Kathryn41

Alternatively, do it the other way around: move to the USA without closing your foreign account, open a bank account when you have the SSN, then do electronic fund transfer from your foreign to your US account.

It's just too easy....

We're all made of stardust... It's only becoming you should fulfill your destiny.
Live long & prosper, oh Maven one!

Sometimes, when we have been used and/or abused by someone else, we also become angry at ourselves for getting 'caught' like that, for believing in this person and their lies, and for them putting us in the position of feeling where we gave them our honest love and didn't see that they were undeserving. This may not be part of your very legitimate anger at him - but it also may be part of why you are so very angry. Only you will know for sure.
If you believe that this may be part of why you can't let go of the anger, then allow yourself to be angry - and then forgive yourself for being taken in. There are some very experienced 'con' men (and women) out there and it is easy for them to prey on others who don't have that same level of guile and dishonesty, who believe in their love and who don't see that their loved one doesn't deserve their honesty, trust or love until they are betrayed.
Good luck to you.

My day is kind of sad, for one you think you know the person ie 9 plus years. You provide for that individual faithfully over that same time span then you find out it was all for nothing. No bitterness, no hatred just sadness for her daughters. I truly believe she had her kids at heart but she went about it the wrong way. When I tried to put her on the right track she just never got it and I ended up where I am now.
I spoke to her friend who called me. He friend said she doesn't understand why they asked her so many questions. Apparently the interview lasted 3 hours. She told her friend she did not understand why they asked her if they thought she felt threatening, if i had ever assaulted her, if I had ever caused harmed to her girls. She told her friend she said no to all the questions because I have always been very nice to them and took care of them. She said they asked her why she came to the United States and again she stated was to give her kids a better life.
Her heart was for them and not me and now the kids are the ones that end up getting the short end of the stick. They were uprooted, brought to a new country and had to adjust and now they will have to return. So, this makes it a very sad day for me. One would think I would be jumping up and down with joy but there is no joy in what I had to do. You only can take so much...
Her friend said that she cried most of the night not for herself but for her kids for she just wanted them to have a better life.
I thought I would be delighted with the out come but I am not. :( :( :( :(

Yes, I did with both my children. I live in the US and I work in Canada and pay into EI and am eligible for the maternity/paternity benefits. Enjoy your time off - you will be the envy of every new mother in the US.

Yes you will be able to recieve mat benefits. I suggest that you keep a Canadian bank account so that you can have them direct deposited rather then cheques mailed as it can take awhile for them to get to the US.

Yup. Our vigilance is suddenly heightened.
Just to be aware they are watching - the little urchins.

Sometimes, when we have been used and/or abused by someone else, we also become angry at ourselves for getting 'caught' like that, for believing in this person and their lies, and for them putting us in the position of feeling where we gave them our honest love and didn't see that they were undeserving. This may not be part of your very legitimate anger at him - but it also may be part of why you are so very angry. Only you will know for sure.
If you believe that this may be part of why you can't let go of the anger, then allow yourself to be angry - and then forgive yourself for being taken in. There are some very experienced 'con' men (and women) out there and it is easy for them to prey on others who don't have that same level of guile and dishonesty, who believe in their love and who don't see that their loved one doesn't deserve their honesty, trust or love until they are betrayed.
Good luck to you.

With your two bank accounts you might want to highlight any expenses that you have each spent on your lives together - such as the mortgage payment comes out of his account but the heating bill or water bill comes out of your account, or the car insurances come out of your account and the internet subscription is from his account. Finding expenses that are joint but are paid by each of you for mutual benefit might provide additional evidence that you are living together and financially supportive of each other. Maximize your opportunity with the bank account statements by drawing their attention to things like this. The statements will also show that they have been mailed to the same address or have the same address listed on each account further verifying that you live at the same address.
Good luck. I suspect once you provide the requested documents you will get your approval fairly quickly.

With your two bank accounts you might want to highlight any expenses that you have each spent on your lives together - such as the mortgage payment comes out of his account but the heating bill or water bill comes out of your account, or the car insurances come out of your account and the internet subscription is from his account. Finding expenses that are joint but are paid by each of you for mutual benefit might provide additional evidence that you are living together and financially supportive of each other. Maximize your opportunity with the bank account statements by drawing their attention to things like this. The statements will also show that they have been mailed to the same address or have the same address listed on each account further verifying that you live at the same address.
Good luck. I suspect once you provide the requested documents you will get your approval fairly quickly.

