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Thanks for your help. I decided to not continue with her. Too many red flags even for me. And if they are red flags for me, then I guarantee they will be for USCIS. I'm not willing to travel down that road. It's been difficult enough. There is no need to invite problems into my life, especially after what I just experienced with the last two immigrant wives. I would prefer to meet someone already documented. Less hassle. Life is too short. Anyway, thanks for allowing me to part of this awesome community. For me, it is like a support group. I went on a dating site in recent weeks and I was amazed at how many women even as young as 18 to 20 living in places like Cuba and Colombia were proclaiming their love for a 55 year old man whom they've never met or even spoken with. It can't get any more obvious. That's to say for anyone on those sites to exercise much caution and wisdom.

I still need to have that conversation with her. That's what I plan to do really soon. We have barely talked about immigration but I know it is something we are going to have to have a long talk about before making any life changing decisions.

I'm not sure how much she knows about the immigration process. She was saying that she would like to go to her home country and if we marry for me to go with her there. During our first conversation, however, she plainly said that she isn't looking for papers but for a companion who will be her life partner. I'm not sure because we are still in a vetting process. I'm not going to be blinded by love like a lot of people are. I'm definitely not desperate because I do have plenty of options. I just like this lady a whole lot but I still need to continue getting to know her and, yes, my radar is on full force.

No they don't know each other. There is no way. Second, I wouldn't quite call her my "fiance" at this point as I haven't even proposed to her. It is just something that I'm thinking about before asking for her hand in marriage. Right now, it is a dating relationship where we are getting to know one another. That's all.

As far as desperately looking for a way into the US - she is willing to move back to Honduras. I don't want her to but she said it would be the only way. What's interesting is that though she is younger, she is definitely wiser than most women twice her age. I was more concerned about the age difference. It isn't concerning to she nor I but I just wasn't sure how UCSIS would look at it. Is it common for people with an age difference to marry and be approved?

I knew when I brought this up that the issues would be addressed. I'm no longer one who lets my heart overpower my head - in that way, I'm a bit stoic. Experience has somewhat jaded me to it all. I guess you all are stating what I'm already thinking. I really like her but I don't want to end up on another broken path. I'm just being cautious. There is a saying: "sometimes the juice isn't worth the squeeze." I am not blinded by love because I have learned to watch for signs. I'm just getting to know her and I am not even sure if marriage is even an option but I'm just asking if we did marry, what would be be up against? I think she would have to go back to her home country to wait it out? As for me, I'm not sure that I'm prepared to live in separate countries again for up to two years - been there and done that and it was the hardest thing I've ever experienced. Just thinking out loud as I process all of this. I love being part of such a wonderful community- I honestly feel your support! Thank you!

Update: The divorced finalized in April and was seamless. Everything went well.

Yes. I've been divorced since April. But again, I'm not getting married again for at least 4-6 months from now. I'm just processing this through.

Hello Fellow VJers. I met someone and we are in a dating relationship. We are considering marriage a few months down the road. We are taking the time to get to know one another. Here are the issues that I could have to consider and your wisdom/help with this would be greatly appreciated. (Experience has taught me to listen to people with experience!) 1. A few years ago, I sponsored an I-130 visa for my ex-wife ex-wife. Her three kids followed two years later with approved I-130 step-kid visas. We divorced. Then I married again and started the visa process with my new wife. The petition was received but then I canceled it one month later then we entered into divorce proceedings (see my other posts on the topic) We moved on with our lives. So, this would mean that I have 4 petitions approved (spouse + 3 stepkids) and another submitted (wife) but canceled just one month after UCSIS they received it. I never received confirmation that it was canceled, however. But I assume so since nothing else came. 2. My potential spouse is undocumented and if we marry in the USA, I assume she will have to return to her home country - Honduras to wait out the decision? She is willing to do that, but I'm not sure if there is another option to allow her to stay to wait it out? 3. There is also an age difference - 28 and 55. Would that present a potential obstacle in proving bona fides? I just wanted to come here to ask your input/advice before making any steps into something that may or may not work out. I just want to see what I'm up against before proceeding into marriage with her. Please know that I want to be with her but I'm not jumping into another immigration marriage before weighing out all of the potential pitfalls, which is why I'm here asking people who have experience everything under the sun when it comes to immigration. Thanks for your candor!

