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Man that is *stoopid* I'd tell them to kick rocks personally. There has to be someone that has the same parental situation.

From personal experience: we used a well-qualified joint sponsor for our K1 process and that wasn't the problem. We were confident that we had a large amount of savings enough to handle the long waiting period to a green card. Alas, that ended up being quite the pickle. The long wait (employers didn't want to hire him until he had a green card vs an EAD), the job market at the time in our area, and the enormous cost of health insurance significantly drained our finances. We were mere months away from losing it. He was hired out of a miracle chance, so our income stabilized, but that did not mean he was offered health insurance. That was another year for a promotion to get that. That was ten years ago. Insurance costs are even higher now and immigrants are viewed with even higher scrutiny. It's important to have a long term stable plan and perhaps employment before starting down this road. That may be difficult to hear, and I hope no offense is taken.

As more details come out about this case it sounds like a very serious kidnapping. The FBI is also quickly involved and there is discussion of disturbing crime scene evidence of some sort of serious harm. I wonder if this is some sort of stalker situation. They are being rather mysterious about the info on what has happened here, but I hope this poor lady is found alive.

I had visited him several times before his condition began so it was hard to see him deteriorate. There were some small blessings eventually. For a while he would have days where he couldn't remember what had happened to his wife, so he would go through the grieving process multiple times... eventually the disease spared him of wondering about that. Breakfast used to be dry bland cheerios, pop tarts, or toaster strudel (do they still make that?). Though the best occasional cereals were cocoa pops and soymilk. Okay 1) lactose intolerant? You can get lactose free cheese if that helps him. 2)is there something for breakfast that he wants to eat in particular? what does he eat when he's not with you? 3) why is Mama T-B mad at you for a trip? I mean.. I get you, every time me and the husband want to go on vacation the elderly seem to have a total passive-aggressive gaslighting meltdown to the point I can't even relax the whole time. Don't understand it.

Took a day off from chopping the ice and went back at it yesterday. The 'iceberg' has not melted much... 4 degrees this morning. But hitting it with my shovel and a hammer has provided some stress relief. Looks like blizzard #2 will sadly miss us, but might be some flurries. We learned of the passing of my husband's grandfather. He was the sort of man you could quintessentially describe as an absolute English gentleman. Tall, kind, dry-humored, full of stories.. with a twinkle in his eye. Always impeccably dressed. He loved his gardens, tea, finer things of life, and traveling. His grandfather's health began to decline after the loss of his wife, and not long after my husband left the UK. When we visited, he no longer had a memory of anyone because of severe dementia and he battled illness after illness... each time beating the odds. Take some comfort in the fact that once it's over, there will be no more sleepless nights, no missing each other, and no more empty rooms.

The drifts froze solid, so there's a good 10-12 inches that you can walk across easily... not great for shoveling, more like chopping and lifting heavy ice bricks. Unfortunately the cars were encased in that, so it's been a hard struggle all day to dig out the entryway and get at least one side of one of the vehicles cleared out. A neighbor with a backhoe cleared the rest of the driveway, but unfortunately piled a good 4ft wall in front of the other vehicle, so that's going to be insane to dig out. We're forecast in the teens all week, with more snow on the way. Rumors of blizzard #2 this weekend! At any rate it's not safe or possible to get the elderly out of the house to appointments this week so everything has to be pushed to another month. TB I'm curious where you put all the stuff you buy, surely at some point it will be too much clutter? Though the gloves are always good, I go through tons of boxes of those things a year with all the cleaning and elder-care.

I can report it's still blizzarding outside. Snow is knee-high and we have significant drifts to be digging out in the morning. Shoveling has been made difficult by near-constant sleet all day. Power has held so far, but the poor heat pump is struggling.

1) Decline of stable men. 2) Decline of stable women. (For points 1 and 2 I mean in all things - emotional maturity, actual maturity, financial security, compatibility, cultural issues, psychological factors) 3) Financial stability. 4) Examples your parents set end up giving you so much burnout you can't imagine having your own children and going through it. 5) Effectively spending all of your time and money 'raising' your parents in their old age. 6) Repressive cultures. 7) Fertility issues, sex-ed awareness, stigmas (women's reproductive and sexual health remain underfunded, understudied and millions of women are developing inflammatory reproductive issues which vastly affect their health and psychological well being. society's answer to this is BC as a medicine which isn't helpful due to numerous side effects including not having babies.) 8 ) we spent decades telling young potential parents to wait for 'marriage' only to have kids when married (so they enter into clueless marriages, eventual broken marriages too), to abort or give up their kids due to stigma.. and guess what? Now less young people are choosing to have kids before marriage.. but are also choosing not to marry or have kids at all. There is no one chief factor.

it's glorious. We need snow especially to protect the plants from the temps and we are still in a major drought. The last official blizzard was 2016, and that is too long. Forecasts continue to get worse for this area. Went for a doctor's appointment last afternoon which is quite far away and then needed to get back down here to do the weekly basic grocery shopping. Got stuck in traffic and had to take a two hour detour just to get home. By the time I got to the store the mass panic had set in. Four different locations.... all cleaned out, and not just the basic essentials either. Lines were going out the doors! Man I lived through the great blizzard of 96' when the entire state was a ghost town for weeks... you would think it was going to be the apocalypse out there.