Did you bring your concerns to your boss or a human resource person with the company? This bullying is a type of harassment and yes, going through your personal belongings is an invasion of privacy. At the very least it is rude and bad manners; at worst - it could have been a pre-amble to theft, identity or otherwise. This is a matter that you should not have had to address by yourself but should have had addressed by a manager.
It would still be worth going back to the company and asking to speak to the manager. Explain to him/her what had happened and your reasons for leaving. If this individual is treating you this way, guaranteed she is treating others inappropriately as well. The company should be very concerned that she went through your purse and that her bullying led to your decision to quit. Their responsibility is to provide a safe working environment for you - which this wasn't; yours was to let them know it was an abusive situation because of your co-worker. Since these issues happened at work - and you have witnesses to back you up - you need to allow your former employer the opportunity to address the problem.

The OP explained why they got an RFE:"Red flag: My husband is much (MUCH!) older than me. Red flag: we have separate bank accounts. Red flag: we have no children together (no children period, not even from previous marriage), and have no plan of having any. So I was sent home with an RFE. The IO asked for last 6 months of bank statements for our 2 bank accounts."
The RFE had nothing to do with supplying additional information. Applicants who send in too little information also get RFEs sometimes. Applicants who send in exactly what is asked for also get RFEs sometimes. Each case is different.

sis..your problem is not a problem, I went thru the same situation..the blurred copy you had from BPI is sufficient enough as long as you have it..just tell the consul,that you lost it and it was a copy from the original and you had submitted an affidavit of lost to the bank where you have paid it,USEM have their own way of verifying it from the bank..what is important is the coded 10 digits on the front, the acknowledgment of payment at the back( which BPI confirmed that they received your payment) is not needed if you don't really have it..the bank system will confirm that number on the front page you had, will reflect as paid already if entered.
good luck

Folks you are so wrong .The BIA decided already that k1visa holder can adjust status even if the alien gets divorced.

Immigration officers are not allowed to advice you on what to do. So scratch the info pass.
ROC must be filed in the 90 days before the green card expires. They may accept a late filing, but you need a include a very good explanation of why it is being filed late. They do give a little leeway there, but only a little. At 90 days past, she may be pushing when they'll even accept it.
They get a one year extension letter with the ROC application, not 90 days.
If the ROC application is rejected for being late and you're still married and plan to continue to be married, you'll likely need to refile an I-130 and I-485 and start things over again. She is currently in the USA without authorization, counting days until a ban is set on her re-entry. If you continue to divorce without her having filed her ROC, she's working towards being deported and banned from re-entry if she exceeds 6 months without authorization. I have a hard time believing her lawyer has any competence in the immigration side of things if he's saying her not filing a ROC petition is nothing to worry about.

Don't generalize it, not all are the same. And i have also read some cases here in the forum and i can say that it's not just only "Filipinos", but also some other nationalities. If you know what i mean
To the OP im sorry if you go through this. But i agree of what you did and your decision.

Thank you for moving the post to the approaite place.

Canadians travelling to the US have known about this for years and have been warned by fellow travellers that they could lose any cash they have if they get stopped by any of the State police for minor infractions such as not using turn signals, going over the speed limit, etc. The Canadian CBC news agency reported the story as follows with a few statements and facts not included in the Washington Post article: http://www.cbc.ca/news/world/american-shakedown-police-won-t-charge-you-but-they-ll-grab-your-money-1.2760736

Canadians travelling to the US have known about this for years and have been warned by fellow travellers that they could lose any cash they have if they get stopped by any of the State police for minor infractions such as not using turn signals, going over the speed limit, etc. The Canadian CBC news agency reported the story as follows with a few statements and facts not included in the Washington Post article: http://www.cbc.ca/news/world/american-shakedown-police-won-t-charge-you-but-they-ll-grab-your-money-1.2760736

