yuna628

Well I'm leaving for the UK this week and I have to say incredibly nervous about it, because last week's flights all got canceled. Something about the engines are broken. They are running so far this week so here's hoping. I hear the next two months will have even more flights scrapped. Dad's care has been handed off to my sister, and of course Medicare only pays for nurses for so long so we've been trying to learn wound care and what works for him. My heart is breaking for my dog.. I know he will be miserable the whole time, and I hope he forgives me when I come back home. We had originally planned to go hike some mountains on our trip. The weather looks fairly dreadful but we'll still give it a go. Might get up to Scotland if there's time.

It's difficult. All I can say is if those individuals feel that way about an immigrant, including legal immigrants and those that are in your life, are they as a person that important to you? And yes, that can be a hard thing to think about depending on what sort of relative they are, but if they are not the sort of person you thought they were, there will be little you can do to change their mindset. So the choice becomes how close do you want to allow negativity and hurt in your life? And yes it's difficult when choosing someone outside your own country for so many reasons. My husband looks and speaks language the same as any other American, and yet as an immigrant he had difficulties just because his accent was different than the typical British person that Americans think of. After a while though it pained him when he'd hear negative talk about immigrants, when those people didn't realize he was an immigrant and expected him to join in, or worse, knew he was an immigrant but felt he was somehow 'different' because of being English speaking. At times even my relatives have made those same comments you are probably familiar with, even though they have accepted my husband as part of the family. And yes, it hurts badly.. but more so it's a deep disappointment, because those relatives come from immigrants and owe much to them! There are good people in this world though, never forget that. While we cannot choose our relatives we can choose who we associate with and even make new families in our own way. Maybe that relative will figure it out someday and maybe they won't, but we can move forward in limiting the time spent around them and setting strong boundaries as to what is acceptable in your space.

No he cannot use it. What you can do is head on over to the marketplace (Obamacare) and purchase a plan (these are not prohibited for immigrants). You can also go to any healthcare insurer directly and purchase. It will not be cheap nor free and that is one of the drawbacks of healthcare in the US.

A brief one page statement containing a small paragraph. You don't need anything special. Believe me, if you want to sacrifice more trees to feed the USCIS there will be plenty of opportunities.

Somewhere there is a photo that my husband took of our packet and it was probably that size. We put it in a USPS box it was so big! And yes we sent every bank statement, credit statement, and just about anything else we could think of. A lot of trees sacrificed themselves over the years. 😉 We used acco clamps/clips. No RFEs. No interview.

I meant to post this quite possibly two months ago, but then those two months happened and everything has been a blur. Dad had been in the hospital again. Started acting incoherent, stubbornly refused to go which is typical, and then faceplanted on the floor. Some scary moments with 911, because I wasn't sure he was actually breathing, and for a few minutes I thought he had passed. Thankful he started breathing again by the time the medics got there. TWO hospitals over two weeks and the diagnosis was multiple massive pulmonary embolisms and heart damage (was close to a heart attack), some which had been there a while (he had just seen the cardiologist!) so they started him on some drugs. The goal was to put him back on Eliquis which all those years ago coupled with the tumor had caused the brain hemorrhage, so you can understand the nervousness about that. Apparently they now have invented an antidote to Eliquis, and multiple teams of doctors arrived to study him. Apparently they don't know how he's alive? Yes I know.. he continues to be oblivious to how lucky he is. Many days into treatments his arms fill with blood and balloon up to the size of grapefruits and then they burst. Hematomas from the drugs. More doctors come in and study. Once drained, the skin comes off, and it looks like he's a 3rd degree burn victim. Wound treatment is slow, but since they discharged him nurses come every week. And then a dear friend of my husband's family passed suddenly after a routine treatment no one should be dying from. I'm so angry about the NHS right now. I'm angry about the senselessness of it all. If we had been only able to fly out on our original planned date this year, we would have made it for the funeral. It is hard not being there, but in retrospect we wouldn't have been there to help my Dad either. That has also made me increasingly nervous of our upcoming travel date. We have a tight itinerary and I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. In a couple more weeks I'll be climbing up mountains in memory of that friend.

Take it from someone that knew their fiance a loooong time before filing a K1 - we had almost no photos of us with family members, no photos with friends, but we did have plenty of photos together. Back then we had a lot of old school camera photos, but with cellphones it's easy to take selfies together. Photos ultimately don't prove a relationship, it just proves you've met each other.

I don't understand why Pennsylvania scores so low... NJ is obvious, but PA drivers cause problems on near daily basis.

As someone that's observed washing dishes for years I can say I know of no Brit that does this. His momma would throw you out of the house for doing that. I could potentially see why this does happen though - 1) I've been in houses where the tap has no nozzle causing a full torrent of water to spray everywhere. 2) controlling hot and cold water in some houses is also an issue. 3) having hot water can be a problem. you won't find a giant water heater in houses and you will run out fast (when we had sunday dinners you'd sometimes need to wait an hour inbetween half a wash). 4) I have seen some sinks with no ability to plug them, thus is why a basin bowl might be used and some sinks may be very tiny. My great grandmother and grandma used the basin bowl or plugging the sink method cannot say that they would ever not rinse the dishes though.

