Ontarkie

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Of AP

Do you not remember filling out more paperwork after you two were married? If she does have the GC not much you can do. File a report for the abuse of your child and get a good attorney to start the divorce process. One that will stick her with at least half of the debt she created too.

There are members here who's new baby recieved the DS3555 so please do not take it to heart. It truly is random, lawyers are wanting your money that is it that is all. They will give you any reason to keep charging you. Why else would they not tell clients that cases all over are being dismissed pretty regularly since July after a Judge declare 180 some days is not long at all and they are charging 5K plus when ppl are only 3 months in.

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Have you filed for AOS and has she received her GC yet? If it is still in the works, pull the affidavit of support now. As for the abuse to your child file a police report with proof of it. Protect yourself and your son.

~~Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes, from K1 P&P- As similar thread are discussed here.~~

~~MOved to AOS Family K1/K3 P&P, from K1 P&P- the OP is asking about the AOS stage not the K1 Visa stage.~~

Ever since this summer when the Judge declared 16 months is not too long members have been reporting their WOM being dismissed.

I used to do that. I would drop off the Hillbilly at work and then run over to walmart. I'd stock up on way too much, but now we no longer eat the stuff and I don't want that much candy around for the kids.

I forgot you were K1, you're right about being stuck.

You won't be able to import your items until EAD or GC is in hand. Please check the timelines for EAD/AP it was taking 8 months to a year and nearly 2 years to get GC. You won't be able to leave what so ever without AP. It really might not be worth it with you already past the interview. Even with the Dreaded AP. But for sure check the timelines before deciding.

Animals are simply amazing

Our little girls have a belly now. They are eating maybe too well. I keep them in the Jedi's room at night so they don't attempt to try to eat my geckos. I coax them in there at night with treats, so that is probably contributing to the belly. The Jedi is in absolute love with them. They are helping his anxiety so much. Ticks are gone I keep telling him when feels sad, stressed or worried about something go sit on the floor in his room and Rayla comes and plops herself next to him. She just lays there purring. I think these kittens knew he needed them. When we went to go meet them they instantly jumped up on him. The sign from the foster lady said no young kids, but they said otherwise. I'm so happy we took the chance on them. On litter news, I went back to the crystals and we are at 5 weeks on one bag. No stinks and none of that clay, dusty smells either.

Yes, but this Canadian would have better clothes for the cold up in Canada. Plus I also have kids all four would be out there shoveling Not a single doctor I saw in Canada told me what it was. It wasn't until I saw the allergist here in Arkansas. He thought it was really weird they didn't tell me as it can be quite serious when the hives start and your blood pressure drops. He said I could go into hyperthermia a lot easier than the average Joe. It was is really uncomfortable and painful when the charlie horses start too. I stayed inside a lot. Still do in the winters in Arkansas. Everyone thinks I'm nuts for liking the heat. I sit out there all day if I could. I guess I just haven't warmed up yet

I wondered why you would post this in here.Then you made it all wonky We don't ToT in our area, not worth the time to walk all the streets for 3 houses if we're lucky and then they only give 1 tiny little thing. We went out to a friends area, lots of kids. I think the cold kept many inside, as there weren't as many as last year. Not as many houses either but still plenty giving out candy. The Tornado was a Vampire and the Jedi well he became a Mandalorian. Mommy froze, came home and has been dealing with charlie horses all night. Being allergic to cold sucks.

There are a lot of crossing from Canada. You will have to be more specific or search the Canada forums. I didn't import any cars, I did bring 4 kids, a dog, two cats, a bird which I had to have a Vet meet us at the same time I was going to cross so he can check her over. A hamster, a U-Haul, a truck and my now MIL's car. I crossed and the Twin Saults border, not many go that way and I was lucky that there was a new guy who had experience with the visas. He was able to teach two other BO what to do since they had 5 visas to process.

It is good he is coming back. Now moving forward you two can work together to figure things out.

I agree with Tbone, if your friend really needs or wants help then follow the link above. That is our very own one and only Pushbrk

He just needs to get back home. JeanneAdil mentioned that he might not have started in a good place. From what you said about the sister you didn't and still don't know. I would be worried that she drugged or poison him. With the comments she made about him and his religion along with her own mental illness. I know it is a stretch but you did not know her. Then your husband suddenly started losing weight and his mind in just a few short months. If he felt you were injecting him in his sleep, or your family was following him. I would be worried about drugs/poisonings. Too late now to run blood work, but search your house high and low. Some drugs can stay in your system for awhile and that might explain why he felt he was being followed. Please be careful and make sure you keep an eye on your husband's health when he gets back.

I replied but I guess I was ignored. You are not the first to blend families and far from the last. WHat you are wanting is just prolonging the inevitable. They will not adjust until all are in the same house and no longer feel like a vacation. That can be months to years. From a mother of 6

You had 4 yrs to discuss all things needed to blend your two families. If she arrives at the border with a different address then you and they ask about why you all will be living seperate. You can bet your last dollar that she will be on the next flight out. If they catch any whiff of something off they will turn your fiance right back. The visa as mentioned is to get married and adjust asap. They give you 90 days because sometimes it can be difficult to get a JP or someplace to get married. It is not a try before you buy visa. Kids will do better adjusting when they aren't living in a temporary place and then put into the next place and wondering what is next. I moved here with 4 kids ages 8-16 I can tell you for sure if we lived in a temp home first then moved to my then fiance's home it would still be just as much of a learning curve for all involved. It takes months, possibly years to adjust. 90 days will not cut it. Have you talked about expectations? Discipline? Bedtimes? From experience you discipline your kids and only your kids, do not step on the other parent's toes. The other parent handles their own kids. THis does not mean each other kids can be disrespectful at all. YOu two really need to come up with parenting plans. This can be easy or hard depending how you both handle things and the kids involved. If any have any type of learning, special needs, behaviour, disabilities and the other parent is not used to it that alone can cause issues. The way one handles a child who is not like the others can vary and many times if the other person has zero experience with things like that they will not understand. Check this forum too we have many posts like this about kids.

~~MOved to Moving HEre and Your New Life, from K1 P&P - as the OP is asking about slowly merging/acclimating two families.~~

~~MOved to AOS from Work, Student and Tourist Visas, from Tourist Visas- the OP is now in the US, has married and wanting to adjust.~~

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