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Thanks for the kind words from those who care. 

10 hours ago, Ebunoluwa said:

If the petition, visa application or AOS would have been denied  you would be here complaining that the gov did not approve you

as many are here to do just that.
Now that your marriage didn't work out you complain that the gov did approve him.

As to the previous posts, if you have concrete evidence of fraud then submit it to USCIS and leave it up to them.
You are just making more drama than you need for yourself by not letting things go.
I suggest counseling to deal with your relationship issues.
 

I don't have relationship issues. I'm loyal and give as much as I can to help others. I got stuck with a piece of .

12 hours ago, mindthegap said:

Heres the thing.... something kinda resembling this did happen to me, and y'know what, I absolutely still do say that. 

 

 

Maybe. It could be argued that the whole process doesn't work properly and is outdated but it is what it is.

 

My own immigrant visa interview took just a couple of minutes, and the whole process just over four months form start to finish (and could have been even quicker). Does that mean I wasn't vetted or somehow not worthy of it? 

 

To keep up an act in a convincing manner for potentially years, generally would mean that you either have to be a seriously good actor, suffering from some serious personality disorder, or ideally both. The people that control this process and conduct these interviews may in many respects be useless, but they aren't totally stupid. To fool your partner, subsequently spouse, plus usually family, friends, colleagues, and then the US govt - all consistently without slipping up or raising red flags -  means serious dedication, and thankfully many people DO get caught out doing this.

If there WERE red flags and you still proceeded, then I am sorry, that is down to you. With all due respect it isn't the governments job to vet your spouse, for the most part they are merely in possession of the information provided to them by you as the petitioner and act accordingly.

 

The fact is that at the current time, a US citizen has the right to petition for permanent residency for their lawful spouse, and it takes precedent over most other methods for immigration.

That is the law as it currently stands, and you took full advantage of that right afforded to you as a a US citizen. That it went south for the winter at a later date is nothing to do with the law that you took advantage of at the time or somehow automatically means their intentions were less than honourable.

 

Don't like it or want to change the law? Then use your voice at the ballot box, run for office, or protest in some other manner. 

 

 

 

 

 

I have two passports stuffed full of visas from all over the world, and many of us have had multiple foreign relationships - including long distance, as many have on here - in our lifetimes.

Why on earth would that be an automatic red flag?

If they had actually been married and divorced before and lived overseas by virtue of an immigrant visa, then it would have to be declared on their application and you would (should) have known this. There isn't a central database of every persons movements worldwide, so again, how would the US govt know?

 

 

No doubt.

However, you also aren't the first to accuse an ex-spouse of fraud. Thankfully we live in a society where an accusation without evidence is just that - an accusation.

If you do actually have evidence of this, then please do present it to USCIS, and if applicable and genuine, they will more than likely act on it.

 

 

Loosely paraphrasing lines from Russell Crowe Gladiator was cool on forums for about half a day in 2000.  It doesn't make you sound scary, it makes you sound, well, odd, and could also be construed as a threat.

He has his ROC process to do now involving a divorce waiver, that you are no longer part of it ,and you have made it clear you would not co-operate. I will also point out that if you are seen to be making threats and/or things deliberately difficult, a competent lawyer could perhaps spin that into an abuse waiver (threats regarding immigration against an immigrant spouse can be classed as abuse).

 

 

I urge you to focus your energies on moving on with your life as you sound incredibly bitter, which is an entirely understandable, normal and natural reaction initially, but holding onto that will absolute eat you alive from the inside out. 

 

 

 

 

Lol, I wasn't quoting anyone but cool

15 hours ago, Ebunoluwa said:

You need to take responsibility for your own poor choices you made

and should have spend more time with him to see who he really is. I can not believe you blame the government which you tried so hard to convince with the initial petition and then again the AOS. Seriously it's your fault for picking the wrong guy nobody else's just as I was accountable over a decade ago for petitioning a scammer and guess what I quickly moved on from the drama. I investigated him because I did not ignore red flags and he never made it here. Happy as a lark now with an awesome husband. 

Start taking responsibility for your own choices as a mature adult. So yes I say again move on. 

I did in fact take the time to get to know him but I didn't find out much until after marriage. Not my fault he's scum.

You all wouldn't say move on with your life if it had happened to you. There are serious flaws in the vetting system. For example, for our gc interview, hardly anything was asked and we were approved because of an emotional response of an officer. Furthermore, it's pretty bad when they can't see if an applicant has applied for other foreign visas or had other previous foreign relationships. Huge red flags. I'm not the first it has happened to either. Justice will be served in this life or the next and I will do my best to be sure it is in this one.

Would you say staying married and refusing to sign ROC or divorcing is the best way to ensure he cannot stay here?

I believe it was not a good faith marriage.Will him remarrying help his case?

Husband and I are divorced. He has conditional 2 year card. If he gets married to another before he applies for ROC will he be allowed to remain in the US?

Hello! I have an infopass appointment tomorrow and I am reporting someone for fraud. I have some pictures and text messages on a flash drive I can give to them. Will this work or do I need to print them out? There are a lot and I may not have access to a printer tonight and the meeting is before business hours.

