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Actually, no. Relatively speaking, Canada, by percentage, had more people naturalize last year than the US.

So, have you guys set up Screen Time? If you're set up as a family, even though you're in different households, there's no reason you both shouldn't be able to control it. If she's not interested, you could set it up and control. Mini-B could be locked out of specific apps until he demonstrated to you the work was done, either through a portal (does his school use Canvas?) or FaceTime. Kid2 gets cut off at specific times daily and if there's some rage gaming going on with anger management issues, there's an instantaneous locked out option to "readjust and realign" attitude. The kids were back in Canada while we were here in Texas and the screentime still works...much to kiddo's dismay. Kid1 is a teenager and basically has the freedom to do whatever, but this kid also has a proven track record of self managing and getting things done. Kid2 has no control. Also, if Band is Mini-B's jam, then maybe that needs to be part of the collateral for working. If he goes to HS and wants to continue in Band, it's no different than Athletics - they have to keep their average above 70% or they get kicked out and put on academic probation. If he wants to remain eligible for Band, then he needs to understand and prove that he can manage his time among everything or it's being taken away among the other rewards such as phone and VR. We need to fork over the cash and get Kid1 tested just so we have proof on paper that it's ADHD and can have testing accommodations in place for post secondary academia for said kid. Kid2 has already had 2 psych ed evaluations done and has been diagnosed with DMDD, which creates some different challenges. Neurodivergent kids' brains respond to stimuli differently than neurotypical kids, so the traditional ways of managing using behavior based reward systems doesn't work. For lack of a better comparison, neurotypical kids are similar to dogs that are food motivated. Food motivated dogs can be trained using treats. Nerotypical kids can be persuaded by behavior rewards. But if you have a dog that isn't motivated by food, training suddenly has to become more creative as you have to find what motivates the dog. In ADHD brains, it's a dopamine hit and that doesn't come from the traditional behavior based reward systems neurotypical people try to apply. It's also, in part, why there are certain tasks that you'll see major task avoidance on - no matter how much the ADHDer knows the task needs to be done, they avoid it and will do any and everything else because they know it won't reward their brain. It can actually do the opposite and cause anxiety, which is even more detrimental. Another interesting thing to note is many neurodivergent kids have the MTHFR gene mutation which impacts their ability to absorb and process folate and B vitamins. These are the building blocks for hormones, which dopamine is. Methylated folate is more bioavailable for our bodies to absorb. A nurse who helps treat ADHD patients in a local group I'm in stated she tells her patients to take a methylated folate and B-12 vitamin supplement and combine with caffeine and these people tend to see their ADHD symptoms calm down. Might be worth the blood test and some kid vitamins with methylfolate for the Tornado. Kid1 has seen an improvement when the teenager actually remembers to take the supplement!

Sorry, the attorney. Even worse!!! Fire the attorney! Clearly just trying to set you up for failure to get more money out of you.

When dealing with Immigration, honesty is 100% the best policy. Act like a criminal, be treated like one. Be honest, and everything will go smoothly. If she's coming to reunite with you and work and study, then be honest that that's what she's going to do. Why did your family tell you guys to lie about it? That's what I don't understand.

Proof that the petitioner lives in the US. Copies of lease/mortgage agreements, DL, etc. That said, is there a reason you're choosing a K-1 over a CR/IR-1?

Are you 100% sure the Consulate received your medical? Did you get an additional email asking you to provide an extensive, 15 year travel history?

I have a friend here in TX who just wants Nanaimo squares for Christmas. Every year - "are you gonna make me some of those tasty Nanaimo squares?" Easy peasy!

It's a ploy to ensure that the regular patrons visit their senior citizen family members to go acquire the coupons! True story. I am allowed to touch and rub the belly of the boy cat. The girl cat - no chance, not ever. That's an invitation to a shredding event. How's your acorn situation? I think we're finally nearly rid of acorns being flung at our heads every time we go outside. Cream cheese works a treat. The vet gave me that tip. Doggo can't smell it and thinks it's a treat. Another option if regular cheese quits working.

NEXUS is a Trusted Traveler program to facilitate entry through Customs in Canada and the US. You technically still require the passport for air travel. There's no guarantee a plane won't have to divert to a location outside of the US or Canada and then your husband won't have proper travel documents.

In summary, all dinosaurs taste the same. Good to know!

All good until CPB actually enforces DOT which requires OEM TPMS. Not the manufacturer's fault and clearly stated in the DOT regulation. Regardless, I'm not importing any vehicles so it's not my circus to run

Congrats! Big relief

Sounds like a little bit of peace and routine is returning. Happy to hear it!

