Marieke H

The only option is the truth. You cannot lie about information that could lead to a denial. It is not simply about where you get married; it is about where you intend to live. Your only option is to move to a state where first cousin marriages are legal.

From your previous posts, I gather that you are well beyond the timeframe to respond to the NOIR. So yes, the only option would be to start over with a new I-130. However, the very first thing you should do is spend a LOT more time together, so you will be able to show a bona fide marriage this time.

Backfile your taxes, bring copies and proof of payment/payment plans to your interview, and explain the situation during your interview.

If you have not filed anything yet, please consider getting married and filing for a spousal visa instead. The processing times are similar, but the spousal visa is far superior. He would be able to start working immediately after arriving in the US. You would still need to provide an affidavit of support and proof of income (125% of the federal poverty line), or find a joint sponsor, but it would just make your lives so much easier if he is not stuck at home for who knows how long after arrival.

Those instructions say exactly what I told you about not needing a new medical; there is nothing confusing about them. You started your post by saying that you have been calling civil surgeons, so naturally everyone assumed that your K-1 medical was incomplete, because that would be the only reason for needing an I-693. If you had asked about the "confusing" instructions we would have just clarified that you don't need a new medical instead of having this long, pointless discussion about civil surgeons.

I agree. This is a classic example of an OP not asking the right questions and thinking they know the process. If he had asked if the I-693 was necessary instead of asking for civil surgeon recommendations, the thread would have been a lot shorter!

That may not be possible if you can't prove that she intends to re-establish domicile. It sounds like you do not have very strong evidence for this. The strongest evidence would be if she actually moved back to the US ahead of you.

Correct. If your K-1 medical is complete, you do not need an I-693 if you file your AOS within a year after the medical. If you have a copy of the DS-3025, you can include that in your packet (make sure to keep a copy as well). If you receive a request to bring an I-693 to your interview, bring the DS-3025 and the I-693 instructions to clarify that you should not need to redo your medical.

If you completed your K-1 medical and the DS-3025 was signed off as complete, and you filed your AOS within a year after doing the K-1 medical, you do not need an I-693. This is very clearly explained in the I-693 instructions, on pages 7 and 8 (https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/document/forms/i-693instr.pdf). So either your K-1 medical was incomplete, not properly signed off, you filed your AOS very late, or whoever told you that you need an I-693 is wrong. It is generally recommended to make sure to complete the K-1 medical to avoid having to redo the medical in the US. There are only a few cases where it would make sense to not complete the K-1 medical (for example, postponing certain vaccinations due to pregnancy). For the record, I did the K-1 and AOS. But everyone else here also understands this process. It is not that complicated and the instructions are very clear.

Read the I-129F instructions. It has a list of required evidence that you have to send with your petition; just the form is not enough. USCIS does not send a checklist. Depending on the country in which the beneficiary is interviewing, they may receive a checklist from the consulate with a list of documents to mail or bring to the consulate.

I would first make an effort to find the address. Google is your friend. If she really can't find the information (which is hard to believe, but okay), "unknown" is an option. But I would not want to submit an employment history with lots of unknowns.

I think you have a pretty decent list of evidence, especially with the insurance and joint bank account. You could consider including a letter explaining the living situation so they'll know why there isn't a lease.

I totally agree with @mam521! We did the K-1 and absolutely regretted it. It was such a stressful, depressing start of our marriage. We got through it, but 8 months sitting at home in a new country with no friends, no job, no driver's license, while my husband worked extra hours to support both of us, was just miserable. You have a chance now to get married and file the I-130 online. Weddings are just a bit different when immigration is involved. We just did a courthouse wedding and keep saying that some day we'll do a big celebration to renew our vows, but we've been married for over 6 years now and haven't done anything. Maybe for our 10 year anniversary... 🤣

Depending on which state you are in, he likely won't be able to get a driver's license or state ID until he has his EAD or green card. His "legal presence" is not established at the state level, but at the federal level. This is a huge downside of adjustment of status; he will be in limbo for many months just waiting. Focus on what you do have. His current form of ID is his passport; see if that's accepted to add him to your account, insurance, etc. Maybe include some wedding pictures. Really anything you can think of that shows that you are married and starting to comingle your finances. And then, while you are waiting, keep collecting more evidence that you can bring to your interview. They understand that newlyweds may not have a lot of shared finances yet, so you'll have a chance to add more at the interview.

