you have nothing to worry about. My fiance had her K1 interview last week and she said it was a good experience and everyone was very nice.