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With that I mainly meant stable work and more of a footing in the US because I only got my green card in July so I just started to work really in October (lost that job for others reasons) so if worst were to happen I didn’t have to fly back I had more options. If that makes sense; I know he doesn’t need to do anything to do with ROC i really want to make that apparent. Basically work it out for a decent amount of time then both make a mutual decision together. Divorce is off the table for us now.

I think I’ve got really all the answers I need and I’ll definitely talk to him about all the options we have. I know I don’t need to rely on him for anything in terms of ROC I just needed to know if I was ok to fly back really in the first place. It’s a very complicated situation but then again so is marriage. I’m really thankful for everyone’s support. ❤️ if it’s ok can the thread be closed I just don’t want any misunderstandings because I know basically all the answers I need to know.

I didn’t realise that could be perceived as fraud because that’s completely not my intention at all I think you misunderstood me it’s basically we will try to work things out as much as we can and work out all options and he wouldn’t go through with a divorce unless I had stability basically. It’s preferable that if he were to do anything it’d be after that if that makes sense sorry if it got confused. 😊 not saying we plan to stay together just for that that’d be ridiculous. Especially since we know I can still live in the US on my own.

Oh definitely obviously I’m sure that things will work out; he wants to atleast make it so if it were to happen down the line I wasn’t losing my entire life. But that’s a worst case scenario. Heres hoping it will all work out but I’m sure we can salvage things. 😊 thank you so much everyone again

Thank you so much everyone for the support ❤️ it really got me through those days; I know things seem like a rollercoaster but things seem to be looking back up and he promised me that by January I’ll be flying back and we will work things out and ONLY if we go through every option and I have my ten year green card/ life over here that’s when we will divorce. I honestly would prefer to live in the US on my own to be fair because I came to love the country and it feels more like home to me now that I’m back in the UK. I assume everything is fine for me to fly back on my green card; i flew out using my UK passport; but I assume it’s very similar when using your green card. 😊 I can’t wait to be back to the home I made for myself and heres to a future hopefully where we work things out. 😊

2 year green card; I’d need to file for ROC in 2024

He’s looking at filing for it soon; honestly I am probably going to start my life back up in the UK just because there’s a bigger support system here and the only reason I moved to the US was for him. But at the same time I don’t know; I’m not sure. I know that once you show more ties to your home country the green card is basically abandoned especially after 6 months but he did say that if he were to heal he’d try to reconnect with me. I told him I would want him to move here but I do still love the US. I know there’s direct consulate filing if we were to remarry. But it’s all just uncertain. God only knows what’s gonna happen. 😊

So I made a post I think about a week ago saying how me and my husband reconciled; long story short he changed his mind again while I’m still here in the UK trying to recover from before and I have to now again figure out my entire life again. I am just looking for some sort of support because I feel like I’m the only one who’s ever gone through this. I’m only 21 and I moved my whole life for him and was starting to kind of build a life for myself while there. I’m grieving so much and he said that maybe in the future he’d come back to me after he got serious help. But I don’t even know what the future holds. I was going to settle down with him and have a family. That’s all I wanted in life really. Of course I wanted my own life but I didn’t think of the possibility of this happening let alone this quick after marriage.

Thank you all so much for your advice; regarding this I assume that id only need to talk about it if we were separated and living apart? He moved to a different address but we were planning to move to his dads anyways so I’m sure it doesn’t make any difference probably just clarifying I’m sure it’s just the same thing of just visiting family. 😊 only other thing was when I did initially leave I did pack my main stuff as initially it was assumed it was permanent but; obviously we didn’t know for exact at the time. But again I’m sure that makes no difference 😊😂

Yeah I figured I was overthinking I just wanted to make sure I was 100% right on this. Thank you so much for the help! Sometimes I need some rationality 😂

Thank you so much this forum is always so supportive! ❤️ only thing is I don’t have my rings on me left them with the hubby when things were bad. You don’t think they’ll care to know about that? That’s not me omitting information correct? I’m sure I can just say spending time with family 😅

Been on this forum since about 2019; long story short moved to the US last year on a K1 visa to marry love of my life. Year went by things were great got my GC in July; things went rocky. I flew back to the UK to be with family as we were about to divorce, (he never filed any divorce papers or moved any of my stuff back) didn’t know if it was temporary or permanent. We got talking again husband wants me back and I want to go back, but I am going to spend the holidays with family until I go back. Sort of a freshen up before the new year so we can be a lot stronger in our marriage. I know it’s not technically considered abandonment of my status because I still have all my US ties and it’s only been a month. I just don’t really know what to say to CBP when flying back; I’m also on the autism spectrum so I can get misunderstood easily. I know I am going to tell the truth fully because I’m sure they get cases like this I just don’t want to have the wrong impression because when I flew I didn’t know if it’d be temporary or permanent because we just needed some space and it was the best option at the time for us to both be with family. I may just overthinking things but I just want to make sure because I can’t wait to be back with him and start a new.