Hi OP, So here's the thing. You can certainly get married on a visit. Why? Marriage is in the domain of the state and not of the feds and it does not work the same way as it does in the UK. People visit and marry in the US all the time, as destination weddings are a thing. What you cannot do is come with the intent to marry, stay and adjust. Because people attempt this, it makes the burden of proof on the people doing things properly. Do you have strong ties to home? Do you have evidence of returning home? If you decide to come for a visit, I would recommend that first. Meeting in person and seeing the potential circumstances of the life in the US you will be living. Talking for 2 years is great, but reality is a funny thing, and the immigration process is indeed hard. Get to know each other first, and then if it goes well you could marry during the trip. Age gaps happen. But what you're going to need to focus on is, as you are both of older age and you said your SO has some disabilities - is healthcare. It's expensive. And I hate to tell you that for older immigrants, because of how the system works, you've got an even harder time of it. The potential US spouse has also got sponsorship and affidavit of support to think about.

So you are suggesting he lie to an immigration officer? If you make excuses for him to cover a lie, he will continue his behavior. I do not see this getting any better.

Well... you do now, and it's your fiance. And at this point instead of trying to see if they can get a new appointment, I'd be sitting down having a long talk. If they are going to do this at one of the biggest appointments of their lives, what will you do when they get "cold feet" at the altar or at any other stage? I can imagine the consulate won't be thrilled about this.

Well it is entirely possible the attorney did at the time hit the wrong button or select the wrong option. Doubtful they would admit this either. It's also possible someone at the USCIS messed it up too. Certainly they would not admit it either. They once changed my husband's gender on his card from M to F. Infuriated him for years. At naturalization he asked about it. Everything in the USCIS system was M and correct, so the officer concluded it was all just a printing error and no consequence other than the hassle and stress it caused him. They stressed the importance of making sure the naturalization certificate was correct before leaving the building. Unfortunately, the ideal scenario was for you to correct it on the day you received it or the next best option to correct it soon after. Your path forward is pretty much the same. FIOA and then correct the record. Then you can proceed with your spouse. The burden is placed on you, because that is how things go.

The issue is you need to correct the naturalization record first and then proceed immigration with fiance or spouse. You will be going through piles of money wasted in application denials.

I think everyone has given you good advice here but a few other things: ISAs are a big no no. You'd need to get rid of those before coming here. If you are living in the UK, how far is your wife through the UK's process? Close to citizenship? Green cards are for living in America and keeping your life there. If you are close to citizenship, you might want to consider finishing that first before forfeiting any status she has.

Unfortunately, I understand why you may not have thought it was important to correct it at the time... but at some point it was going to become a big problem especially as you are trying to marry someone and get the USCIS involved in it. It's their error, but you're going to have to now fight with them and go through the process to correct this, before you can proceed to do what you want to do. If you don't respond to it, it will be denied... but trying to correct this mistake will be taking a very long time. You'll likely need to reconsider your previous plans, soon you start working on this the better.

If the spouse has already had multiple shots and they have not hindered her in currently trying to have a baby, then having the required booster will not hinder any future baby making endeavors. While it is true that said vaccine can temporarily in some cases effect the length or flow of a cycle, this can be related to a complex reaction between hormones and stress response. The risk of body damage due to becoming sick with COVID is high, especially for some women with pre-existing gynecological conditions. Temporary cycle changes can happen for any vaccine, medication, illness, stress event, anything or nothing at all. There is no evidence in preventing pregnancy. Consult with your spouse's OBGYN for further medical confidence. Your reasoning will not qualify for a waiver.

If she lives in NI instead of ROI then she falls under London.

He is incorrect. Either he is intentionally lying, delusional, or completely ignorant. An SSN doesn't expire. It is his for life. He just cannot use the number to work until authorized (the authorization is the EAD or the green card). The SSN must be updated several times during the immigration process, but the number never changes or expires. I don't normally suggest going into the SSN and asking them questions as the employees aren't always helpful, but if he suggested that to one they'd laugh him out of the building. All of this doesn't matter. Because you have waited too late to obtain the SSN from the beginning, it now cannot be obtained until the EAD arrives. About jobs, I must stress to please don't think for one second that as soon as you have an EAD jobs will be so easy to obtain. From experience, my husband was extremely qualified in the IT field and even with that EAD no one wanted him. The problem to me is not only the market itself but that employers and some HR don't understand what an EAD is. They wanted to see a green card. The EAD only helped him with documentation for his DL not jobs. Experiences will vary of course. Once my husband had a green card he was hired nearly immediately, but by that time we were quite desperate. That did not mean he took a high qualifying job either. It was a part time, without benefits position, in low end IT work. Good people there saw the potential and qualifications and realized he did not belong in that role. I can only imagine what will happen when your spouse realizes not being able to achieve a job he believes he deserves or is forced to take a menial one. Are there mental health issues going on here? Strange statements and laying on the floor seem odd to me. What are you aware about the I864 obligations, in light of the potential breakdown of this relationship?

