Rosy1986

Hello All, 

I am going through divorce and I was concerned about the same issue. So far I haven't found any clear answer and one of my posts was removed for some reason. At the time of applying divorce wasn't in question, but there was a sudden high conflict situation whereby my husband showed his real personality. It turned out he has been lying to me about everything to marry me (past marriages, criminal records, children, military service, credentials, std's etc). It was highly traumatising for me to investigate these lies, but it became obvious very quick. Therapists branded it as a psychopathy and I was asked  to leave him and file for divorce. 

Here is the timeline: 

    - I-751 filed jointly on 4th August 2017 with all supporting evidence. 

    - Left the marital home on 24th of September and filed for Divorce on 27th. 

I would appreciate some advice on what to do. I have nothing to hide from USCIS, but I don't know what's the best way to notify the USCIS about this issue. I don't even know how knowledgable the USCIS officers are on the phone. They keep saying it's up to  you. 

There were no info pass appointments available for the past 3 weeks I have been checking. 

I spoke to 10+ immigration officers on the phone, explained the situation about my marriage and breakup, etc, but they tell me it's up to me to do anything about it (meaning notify USCIS by Info pass or writing in). At the same time, this divorce may take up to a year because my husband really has a pathological lying issues. He has even reported to USCIS that I married him for money and disappeared one day without a notice, which is a complete nonsense and it was actually the other way round, he married me thinking I am rich and to make him look good/normal (because he was a psychopath and in debt for thousands when he met me in London) and I did my research, wrote him a long letter upon leaving and he must have been floored that I found out all his lies and left. He was even telling me he had a son that died from a car accident and wife that died from breast cancer, that he served in the military for 22 years, all of which were lies (i was told he was pity playing to marry me). Not knowing who he was, I had a happy marriage for 2,5 years and it was bone fide, but this whole scenario would look bad on the whole application. 

Please let me know how or IF i should notify USCIS at this point. I submitted my fingerprints already but no other actions on the application yet. 

A couple of officers thought I could wait for my divorce paper before notifying USCIS, which makes sense to me, but again, I don't know how knowledgable they are. 

Thank you. 

Rosy. 

Hello Charmander, that document link you sent to me was very helpful! Thank you so much!!! I have read it a few times already and it is clear that I am not in trouble. I did what they asked and I can only make changes when my divorce decree is available. I was panicking too much. I also came across some articles that are also positive, I couldn't have applied with a waiver anyways and I have submitted enough proof for bona fide relationship so it may be possible that they contact me with an interview letter or RFE and THEN i will notify them about my situation. I would rather not initiate things right now since they have no process to report a separation verbally or in writing (they just need judge's decision basically).

The only problem now is that my American husband reported me as a fraud to USCIS blaming me that I married him for money and when I left, i didn't leave him with any note (both were lies). He started a smear campaign to look good because he is a psychopath. I have all the evidence to prove him wrong but he is just in rage that I left and wanted me back. After my attorney asked me to call the Police on him, things got changed, he started shifting a blame on me. He was lying about his identity, his marriages, battered wives, kids, criminal records, STDs, titles and income and so on. It was really traumatising to come face to face with my husband, unmasked. 

Thanks for your comment again.

Thank you JFH for moving my post to a more appropriate section 

Dear All, 

I have had to leave my husband two weeks ago, but my I751 is still pending. I wonder how do I go about notifying USCIS that I have separated or do I have to for now? I called their number 5+ times and spoke to a number of agents, however I have not received a single useful advice on whether I should send them letters or no. I bought myself a mailbox for a year (similar to PO box) and changed the mailing address on my application. I also told them verbally about my situation and that I have had to escape my husband and move out of State (my husband turned out to be an extremely manipulative sociopath/psychopath). I do not even know how attorneys would help if I hire one because I do not wish to complicate the situation, I have enough problems handling my divorce process etc. I was thinking to present the divorce paper only when it's available or write to them if they send an RFE or ask for more information. 

The main issue is that since I have just filed for divorce, it could take a few months to a year or even longer until my divorcee decree is issued. I know USCIS needs evidence but I would like to make sure that I do not mess up the application process by sending complicated information, telling them how my husband turned out to be a psychopath and all my research results, consultations, therapies, email and call logs including evidence about 4 year lies and deception. I was simply asked to escape him due to physically, mentally, emotionally challenging situation, because these disordered people are not capable to love/emotions/empathy/remorse/etc. We had a whirlwind romance, real love and a happy marriage but a recent situation complicated things and revealed his dangerous personality that I had to run and hide from.

Thank you 

Dear All, 

I posted a topic on a false fraud report that my psychopath husband has submitted to USCIS, http://tinyurl.com/y7mgt34u but the post is currently disabled for further comments (because of TOS violations).

Here I would like to find out what potential issues may I face travelling to London to visit my family. Currently I have an i-751 pending (filed jointly) but I had to leave my husband and filed for divorce two weeks ago. I have an expired green card and an extension letter stating that the green card is valid for another year. Not only I am worried the expired card may be an issue, but I would not like to be questioned about leaving my husband if they can see his report (at this point they wouldn't know that it's a false report) and open a can of warms about his dangerous manipulative antisocial personality condition, grilled by officers, etc (even though I have all the proof that I am not at fault). So if I May have issues coming back, I would rather stay here in USA until a decision is made on my application. 

Please only quality comments, no violations or reminders of marriage vows. 

Thanks in advance. 

R.