You're dealing with a government entity...they work at the speed of sloth most of the time

These aren't red flags. People have worked on L1 visas before and people have to renew passports all of the time. Initially, it seemed the DS-5535's were targeted for people who were of a MENA background or had worked there or had a specific education type. Then, it seemed to turn unto a random number generator. Elderly parents who'd lived their entire lives on the farm on the Prairies, young children, just...random. Remember, too, that this thread is people who have come together to share their experiences. It's a concentrated number of people for a specific reason. There are plenty of other people who whisk through the process with no issues at all but they aren't here. Immi is hard. It's an emotional rollercoaster. But you gotta make sure that you don't get pulled into the hype and try to logic yourself through so you don't set yourself up for failure.

Your notification will come by e-mail. After you become documentarily qualified, an interview isn't instantaneous. London doesn't have a long wait, but I don't recall people receiving letters in less than a month of late.

Clearly not enough turkey vultures residing in the vicinity...

When you go through security and preclear at US Customs, you're "landing" in the US. Because you're activating your visa, you'll board the aircraft as a shiny, new greencard holder and walk off the aircraft in the US at your final landed destination. The whole preclearance thing can definitely create confusion. It's nice not to have to stand in a line on this end, but it's really a case of robbing from Paul to pay Peter - you stand in a line in Dublin or you stand in a line in the US.

You've stated you're doing preclearance in Dublin. As soon as you step foot into the US Customs area, you've technically landed on US soil. Make sure you get to the airport early so you can visit CBP and have your I-551 endorsed and activated and make sure you've already paid the $220 greencard fee.

Engagement and weddings, like the immigration process, are but a blip in time. Your marriage is intended to last a lifetime, irrespective of how you got there. I have a friend who, when planning her wedding, initially wanted a BIG ta-doo (her family is Filipino) but the cost of having the big wedding undermined what she actually wanted to achieve. She "curated" her guest list to include the people that she felt had been influential on the success of her relationship with her husband and would celebrate and support their life long marriage, through not just the happy times, but the challenging, tough times as well. Hubs and I never got engaged. We left work for lunch one day and he said "maybe we should go get a marriage license". I agreed and off we went. I still don't have an engagement ring. I have a beautiful sapphire and diamond platinum wedding band, though. Hubs and I still got dressed up to the nines - I had a wedding gown (with pockets, no less!), he had a beautiful custom Italian suit, my kids were in formal wear and we got married at a friend's place with him and his wife as our witnesses and photographer with the JP. We took them to a top, high end, local restaurant where I am friends with the chef and enjoyed a delicious meal and then the chef sent this ridiculous dessert tasting menu that was about 6 rounds long! It was planned and executed in 10 days and turned out beautifully. My point is don't get hung up on the engagement and the wedding. If you've met your person, that's what's important. Being together is what's important. Starting your marriage off on an equal footing is important. Bringing your person to the US and them being in a new country with no friends, no family, unable to work, unable (in many states) to drive and 100% financially dependent on you after having their own successful career will not create the most harmonious of situations in which to begin your marriage that's supposed to last a lifetime. Think bigger picture and what that looks like.

You'll have to check this thread out. DQ's from late August and early September got interview letters for January 2024. If you'd like to be included in the tracking spreadsheet, there's a link in my signature. Please follow the instructions at the top of the spreadsheet and tag Hawk Riders.

Kimberly really needs to get some help before she drags TJ down with her. I feel for him when he said he's stuck in the middle. She has a lot of narcissistic traits and the getting mad and screaming at the top of her lungs, even if frustrated, isn't appropriate. Yes, she's in a foreign country. Yes, it's challenging, but it was a choice she made. It doesn't appear that she spent any time researching the customs and expectations of Indian families, the wedding ceremony and the steps to it nor has she spent any time learning the language. Because she "saw TJ in a dream" doesn't mean it was meant to be. Yeah, there was some bait and switch on his part, but I still don't know how anyone leaves everything behind without doing some basic research on the country they are headed to and how the family dynamics will work. No one can depend 100% on their spouse for everything, which is why I always caution people to consider an IR/CR over a K1. Kimberly doesn't seem to want to make the effort to extend the olive branch to TJ's family. Yes, everyone is petty and she had her blowout with the brother, but guess what? You married the family. Your BIL could potentially be a huge ally if you'd leave some of the grievances with each other alone since he does speak English and could help you leave the house when TJ is working. Yohan lost me when he expected Danielle to buy him a new car because his friend's American wife did. I'da ran outta there so fast if my partner pulled that #######... Not surprised he's essentially a male prostitute.

There will be a certain number of interview slots awarded for people who DQ'd on a certain date. Typically, the Priority Dates are then used for prioritizing the order of the interviews for the specified DQ date. Does it make that big of a difference? Probably not. It's likely the difference between an 8am interview and an 11am interview.

Is there any reason you and she cannot meet in another country somewhere? Utah wedding then you go visit her to legitimize the marriage? You can get married in Malaysia, but there is admittedly a lot of work to be done to prepare to marry in Malaysia.

It was your case I was thinking of! Thank you for chiming in! What post office did you do your passports at, if you don't mind me asking? We're booked at The Woodlands Pinecroft USPS. Did they send just the photocopies of your documents? I have 2 kids, 1 naturalization certificate, so I'm a bit worried!