Please fill out your timeline. You'd have eliminated a number of questions ahead of time, had you done so. https://www.visajourney.com/timeline/profile.php?id=481781
Immigration is a privilege, not a right. Your partner is not entitled to live in the US any more than you are entitled to live in her country. Tossing comments around like skipping the queue and having an overall bad attitude isn't going to help your family on this journey. As many have stated, it is 100% possible for you to return to the US, establish domicile and work while your wife and child are in her home country. Many, many of us have done it. You are not special in any way when it comes to this situation. Immigration takes time, money and patience, end of story.