I checked in the UCSIS site and the application has not been withdrawn as of yet. I sent the withdraw request in January. It says... Case Was Received and A Receipt Notice Was Sent On December 20, 2024, we received your Form I-130, Petition for Alien Relative, Receipt Number , and sent you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX receipt notice or acceptance notice. The notice describes how we will process your case. Please follow the instructions in the notice. If you move, go to www.uscis.gov/addresschange to give us your new mailing address.

I'm not sure what you mean by working on a VAWA claim. Another target? Explain? I don't like her showing up at my house unannounced. Luckily there were two people there with me.

Hello everyone! Thank you so much for walking with me through this mess. There aren't enough words to describe how much your advice and encouragement are appreciated. As an update, let me say that she showed up to meet me at my lawyer's office where she signed the divorce papers with the notary present. After signing the papers, she has tried to meet up with me. I told her no I'm not interested. She has been blocked from all communication except one (a phone line) and the only reason I left it open is for her to get her things. The divorce papers are signed by both of us and the only thing left to do is to have a date scheduled for the judge to sign off on them. My Concern: I discovered that she is now stalking me from across the street. She sits in her vehicle watching my house. And last night, I had a friend over where we with my daughter were watching a movie relaxing at home and she showed up out of the blue to pick up her things. I asked her to come back later because she was interrupting my evening. She was adamant about getting her things at that very moment. She was alone and the positive thing is that I had two witnesses there (my daughter and a friend). I will be contacting my lawyer. She texted me today to say that she hopes I'm happy and will never be back again.

My attorney said to keep her mail and offer to give it to her. She still has some things left behind (though she hasn't made an effort to pick it up). As per advice of my attorney, they are all stored in boxes. The attorney said do not get rid of anything until the divorce is finalized.

She has a pending Master Hearing for Deportation court date set for 2026. When the TPS terminates, will that court date be cancelled? The USCIS case status has not been updated. I haven't heard anything back about them cancelling the I-130. It was about three weeks ago when I sent it through certified mail. I did confirm that it was received.

The EAD was approved based on her having an active I-130? I'm confused. I was thinking it was because she had a Parole Stamp and a a Asylum Petition pending. I noticed that her EAD was approved quickly in 3 weeks of filing if my memory serves me correctly.

But can that come back on me in any way? What concerns me is that she could claim that I was part of it (not true) or that it could strengthen her VAWA (if that is what she is doing) because I understand that threats to call ICE is a basis for VAWA. Do I understand correctly? She needs to be deported because she is definitely acting on the level of criminal at this point (IMO). My lawyer said that they are not concerned with immigration but only with the divorce.

I'm confused. What does the I-130 cancellation have to do with the EAD?

So, I shouldn't report her? Just let her fall on her own sword? Because I would imagine that a VAWA claim will have to be supported with evidence (there is none).

What is interesting is about two hours before she supposedly "lawyered up", she sent a picture of some things at a store (backpack, etc) and asked me to buy them for her. My attorney's office said the fact that she used the phrase, "I'm going to court" is a dead giveaway that she probably doesn't have a lawyer because people don't go to court. They go to mediation. I would be surprised if she goes to court because of her immigration status unless she actually thinks having a SSN card and a work permit somehow grants her residency. My guess is that, if she does actually have a lawyer, then it is a friend of a friend calling himself a lawyer, as happens so often in the underground illegal immigrant community. They operate outside the system anyway. Sorry to vent. Just tired of the nonsense. I was the one defrauded and it continues.

Well the fact that she is still using my address is grounds enough for her to be deported. I will tell them that she has been out of the home since mid-January and I don't where she is though she is continuing to use my address. I'm truly considering reporting her. My lawyer fears that is could backfire. I'm not sure how. I have evidence upon evidence including her offering me 3000.

No proof. No evidence. No pictures. No police. Nothing but her claims. That is the reason that I did not allow her back into the house three weeks ago. And if she claims that then I can show them texts of her begging to spend the night (which was a set up). So, I'm trying to beat the temptation of reporting her for immigration fraud. I'm tired of this and I don't need her signature.

