I'm sorry, but there is something missing here. Was this NOID issued after an Adjustment of Status interview? Traditional marriage is irrelevant. You need to address each and every statement in that NOID. Remove personal information, and post a copy of it for us to review. We can help. You must provide evidence which would normally be produced in a life together. Evidence of time spent together, and co-mingled finances will help a lot.
As a Nurse, you know that mental health is just as important as physical health. Take care of yourself in every way. Good luck.