I had to tell one of them that I needed to finally get a shower and to please don't yell at me to help about hulu during that time... 🤪

my labor day. 1) Plan to write important letter 2) get sidetracked taking care of dog and injured husband 3)go on a wild goose chase tracking down an object that had been misplaced by family members 4) go on another wild goose chase trying to track down an object husband has misplaced (no luck) 5) ask someone to reorder lost object 6)with everyone raging about satellite tv and alternative options, I was now asked to set up 4 different hulu accounts (this took some time) 7)lunch! 8)try and teach the elderly how to use hulu for the millionth time (frustrated) 9)get sidetracked helping husband sort through items we need to pack 10)look through some maps 11)finally get to writing some of the important letter 12) book appointments for next week 13)be asked to try and teach the elderly how to use hulu again.... 14) cook dinner 15) elderly... hulu... again 16)clean up mess 17) continue planning trip abroad 18) hulu... AGAIN (can they just make a streaming service for old people)

This is just very strange to me, no offense. You immigrate because you love someone and want to be with that person and have a life with that person together. Kitchens are rather irrelevant to the process. If kitchens were very important, then applying for an SSN (which it seems he did not want to do) opening an account together, working on a DL, and maybe even asking for an EAD expedite) would have been a key component to the process. Over the years have we been thrilled living at the same location as my parents? No. They drive us bananas but I am also responsible for their care. Still we have a life together. If this is not the life he wanted, you must both decide together what course of action to take. Immigration is not easy, and it will not get any easier or shorter. If you proceed with the adjustment process you need to show a life together... it does not sound like there is much togetherness right now, and that may show clearly during an interview.

So when my husband came here on his K1 we lived at my family's house. We had saved a great deal of money, as I didn't work at the time because I am my parent's caretaker, and I knew it would take a while before he found a stable job. It was not easy. He applied to so many jobs and was rejected, and my parents were less than helpful in their comments at times. He felt dejected and unable to provide. There were deaths in the family and hardships to come. After a while, and still waiting on the USCIS to come through, money was getting tight. We nearly lost our health insurance. Thankfully a job came through and from there over the years we are in a pretty good place now. He is happy with life in the US and making more than he'd ever dreamed of. One thing in all those struggles though and I think is very important for every US citizen in the relationship to understand: Everyone's situation is different but YOU ultimately are responsible for supporting your foreign spouse, especially if they are not working. That doesn't just mean financially it means ensuring that they understand how life in the US works and also how the process works. Based on several things you've said here, I'm not sure either one of you understand some of the process. It is incorrect about there being two different SSNs. What you should have done was applied for his SSN immediately upon arrival. His SSN is his for life. It does not change. Without an SSN is significantly delaying the process. And sure, he wouldn't be able to work until his EAD comes even with an SSN, but an SSN helps you with insurance and gives the spouse some documents to their name. If this info has come from him this is false. You are the US citizen, you are responsible for knowing the information and having a plan. Don't rely on the immigrant to tell you how our customs are especially if it is clear their info is wrong. If they have misunderstood the info that's one thing, but if it is an intentional falsehood I don't know.. Always double check where the info has come from. Don't assume he is correct. You are responsible for his care. A DL: everyone is going to be different but if you live in an area like I do that is more rural and far to get to a shop driving is essential. My husband was happy driving in his own country but he absolutely wanted to drive here, and we made sure to set that up as soon as possible. A DL/ID is yet another important document for the immigrant. A joint account: I think that's typically very important in showing co-mingling of finances to the USCIS, setting the spouse for a future job etc. Of course if a divorce or abuse is occurring that is a situation where tangling finances might not be for the best - so you need to figure out what the future will be. If you terminate the marriage, adjusting status isn't going to happen because you're not continuing with the process. You said you cannot divorce because you haven't been married six months? I don't believe that to be true. The process in CA should take six months to finalize, but a divorce could be filed at any time. You said he doesn't want to take your money to go see a doctor? Why isn't he added to health insurance? Finally... marriage is hard work. Asking an immigrant to give up their entire way of life to move to a new country with new customs, language, and expectations is even harder. For reference I have known my spouse for nearly 20 years, but he only moved here 9 years ago. I don't know how long you were in a relationship with your spouse before the decision was made to immigrate, and most people certainly wouldn't wait that long - but for some I think waiting until both persons understand what they are getting themselves into and expectations of what it entails is important. Do you love him, truly, or is this a marriage of obligation? Does he love you, truly, or is this a relationship of something else entirely. You need to decide. You both do.

You need to go in person and bring the citizenship certificate. It's very easy. Also take the time to update at the DMV.

You cannot make them something they are not. They are US citizens and as such they are not eligible for visas. Regardless of if you are a citizen or a green card holder - all world-wide income must be reported so don't let the notion of taxes put you off too much.