Thank you all so much for your help through this. Not only is this forum therapeutic, but it is helping me to avoid potential pitfalls. She texted me yesterday asking for my lawyer's number and was saying that she has a lawyer and that she is going to court. I contacted my lawyer and was told that, until they hear from her lawyer, we will proceed along the timeline (no response in 30 days, it goes toward default). They said that people say they have lawyers all the time but it is just a bluff. I'm tired of dealing with the games and I asked if I should just go ahead and call ICE but was told that I should wait because it could somehow backfire on me. How is calling ICE backfiring when she literally committed immigration fraud? Her Tik Tok showed up on my email. She has a picture of a pregnancy stick showing positive. It is real because it is on her bed (I recognize the blanket). Nothing was written. Just the picture and no comments. I'm quite concerned that she is going to try and claim that it is mine but that is impossible because we haven't had intimacy since December and even then it wasn't full intimacy (I won't disclose details). She has been out of the home since mid-January (who knows where she has been or what she has been doing). This is relevant because she tried to say she was pregnant back early December when we were still together after telling me that she could not have kids. Her youngest son is 18 and she had the operation when he was born, according to her. I was questioning even then because she was spending the largest percentage of time away from me and we were barely intimate and not even full on intimacy. As I could predict, she was negative as per her doctor. (What went through my mind at that time, even then, was "anchor baby"). But now she is suddenly posting a positive pregnancy stick? Statistically it is impossible and even so, it cannot be mine. On top of that, she is claiming that I am aggressive and yelled at her, pushed her, etc. None of it is true. No evidence. My question is what would happen if I just go ahead and report her to ICE? I'm not a vengeful person, I'm just trying to protect myself and my daughter from a woman who apparently will stop at nothing to stay in this country. I'm screenshotting all correspondence before blocking her because after you block someone, you can no longer access the texts. I just don't need any more of the stress because I was fine until she texted yesterday.

UPDATE: Thank you all for your words of encouragement and, quite frankly, without VJ, I may have stepped into a trap of a person who may or may not be trying to formulate a VAWA (something I would have never known had it not been for VJ). She was served with divorce papers, and we are no longer corresponding. I haven't heard anything from her. My lawyer said that she will have to be contacted regarding a court date, but he may be able to send it to her last known address at best. At worst, we may have to run a publication for 30 days, which will cost more money. The local church and I met yesterday, and they unanimously approved my remaining. They said they did not trust her from the beginning, and they see it as I have "righted a wrong." Much to my surprise, they are actually supporting this divorce. I did petition to withdraw the I-130 a little over a month ago and I went into to the case status with the IOE number, but it is not showing as updated from December (showing case received). I don't know if there is anything else I can do other than just wait it out. I only sent the I-130 and nothing else. So, I only assuming that it will drop automatically anyway. I can't be stressed over UCSIS because I'm just wanting to walk away from this entire mess and move on with my life.

What you are saying is sobering. I was wondering why she tried so aggressively yesterday to get me to meet with her. She never texts me but then she was texting nonstop from about 2pm until about 7pm trying to persuade me to meet with her. The strange thing was that she would not accept meeting in public. It had to be at home. She was using every excuse in the book by saying things like she wants to see me one last time before she leaves for good (she supposedly has a ticket waiting on her), promising intimacy, and then saying she could come to sign papers. I told her to meet me at UPS to sign in front of a notary. She refused by only agreeing to meet at the house. She said that she could either spent the night or leave after saying proper goodbyes. After being told no, she said she was coming anyway. I told her it would be a wasted trip because I wouldn't be home. I told her I would be out working, which was true. I do some independent work on the side, so I keep myself busy. It had me stressed because I had no idea why this odd behavior. In either case, I got home later and spent the night at home. Didn't hear anything else. It was very odd because this aggressive behavior was coming from the same woman who avoided me for months. She said she had a lawyer and would leave the papers signed with him before leaving.

Thank you so much for the advice but frankly, I'm not concerned with my USCIS reputation because I won't be sponsoring any more immigrants for two reasons. First, it's highly doubtful that I will marry again and second, I'm really only open to American citizens when I'm ready to date again.