Totally agree.
OP, generally the affidavits from friends and family are pretty weak evidence. As everyone is saying, Manila is not a high fraud consulate. Even so, you’re better off submitting evidence of time spent together: boarding pass, passport stamps, receipts, etc. Some people also designate spouse as beneficiary of retirement accounts, add to credit card accounts as an authorized user, etc.
Some have been able to add a nonresident spouse to employer-based health insurance, or at least provide evidence that you intend to.