Lot of you guys were helpful Thank you ! Others not so much made me think that I should have known better But like I said never did anyone mention ssn , never got welcome package from embassy , couldn't file taxes jointly and of course didn't search for a work authorization when I'm not going to work (!!!) ;D
Apparently my situation is normal after talking with different people on rapidvisa. Yes with SSN you'll have stronger evidence however it's not necessarily when you can write a letter explaining your situation . If this is normal then yes there's lack of informing people on this subject but oh well it is what it is .