While I agree with everyone else that the safest option is to try to get some kind of insurance, I know from experience that this isn't as easy as it sounds. Not having insurance will not necessarily affect your AOS application, as long as you have other evidence that you can include. When I moved here on my K-1 visa, my husband had not had health insurance for many years. His employer did not offer health insurance, he could not afford plans through the Marketplace, but his income was too high to qualify for Medicaid (he was in the "gap population": income too high for Medicaid, too low to be able to afford other plans). I moved here, and there were no affordable insurance options for me either, especially because we were living on just his income for months. I was very homebound because I was just waiting for my EAD and couldn't do much, but it was still a scary situation. As soon as I was getting close to receiving my EAD I started looking for jobs and specifically looked for employers providing health insurance. I was able to get a job offer even before I received my EAD, they were willing to wait until my EAD would be approved, and I started working the day after I had received my EAD. That job came with health insurance for both of us. We had my AOS interview a few months after I had started working. We had initially filed my AOS without much evidence, but were able to bring the insurance policy and statements of our joint account to our interview and were approved. Long story short, yes you should have health insurance if at all possible. And in some states it can be very challenging or simply impossible to find affordable health insurance. Having health insurance is not a requirement for AOS, but it may help as evidence.

Do you have someone who can help you fill out the forms and make sure no fields are accidentally skipped? While the forms are fillable PDFs, I don't think that they are very screen reader accessible, so it might be good to have some help just so you know the forms are filled out correctly. That doesn't necessarily need to be an attorney though, it can be anyone you trust.

USCIS does not dictate how a married couple should manage their finances. Your spouse has shown that he can financially support you, and now it's up to you and your spouse to figure out what that looks like for you. Ideally, this would be something that has been discussed before you even moved her, to make sure that you are on the same page regarding these financial expectations.

Good catch!

They won't issue a visa without an interview anyway...

I think it is highly unlikely that the petition will be approved by mid-December. But even if it is, he can still just travel home to complete the visa application process.

In this process, you are the conditional resident. "US citizen or lawful permanent resident spouse" does NOT mean "spouse of US citizen or LPR". It means "the spouse who is the US citizen or LPR". I hope that makes sense.

Again, just refile when you're ready. You clearly weren't ready this time. USCIS has been very accommodating with your requests to postpone the oath, but now that they have asked you 3 times to please come take the oath and accept this citizenship and it has been 19 months, it is very clear that you were not ready to naturalize. The reason doesn't matter; you were not ready. Why would you want to go through the process of a hearing with all the added costs, while it is very unlikely that you will be successful? Refiling (when you are ready) will be the cheaper and easier solution.

From your post history, it looks like you had your interview in April 2022, which is 1.5 years ago. I think you have demonstrated that you did not intend to naturalize when you filed your petition. Whatever "processing" you had to take care of should have been done before even applying for US citizenship. I agree with others; just refile when you are sure that you are ready.

Sounds like only the parents have been on holidays together and the children have never met each other.

I agree that the children should have had a chance to meet and get to know each other even before there was any talk about marriage and visas. And I don't think it would be helpful for your fiancée and her children to live at a temporary place before moving in with you. They are having to leave their home to travel to a country they don't know; the least you can do is provide them a place to call home instead of a temporary place. Putting them in a temporary house will make them feel like you are not sure yet if you are going to accept them as your stepchildren. If your house is big enough to accommodate the whole family, start working with your children on making it a home for their stepsiblings. This will also help the children to get to know each other better, finding out their interests.