@Kawika & Michelle I'm kinda old school so is my Filipina wife we are an older couple who has been there done that, so I won't offer any solutions or explanations here in the open as this is the wrong format and the wrong forum to be soliciting advice from (non immigration wise). You've let too much private, delicate information out and laid it on the table to be scrutinized by varied folks which is not always a good thing. Culture shock does exist! I have opened up to you before via inbox and text messages. You'll want to look there for a possible starting point!
I will say this though counselings and counselors are over rated as they have the book knowledge and the degrees, but if they have not walked a mile in your shoes how can they be effective at what they are counseling on i.e., how can a marriage counselor counsel me on marriage when the counselor has never been married themselves and only possesses book knowledge, but then again that is only my take!