Thank you!

49 minutes ago, dwheels76 said:

You have to realize unless you can show documented proof where he said he only married you or entered a relationship for a green card it won't mean anything. I surely would at least report to USCIS that he has left and you know not where. So his case file will be flagged when he does decide to Remove conditions to get 10 year green card it will be  flagged for abandonment or whatever they do from day one.
I know many women who just move on do nothing, not even divorce figuring they don't divorce he's trapped to never be able to file for another or ROC or do anything. Then guess what in 3 years he files and gets to be a US citizen. Not like USCIS cares or verifies.

 

Side note I never understood how someone you never meet can force you into paying money or marriage (talking about what you said about these other women). And how were you able to get all the intel on them yet you continued with this man?

 

Remember he can always flip it on you and say he left because of abuse (mental, physical) you would be surprised. It really is he said/she said.

He met them in person. And after he left me I did some digging. That's how I found out more.

4 hours ago, PedroDaGr8 said:

Either way, it changes NOTHING! There is NOTHING you can do to make things any harder on him than it already will be. By you getting involved, the ONLY thing you can do is make your life harder and actually make it harder to prosecute him. Simple as that. I know you crave revenge, hell if I was in your shoes I would dream of revenge. I would daydream of seeing him thrown in jail to rot for the pain he caused. The truth is, that will just have to remain a dream. That being said, don't cut off your nose to spite your face. Do what you need to do to get his ### kicked out of the country and take solace in that he is an idiot and he is stuck back in the country he so desperately wishes to flee. 

That's all I'm wanting is to get him stuck back in his own country.

5 hours ago, JFH said:

You are not making sense. You started this whole thread to ask if you are going to have any consequences for knowing about these other relationships and whether you should even mention at the Infopass appointment that you knew about them. Now you are trying to tell us you didn't know about them. You will need to get your story straight if you are planning on reporting him for "fraud".

 

Essentially what has happened is you have fallen for the oldest trick in the book. You've been a fool. You've been sucked in by a man promising you undying love within a very short time of meeting and you have invested a lot of time, emotion, energy and money to bring him into the country. And now you feel stupid that he is laughing at you that you fell for it and he got what he wanted so you want everyone to think you are a victim of fraud, not just a naive person who fell for his game. 

 

USCIS won't do anything. They can spot the difference between real fraud and people wanting revenge to cover up their embarrassment at their naivety.

Clearly you didn't read the whole thread. I added information here and there. All I said I was aware of before marrying was previous relationships. Not in depth info on those relationships and his application to another country. My story is straight, thanks. I am not a fool, I am a forgiving person who believed people change and had good intentions. And you don't even know my timeline to make the comment that I met him within a short time of meeting. I tried my best to ensure he didn't use me and was very skeptical. And he's not laughing, he's having a horrible time here because America isn't what it's cracked up to be.

2 hours ago, JFH said:

Well you certainly didn't think there was anything suspicious or fraudulent. You married him after all, despite his past. So you were comfortable enough about it all. Why would you expect anyone else to find it suspicious? 

Quite a bit I am sharing was found out way after the fact. So no, I didn't marry knowing all of that 

Oh, also! I forgot. He lied under oath for his interview in Morroco and I can tell you exactly which questions. And...I have messages from the other 3 americans saying he pressured them for money and marriage.

Thank you all for the responses. Not to beat a dead horse, but you guys really don't think it all sounds suspicious? People in real life have all been shocked and really think it's crazy and a bunch of red flags. Also the fact that he has had so many relationships with western women and none with Moroccans.

52 minutes ago, Damara said:

In my honest opinion,  you shouldnt go to infopass. You dont have a case for fraud based on what you posted. Just like you knew unpleasant stuff but went through with the marriage/continued the relationship with good faith intentions- the same can be said for him. He could have had other relationships but still good faith intent with you. 

Maybe some more specific info might help. He has had 3 other American women, and applied for a visa for another western women to go to their country but was denied for financial reasons. He ended the relationship with her immediately after that and started talking to me. He left 2 days after receiving his green card and I have documentation from a marriage counselor saying that he wasn't invested in the relationship. I also have proof of him trying to meet those previous American women during our marriage. Do you still think it isn't fraud? It's also a high fraud country. I already have an appointment set up with infopass, which the customer service representative for USCIS suggested, but just wonder if I should leave the knowledge of the women out of it or to include it.

Thank you for the replies. In my timeline of our relationship I have to bring to the infopass should I include my knowledge of these other American women or should I keep it out unless questioned about it?

Hello. I married a Moroccan who came on a k1 visa. He had relationships with other foreign women before he came to the US for me. I truly loved him and did not think he was using me but yes, I was stupid and was left days after he got his 2 year green card. Now I have to report him for fraud but I am worried I will get in trouble for knowing about these previous relationships. Can anyone advise me? I had good intentions for our marriage and proof for it. Or should I just not mention his relationships at the infopass meeting if not asked?