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Yeah unfortunately it hasn’t happened to me yet, so I haven’t been able to feel that “rush”

Any updates on this case?

I’d have asked them to explain to me their concept of “quicker”

Hahaha I totally get it… hindsight 20/20, but I shouldn’t have gone AAAAAALLL the way out. Thank you for cheering on me. But can we cheer on LIN, the NBC and the Columbus Field office? So that they get around to work on my case?

Which might vary based on his answers to my questions imho

Where are you from? what visa did you have when you came to the US? Age difference? Had you ever applied for a visa before? Has your ex ever petitioned for someone else? Where is the ex from?

Seconding this opinion. It is in fact strange that they they ask about the marriage

I still don't understand what your question/ concern is.

Wohooo! Your interview is almost there! I already uploaded a letter requesting the combo interview when I filed the N400

See, I would love to ask USCIS how they work. Is it that the NBC sends the FO a notification that they have a candidate for an N400 interview, and asked the FO to open up an interview slot? Or does the FO surveys the NBC to see if they have any local candidates? Hope that it makes sense!

The thing is, out of a pool of 7-8 Columbus Field Office applicants, only one was filing under the three- year rule with a pending 751. The rest were filing under the five- year rule with either an approved 751, or they never had to do a 751 because they were an IR-1. @SalishSea was LIN December 2021, and they were approved recently. So I am hoping to hear something by September, which is also what the VJ estimate is telling me. I am a teacher, so the school year is really packed for me. But if I am not approved by the end of September, I will spend my winter break researching and reading the resources that @igoyougoduke has so graciously shared for a WoM. I just want to think that I will not have to get to that.

As some of you may know, I applied for my 751 back in February 2022. My N400 has been pending since February 2023, and it has done nothing to "unlock" my 751. It has somehow been the message in VJ that the N400 speeds up the 751, but I just wanted to throw a word of caution out there and say it is not necessarily the case. So don't have high hopes when you submit the N400 and spend close to $800. At this pace, it seems that none of my files have connected to each other, and that my 751 will run its natural course as if I had never submitted the N400.

Conversely, what role model will you be if you stay in an unhappy relationship?

Got it. Was it under the three- year or the five- year rule?

Question: when did they notify you of the coming Interview? What’s your field office?

Who knows... I think I sent too much, hindsight 20/20

Doesn't she have an online account? She should. I can guarantee you that letter has been posted for about a month.

You have to be kidding me. Come on, attend the interview and get it done with!

Yayyyyy!!! And send good vibes my way, I’m a January 22 filer, so I might be next!

I know it for certain after being in this forum for 4+ years. They haven’t even touched your case yet. It doesn’t mean that they’re satisfied with what you’ve sent

Yayyyyyyy!!! So how are we celebrating?!

So I have had my morning coffee already and I have been able to read this thread carefully (at least that’s what I think). The very first thing that is striking is the title… “Step kids not accepting their step mom”, but the body of your texts suggests that she’s not accepting either. And again, she’s older than them, so in their dynamic, she should be the adult one. Yet she locks herself in the bedroom, or is jealous of a kid (your youngest). Like I said in my earlier reply, kids are kids and they have not yet learned to manage big emotions, and having a step mom from outside the US coming and live with them “unannounced” is a big deal. Bridge under the water now, but getting them involved in the preparations and in her coming here would have been very, very mature and helpful. But that’s done now. We have to work with what we have. …. And what do we have? We have your children that are probably feeling left out, and to a certain degree “invaded” because no one prepared them for this change so soon. It is your job to do so! We also have your 31 year old fiancé who is not behaving as such. She, unlike your children, knew what was going to happen. She had time to process and prepare, yet she’s acting like your kids in terms of the immaturity of her actions. I understand she has had a rough life, but just like with everything else, she has two choices with her experience; either she learns from it and becomes a better person, or she puts herself in a victim position. Looks like she’s choosing the latter. Finally, we have the intercultural component of your relationship, which can be tricky especially with regards to expectations and needs. It looks like the few visits you had were not enough to get to know each other deeply, and talk about expectations. Seems as if the communication department is lagging. All this to say, I would definitely not get married with all this “baggage”. I am not saying don’t ever get married, but certainly not for now. To me, the first step is to postpone the wedding. Second step is to talk to your children, let them share what they are worried about and do not take them any less serious because “they are just kids”. Once your children have shared their feelings with you, talk to her and assess the situation together. But your children should come into the conversation first because they are your priority, and they have big feelings they can’t regulate. She’s an adult. Maybe things work out. Maybe they won’t. But you shouldn’t jump the gun and get married without following the necessary steps. You already did it once by not telling your children when she’ll be with you, don’t do it twice.

The 48 month extension letter and the biometrics are just automatically sent

Stepmom here to a nine year old boy. Definitely things should/ could have been handled differently from the start, especially with regards to the kids. But on the other hand, she’s an adult and she knew what she was getting into. And she should be acting like the adult she is now. I know people are going to tell me she might be in cultural shock and whatnot and again, I do understand that, but she’s the adult and hopefully she knows how to manage big emotions. Kids don’t. You’re the father and should protect and advocate for them.

I know many of you don’t like Hacking, but plenty of people that are on the verge of being deported come to the show and ask… ”can I file for asylum?” As if filing for asylum was as simple as going to the grocery store.