Canadians travelling to the US have known about this for years and have been warned by fellow travellers that they could lose any cash they have if they get stopped by any of the State police for minor infractions such as not using turn signals, going over the speed limit, etc. The Canadian CBC news agency reported the story as follows with a few statements and facts not included in the Washington Post article: http://www.cbc.ca/news/world/american-shakedown-police-won-t-charge-you-but-they-ll-grab-your-money-1.2760736

List him as 'cousin(godson)'. He can check partially dependent, but that won't really matter because he will be counted in the household anyway simply because he claimed him on his taxes. You have a co-sponsor, so it doesn't matter if he doesn't meet the income requirement for his household size.
Listing him incorrectly as a child should not get the K-1 denied, however, he should file an amendment with the IRS to get it corrected. He has no children and should not be claiming any children on his taxes.

DCF is awesomely fast. I think you made the right choice. We have a DCF specific forum on VJ to help with any of that process, as well as the regional forums as each area can have some specific things that the embassy is looking for.So, welcome back to VJ and I hope your journey is a quick and relatively painless one.
Granted you already went through this process before but DCF presents it's own challenges.

Her time spent abroad whilst you were stationed as part of US military service is considered as time spent on US soil. The issue is that, from your timeline, that ended in 2011. Since she has been gone from the US for three years then there is a presumption in law that she has abandoned her residency. You will likely not be able to overturn this presumption.
You have two choices:
(i) file for an SB-1 returning resident visa for her. The bar for these is very high, and the alien must demonstrate that not only was it their intention to return to the US after their temporary foreign travel, but also that circumstances beyond their control prevented this from occurring. Since you can't really demonstrate this, an SB-1 is unlikely to be granted.
(ii) begin the process from scratch, starting by filing an I-130. Since the US embassy in Thailand (Bangkok) has a USCIS field office, you may be able to file DCF, which will significantly shorten the processing time of her new immigrant visa. Theoretically she could receive it just a handful of months after applying. Normally it would be a year or so (at least) to receive her new immigrant visa, but with DCF it would probably not even be a third of that.
You may wish to check out the DCF board which contains further information on filing in this way: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/forum/82-direct-consular-filing-dcf-general-discussion/

While what the OP wrote is not entirely clear it is apparent that she is somewhat distraught. I think her post shows a level of distress that shows she is not thinking clearly and is confused. Let's try to see, as a community how we can support her and not criticize her. Let's look at a few of the things in the story:
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OP states that before he left his home country that she made him aware that her feelings for him had changed.. We would assume at that point already had a visa in his passport and would be likely able to use that to enter the USA. If his intent was simply to get a ticket to the USA then he was under no obligation to go to her place. So if we accept that OP is right an there is underlying fraud then we need to think what his intention was in order to best help OP.
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That said clearly OP needs to report that she did not get married but she may want to put together a more compelling story to protect herself.
Further I would urge OP make sure that any such narrative that she writes be well organized and reviewed by one or more 'impartial' people so that she is able to present a factual account rather than an emotional one.
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Not to scare the OP but is it possible that the reason he worked 'like a slave' and came to see you in the first place and looked thru your private stuff is because he was trying to build a case against you for domestic violence on emotional grounds?
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Has he done anything that could be considered abusive to you? (Not advising you to make anything up but if there is anything legitimate report that to the police)
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You say you left your home July 6th, two days before his Visa expired. BUT... that he entered in May. So we can assume that he had until July 6th to enter the USA and then until sometime in Aug to legally remain (3 months in which to marry you from his entry in May). This would all imply that he had time to spend in your house by himself for some period of time. Based on this I'd recommend you change locks, and change all of your passwords, Go to your banks and have new credit cards issued and sign up for a credit monitoring service for the next year. If he is as bad as you imply then you need to take concrete steps to protect yourself.
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As far as he is concerned I'd suggest other than reporting to ICE that you did not marry him and that he is therefore in the USA illegally that you let the other stuff go.
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As for his fate. I would not worry about it as long as he is not a threat to you. Maybe Karma will get him, maybe it won't. But you will remain a victim of his deceit as long as your continue to try to force Karma's hand. Protect yourself and move on and be Thankful that you didn't go thru with the wedding.