Hi fam, I am 41 months in (Feb 2020) and had to reach out to my Senator's office and a response came last month that it is at background check. I will encourage you to reach out to your Congress person/Senator as well. After waiting this long, I will encourage you to hold on to hope. Let's look at it this way - when your VAWA is approved, you get a 10 year green card whereas if you started the process afresh, you first get a conditional green card (2 years) and also back to relying on someone for your status. By filing for VAWA, you took your destiny in your hands which I believe is a brave thing to do. Do not despair fam, your day is coming soon.