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Thanks for your help. I decided to not continue with her. Too many red flags even for me. And if they are red flags for me, then I guarantee they will be for USCIS. I'm not willing to travel down that road. It's been difficult enough. There is no need to invite problems into my life, especially after what I just experienced with the last two immigrant wives. I would prefer to meet someone already documented. Less hassle. Life is too short. Anyway, thanks for allowing me to part of this awesome community. For me, it is like a support group. I went on a dating site in recent weeks and I was amazed at how many women even as young as 18 to 20 living in places like Cuba and Colombia were proclaiming their love for a 55 year old man whom they've never met or even spoken with. It can't get any more obvious. That's to say for anyone on those sites to exercise much caution and wisdom.

I still need to have that conversation with her. That's what I plan to do really soon. We have barely talked about immigration but I know it is something we are going to have to have a long talk about before making any life changing decisions.

I'm not sure how much she knows about the immigration process. She was saying that she would like to go to her home country and if we marry for me to go with her there. During our first conversation, however, she plainly said that she isn't looking for papers but for a companion who will be her life partner. I'm not sure because we are still in a vetting process. I'm not going to be blinded by love like a lot of people are. I'm definitely not desperate because I do have plenty of options. I just like this lady a whole lot but I still need to continue getting to know her and, yes, my radar is on full force.

No they don't know each other. There is no way. Second, I wouldn't quite call her my "fiance" at this point as I haven't even proposed to her. It is just something that I'm thinking about before asking for her hand in marriage. Right now, it is a dating relationship where we are getting to know one another. That's all.

As far as desperately looking for a way into the US - she is willing to move back to Honduras. I don't want her to but she said it would be the only way. What's interesting is that though she is younger, she is definitely wiser than most women twice her age. I was more concerned about the age difference. It isn't concerning to she nor I but I just wasn't sure how UCSIS would look at it. Is it common for people with an age difference to marry and be approved?

I knew when I brought this up that the issues would be addressed. I'm no longer one who lets my heart overpower my head - in that way, I'm a bit stoic. Experience has somewhat jaded me to it all. I guess you all are stating what I'm already thinking. I really like her but I don't want to end up on another broken path. I'm just being cautious. There is a saying: "sometimes the juice isn't worth the squeeze." I am not blinded by love because I have learned to watch for signs. I'm just getting to know her and I am not even sure if marriage is even an option but I'm just asking if we did marry, what would be be up against? I think she would have to go back to her home country to wait it out? As for me, I'm not sure that I'm prepared to live in separate countries again for up to two years - been there and done that and it was the hardest thing I've ever experienced. Just thinking out loud as I process all of this. I love being part of such a wonderful community- I honestly feel your support! Thank you!

Update: The divorced finalized in April and was seamless. Everything went well.

Yes. I've been divorced since April. But again, I'm not getting married again for at least 4-6 months from now. I'm just processing this through.

Hello Fellow VJers. I met someone and we are in a dating relationship. We are considering marriage a few months down the road. We are taking the time to get to know one another. Here are the issues that I could have to consider and your wisdom/help with this would be greatly appreciated. (Experience has taught me to listen to people with experience!) 1. A few years ago, I sponsored an I-130 visa for my ex-wife ex-wife. Her three kids followed two years later with approved I-130 step-kid visas. We divorced. Then I married again and started the visa process with my new wife. The petition was received but then I canceled it one month later then we entered into divorce proceedings (see my other posts on the topic) We moved on with our lives. So, this would mean that I have 4 petitions approved (spouse + 3 stepkids) and another submitted (wife) but canceled just one month after UCSIS they received it. I never received confirmation that it was canceled, however. But I assume so since nothing else came. 2. My potential spouse is undocumented and if we marry in the USA, I assume she will have to return to her home country - Honduras to wait out the decision? She is willing to do that, but I'm not sure if there is another option to allow her to stay to wait it out? 3. There is also an age difference - 28 and 55. Would that present a potential obstacle in proving bona fides? I just wanted to come here to ask your input/advice before making any steps into something that may or may not work out. I just want to see what I'm up against before proceeding into marriage with her. Please know that I want to be with her but I'm not jumping into another immigration marriage before weighing out all of the potential pitfalls, which is why I'm here asking people who have experience everything under the sun when it comes to immigration. Thanks for your candor!

I checked in the UCSIS site and the application has not been withdrawn as of yet. I sent the withdraw request in January. It says... Case Was Received and A Receipt Notice Was Sent On December 20, 2024, we received your Form I-130, Petition for Alien Relative, Receipt Number , and sent you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX receipt notice or acceptance notice. The notice describes how we will process your case. Please follow the instructions in the notice. If you move, go to www.uscis.gov/addresschange to give us your new mailing address.

I'm not sure what you mean by working on a VAWA claim. Another target? Explain? I don't like her showing up at my house unannounced. Luckily there were two people there with me.

Hello everyone! Thank you so much for walking with me through this mess. There aren't enough words to describe how much your advice and encouragement are appreciated. As an update, let me say that she showed up to meet me at my lawyer's office where she signed the divorce papers with the notary present. After signing the papers, she has tried to meet up with me. I told her no I'm not interested. She has been blocked from all communication except one (a phone line) and the only reason I left it open is for her to get her things. The divorce papers are signed by both of us and the only thing left to do is to have a date scheduled for the judge to sign off on them. My Concern: I discovered that she is now stalking me from across the street. She sits in her vehicle watching my house. And last night, I had a friend over where we with my daughter were watching a movie relaxing at home and she showed up out of the blue to pick up her things. I asked her to come back later because she was interrupting my evening. She was adamant about getting her things at that very moment. She was alone and the positive thing is that I had two witnesses there (my daughter and a friend). I will be contacting my lawyer. She texted me today to say that she hopes I'm happy and will never be back again.

My attorney said to keep her mail and offer to give it to her. She still has some things left behind (though she hasn't made an effort to pick it up). As per advice of my attorney, they are all stored in boxes. The attorney said do not get rid of anything until the divorce is finalized.

She has a pending Master Hearing for Deportation court date set for 2026. When the TPS terminates, will that court date be cancelled? The USCIS case status has not been updated. I haven't heard anything back about them cancelling the I-130. It was about three weeks ago when I sent it through certified mail. I did confirm that it was received.

The EAD was approved based on her having an active I-130? I'm confused. I was thinking it was because she had a Parole Stamp and a a Asylum Petition pending. I noticed that her EAD was approved quickly in 3 weeks of filing if my memory serves me correctly.