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I have been here since 2018, to get advice on filing the I-129f for my (then) fiancé. Now he's a citizen, and I can say with certainty that we would not have had the smooth journey we had without VJ. We did everything DIY, never got an RFE, never had a hiccup throughout the whole experience. The advice here is invaluable, and I am still here because in the last 5 years I have also learned A TON, and I want to keep helping others with their immigration journeys. I have noticed some threads recently (over the last few months) where comments seemed to become unnecessarily rude and unproductive. I do think most of the time the moderation team intervenes though, and cleans up those threads and/or locks it. However, it can take several hours or more before administrative action is taken. Frankly, this is the nature of forums. I was a mod for years on another forum, and it was impossible to please everyone or catch every infraction in a timely manner no matter how hard you try to keep everything clean, friendly, in-line with TOS, etc. I have certainly seen posts here that I thought were "over the line" as far as having a harsh/sarcastic/antagonistic tone. You do have to report these posts if you want anything done about it, which has already been said ad nauseum. However, I have also seen new users get very reactionary, question seasoned members' advice, get mad because they got a "confused" reaction, etc. There is nothing wrong with being blunt or even a bit harsh in those cases as long as you are still being constructive. It can be frustrating to give advice to someone, only for them to make it clear they will be upset unless you say what they want to hear. A few things that stand out to me in this thread so far: The first posts when searching "trans" are off-topic political posts instead of something immigration related. On the flip side, if you search "gay", the first results are immigration specific, and more than half of the results on the first page are immigration specific. Regardless of your political stance, shouldn't trans people be able to find relevant immigration information here? The "confused" reaction is perceived by many to be used in a negative way. So is it constructive to have it here? I don't personally mind it, and I have used it myself, but it's worth considering. People need to report posts. I report posts a lot. If you have issues with what you are seeing, report it. @TBoneTX and I have radically different political views. But I have never, not once, seen TBone be disrespectful to any member of this forum. TBone is an invaluable resource of information here, and he is responsive to reports/issues in threads. The off-topic thing is a separate issue but I tend to just avoid threads that do not interest me and/or have a sensitive topic that I'd rather not be a part of. If there was a way to hide/block threads from view, perhaps that would be helpful. I would use that feature if we had it. People with different political views are also welcome to post whatever political threads they want so it's not like it's "only right-wing takes allowed!" The "I'm out" thing was, imo, completely fine when it was specifically a @Mike E thing, we are all different people with different quirks/habits, but perhaps the recent trend of many other users adopting this phrase has become a bit too much. Especially when multiple people do it in the same thread. Threads aren't an airport, there's no need for every person to announce departure. Just my 2 cents. Overall my experience here has been good and I also like that this website is not an echo-chamber. People from all backgrounds, cultures, and political beliefs co-exist here. And that's a good thing.

This is so true! I used to love going to the movies, but over the last 5+ years there have been very few movies I've been excited to see. I think we are going to see both of them, but I had no interest in dealing with the opening weekend. I really liked Cillian Murphy in Peaky Blinders and I have heard Oppenheimer is good, but too long. We may go see it next weekend. I was on the fence about Barbie for awhile but it seems like silly fun and I like how colorful it is. My husband also said he'd go with me so why not 😅

How much time did you spend together with your ex before the K-1 was denied? Had you both met in person before filing the K-1? When did that first relationship end, and when did you meet your current partner? How much time have you spent in person with your current partner? What is the age difference with your current partner? Does your current partner have kids?

Possible. This tactic is used in discovery in both civil and criminal cases - instead of trying to stonewall discovery and not provide information at all, you can instead bury the other party in paperwork by providing them every scrap of paper that is remotely or tangentially related to the case. However, for the average Joe, it's harder to provide tons of pages of evidence if the relationship isn't bona fide to begin with. So I seriously doubt this would apply to many marriage-based immigration cases. I agree with you, but I also think that the focus should be on high-quality evidence. We sent over 500 pages of evidence with our I-751, but 90% of it was strong evidence of financial comingling and living together. If you send 500 pages consisting of photos, chat logs and affidavits, it's not going to look good.

Tbf, he may not know the answers to these questions, since he is posting on behalf of his friend. His friend needs to join VJ to get advice. The couple in question better hope they actually live together because I'd be willing to bet they are getting a surprise visit sometime in the near future. It's unfortunate that the USC wife blundered questions so badly. Either there is truly something fishy going on, or she got really taken off guard and drew a blank on certain answers, or she had legitimate reasons for not knowing certain things but failed to adequately explain. For example, it's possible she doesn't know the exact amount of rent because the husband handles all finances/pays all bills. But if she just fumbled and threw out an incorrect number, it looks quite bad. And I don't personally know my husband's full SSN by heart ( I do know the last 4), but I can tell you for certain my husband has no clue what my SSN is. 😂 It's all the little things that seem "off" that add up and paint an bad picture for USCIS.

It's good that her divorce was final 3 years before she visited you, but it is NOT good that you haven't seen each other in 3 years. COVID may explain the lack of visit in 2021 but it's 2023 now. Why hasn't she visited?

You do not have to wait 90 days. If someone has told you about a "90 day rule", they are wrong. It's a very persistent myth.

When was the divorce finalized? And was it finalized before her 2 visits to see you in Nigeria?

Unfortunately, pregnancy is not grounds for an expedite. Her mother having Parkinson's is unfortunately also not a circumstance that is relevant to the expedite. If she had complications from pregnancy or a high risk pregnancy, you would possibly have a better shot at an expedite since she is the U.S. citizen, because health of the U.S. Citizen can be a factor to expedite. However, pregnancy alone is not.

I am in the process of preparing our ROC packet, which we will be filing next week (earliest date we can file is 10/31 so I am hoping to get it in the mail on Monday, 11/1). I figured I'd go ahead and start the November thread for anyone else who is in the same boat. As of right now, this is the list of evidence I am including in our packet: Letter from our bank stating the date my husband was added to the account (because our statements only show my name) All statements from that same bank account from the date we were married to present (shows direct deposits from both of our jobs and all marital bills paid from this account) Letter from Discover that shows we opened a joint savings account on July 28, 2020 All statements for that joint savings account Documentation that my husband is the beneficiary on my Roth IRA Our apartment leases from 2019, 2020, and 2021 (with both names) Water bills with both of our names Healthcare durable Power of Attorney for each of us, appointing the other Several official letters we have received with both names (such as IRS notices and the letters from the White House about stimulus checks) 2 verification of insurance letters from Progressive that show both of our names as drivers and lists both vehicles Emergency contact list from my work that shows my husband as my emergency contact Screenshot of our Verizon account that shows both names and phone numbers Membership agreement from Planet Fitness that I gifted my husband (shows his name as the member but my name and bank info for payment) Tax transcripts for 2019 and 2020 Documentation of 4 vacations we took in 2020 and 2021 8 photos of us ranging from Nov. 2019 to July 2021 Joint credit card statements from May 2019 to present Documentation that he is an authorized user on another credit card (his name isn't listed on the statements) Also we just refinanced his vehicle in both of our names so I will add that documentation in if I get it in hand before I send the packet off. I do have a couple of questions, if anyone has input. How many water bills should I include? I have every monthly bill from May 2020 through October 2021, except for 2. I don't know if I should throw them all in or not. As of now, I have not included some documentation that was provided in our AOS packet (or at the interview). Examples include photos that were already provided and documentation of trips already provided. For more context, we were married in May 2019 and our AOS interview was December 2019. If anyone has any other suggestions, feel free to let me know. And good luck to anyone that plans to file in November