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My case has been on “interview ready to be scheduled” for going on 20 months now. 

My status updated about 5 days before I received the letter, and the interview was scheduled for about 3 weeks after that. 

What does your boyfriend do? Obtaining work sponsorship is difficult and only available to certain highly trained or experienced individuals. 

There are no benefits in waiting to file for adjustment of status after marriage.....none.

My case has been on “interview ready to be scheduled” for going on 20 months now. 

My case has been on “interview ready to be scheduled” for going on 20 months now. 

I’m going to preface all of this by saying that while I find it rather unpleasant to be talking about another woman’s personal intimate life so casually with strangers on here, I feel I need so say something because a lot of what I’ve read in this thread is appalling, even bordering on being suggestive of coercing sex acts.
 
There are countless reasons under the sun this could be happening. So many reasons.
 
OP, have you actually tried sitting down and having a respectful, empathetic conversation with your wife about this? And I don’t mean a conversation framed around why you aren’t receiving sex, but around how your wife is feeling and why she doesn’t feel comfortable being intimate right now?
 
I can absolutely promise you that if someone is feeling uncomfortable about intimacy for any reason, applying pressure to that person and acting like they owe you something is not going to yield positive results. Not to mention, it’s just sort of a skeevy thing to do to, especially someone you love and cherish like your partner.
 
Has she had an okay time adjusting to her life in the U.S.? You mention she has no family and can’t drive. Does she have any friends? Hobbies? Is she enjoying her self? Depression can decimate your libido, sap your energy and make so many things difficult. It is unfortunately all too common for new arrivals in the US to feel a culture shock and go through a hard time with that. People who have been on this forum for a while should know this, I’m surprised it hasn’t come up yet. It could absolutely be an explanation for why things changed shortly after her arrival here. No need to jump to the most cynical of conclusions.
 
Have you shared with her your concern about her not finding you attractive? I know you said a spouse can’t just tell their partner something like that but honestly... being able to have sensitive conversations about things like that is a sign of a healthy relationship. But if you haven’t even asked her about it, it’s possible that may not be the issue at all. 
 
Bottom line, please just talk to your wife. Even if the conversation leads to a confirmation that the relationship just isn’t working out and should dissolve, I do think you BOTH deserve to have your concerns brought up respectfully and honestly.
 
I do believe that sex is an important part of a relationship and being on the same page regarding intimacy is vital. But communication missing from a relationship is always much more detrimental than sex missing from one.

What does your boyfriend do? Obtaining work sponsorship is difficult and only available to certain highly trained or experienced individuals. 

The bottom line is this lack of intimacy is not working for you. I think all of us can understand. I would approach this is an empathetic way with your wife, and not an accusatory one (ie: “you must be using me for a green card because intimacy is nonexistent”). You really need to bring this up with her. Let her know the extent to which this is bothering you. It could be that her libido has decreased and she can consult a physician to find out why. Or it could be that her interest in you has decreased and therefore a divorce would be best, because you need to be in a different relationship if that’s the case as you’re not happy living this way. You’re married adults so please don’t hesitate to speak with her about this. 

The bottom line is this lack of intimacy is not working for you. I think all of us can understand. I would approach this is an empathetic way with your wife, and not an accusatory one (ie: “you must be using me for a green card because intimacy is nonexistent”). You really need to bring this up with her. Let her know the extent to which this is bothering you. It could be that her libido has decreased and she can consult a physician to find out why. Or it could be that her interest in you has decreased and therefore a divorce would be best, because you need to be in a different relationship if that’s the case as you’re not happy living this way. You’re married adults so please don’t hesitate to speak with her about this. 

The bottom line is this lack of intimacy is not working for you. I think all of us can understand. I would approach this is an empathetic way with your wife, and not an accusatory one (ie: “you must be using me for a green card because intimacy is nonexistent”). You really need to bring this up with her. Let her know the extent to which this is bothering you. It could be that her libido has decreased and she can consult a physician to find out why. Or it could be that her interest in you has decreased and therefore a divorce would be best, because you need to be in a different relationship if that’s the case as you’re not happy living this way. You’re married adults so please don’t hesitate to speak with her about this. 

The bottom line is this lack of intimacy is not working for you. I think all of us can understand. I would approach this is an empathetic way with your wife, and not an accusatory one (ie: “you must be using me for a green card because intimacy is nonexistent”). You really need to bring this up with her. Let her know the extent to which this is bothering you. It could be that her libido has decreased and she can consult a physician to find out why. Or it could be that her interest in you has decreased and therefore a divorce would be best, because you need to be in a different relationship if that’s the case as you’re not happy living this way. You’re married adults so please don’t hesitate to speak with her about this. 

My case has been on “interview ready to be scheduled” for going on 20 months now. 

Yea....as stated back on page #1, getting to the US will be a major obstacle..........  please keep us updated as your experience will be valuable to others in the future. 

I don't think they know I've been overseas for two years. I also read some CBP officer post somewhere saying that sometimes they don't do anything and let the person enter. Sometimes you have to pay a fine. They'll also can give you a hard time.

TBH I guess the backlog affected my case. She said is normal, but it shouldn't last more than 3,5 years, tho. 

While these things sound good...they amount to window dressing when the core issue remains that USCIS fails in conducting the most basic functions of thier mission each and every day.
 
 

For most CR1 is the best bet.

That’s not likely to work. H1b visa jobs are mostly physicians, computer science, engineers, etc. Construction is not the kind of profession that qualifies. It’s also very expensive and not an easy process to sponsor someone, even if he was in a profession that might qualify him for a work visa. Fortunately, Canadians are able to spend up to 6 months in the US. He just won’t be able to work unless you get married. 

That’s not likely to work. H1b visa jobs are mostly physicians, computer science, engineers, etc. Construction is not the kind of profession that qualifies. It’s also very expensive and not an easy process to sponsor someone, even if he was in a profession that might qualify him for a work visa. Fortunately, Canadians are able to spend up to 6 months in the US. He just won’t be able to work unless you get married. 

I am not suggesting a TN for painting, I was asking what his qualifications are in case he qualifies for a TN in another field.

I have heard it is still running 12-16 months for a CR1 in general, not sure about Montreal specifically.  If you did incur a ban, there should be a waiver available, and unfortunately you won't find that out until the interview for the CR1, so I would file now assuming you and your spouse are ready.
 
Good Luck!

It appears you have been in the process for only 4 months........ The fun has just begun....

It’s a myriad of problems, including staffing, covid, overall USCIS incompetence, etc. It’s easy to point at Trump based on his anti immigration stand and just solely blame him (and believe me I detest Trump), and the EOs have affected a lot of folks, but it’s a multi faceted issue.

My case has been on “interview ready to be scheduled” for going on 20 months now. 

What the past few years have taught me is that people will see what they want to see. Logic and facts are irrelevant.