Except that isn't true either. And the media sources I mentioned before did in fact look at this story. They investigated to see if a sex offender had lived in the house. They investigated to see where any allegation like this had come from. The best AP could come up with perhaps an ex-husband of a family member that had briefly stayed there but does not seem to be either of these men but may have known of them? Furthermore, one of these individuals they were supposedly searching for has been in jail and is still in jail for several years! Did they have a judicial warrant, or are we okay with 4th amendment violations? Are we okay with dragging an elderly man in his underwear out in the street and then dumping him back at the residence after causing destruction to the residence? If you are okay with that, well that's you. I think that the government should be able to own up to their mistakes and do better.

There is no way you'll be able to make a name change until she has an actual status such as an EAD or green card because they are unable to verify anything until that time. Once you have those you can return to the SSA. You'll need to update with the SSA every time her status changes. The same thing will happen if you need a ID or DL at your DMV. Any name change experience you had at the DMV is irrelevant unfortunately, because you are a citizen and that is a state process not a federal one. You can certainly add your new spouse to your bank or health insurance without having a name changed on her SSN. Most of us with immigrant spouses did so. It's important to do it sooner rather than later.

Hearing anywhere up to 28 inches of snow, coating of ice, and high winds with windchills -0. I don't hold out hope for the electricity staying on because we'll be dealing with these conditions for 48hrs and no end to the brutal cold anytime soon. I'm sure the panic buying in the stores have started. We struggled a bit on day two of the faucet replacement job, but ultimately got it done and we now have a nice new fixture. There was no information in the store about how long the pipes were and no employees were to be found. Stood around for 15 mins googling to see if anyone knew the specs and was happy that our first choice was adequate enough.

A glorious 23 degrees today, snow still on the ground, and rumors that "the big one" is coming for the weekend. 😆 Last night was supposed to be a nice evening with movie watching. Instead I noticed that there was water coming into the basement and above in the ceiling a suspicious green stain of something leaking on the copper pipes. Above is where the kitchen sink sits, so I go up there and open the cabinet and.... we've got a problem because everything under there is now 'swimming' and the gunky water is just draining along the copper piping under the floor boards. I know this stupid house isn't built to code and we've had multiple leaks there before. I get everything cleaned out under there but the space is so tight my husband is contorting himself in all sorts of positions, and me with flashlights to see what's going on. The leak seems to be coming internally from inside the faucet itself or at least somewhere up where the not to code copper pipes (you're supposed to have those more silver coated flexible pipes now) run up into the faucet. Anyway we're both up in there struggling with it when BAM! One of the heavy metal flashlights he'd clamped to the cabinet drops and conks me straight in the skull. Oh man, there was blood and dizziness, and did I see stars. I was done after that. Shut the water off for the night and I suppose we'll have to take a trip over to hardware and see what we can buy to replace everything.

They might be wasting their money but... According to the memo everything is to proceed as normal, as in you are still supposed to have an interview. But that interview will basically be a sham anyway, as they will deny the applicant under the terms of the memo. I will assume if you show up without having completed the medical they would refer to the other portion of the memo which is to 'find another way to deny the applicant' first.

Can the US government ever admit they have done something wrong and most importantly can we ever do right by people when we do? I hope that everyone can take the time to have a look at this man's story. They are likely going to sue, as they should. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/chongly-thao-ice-detained-gunpoint-underwear-frigid-conditions-what-did-i-do-wrong/?ftag=CNM-00-10aab6a&linkId=900092261&fbclid=IwY2xjawPceupleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZBAyMjIwMzkxNzg4MjAwODkyAAEe3uPQt1iLwOzs2_vA7F7v5Cf6OZFysPFZxyCE1KqJVsjKHi-_JfDC_wnNP2Q_aem_3hXO-UiqC9dc-tcdrrfrMw Reuters has a similar article, in it they believe it was related to someone's ex-husband that briefly lived there many years ago and haven't associated with since.

Don't care really, don't drink milk and never did. I hope kids are offered alternatives when they cannot drink cow's milk.

The document does not elaborate further unfortunately. I agree that the whole thing is a mess and is completely unnecessary. But this behavior is not unexpected for this current administration.

That's what I figured. Thanks for removing it as I wasn't sure. I hope paraphrasing the contents of the memo is okay, but again feel free to remove if that is needed too. I imagine that is why the document has been reviewed by many news organizations but they aren't being very detailed as to the contents.

I have reviewed the cable which has been leaked. That document states that officers must refuse all immigrant applicants. They may still conduct interviews and are not instructed to cancel them, in order to assess if the applicant may be denied under some other ineligibility. Exceptions to this new determination will be limited in nature. If the officer can find no other reason to refuse them, they are instructed to refuse anyway, while the department basically 'figures out additional vetting regulations'. There is no instruction as to what those are or when they will ever happen. They are instructed to refuse even if the applicant has all proper evidence and can overcome any public charge concerns. Dual nationals that have a passport that is not subject to this 'pause' are allowed to be processed as normal. If the visa has been approved but not yet printed the applicant must be informed that they will be denied. If the applicant's visa has been printed but not left the consular section yet, they must still be refused. Visas that have been issued previously will not be revoked.

One lawyer I spoke to believed this would apply to both spouses and K1s.

The list of countries as follows: The AP article describes it as That of course leaves questions... do K1s get a pass because they are non-immigrant visas with immigrant intent? And I guess spousal visas are dumped in the trash?

HOAs are terrible and one should never move to a place that has one. Might be good to get a general consensus from Ex-Mrs and Mini on what color they think the place should be? Well as someone that has found the dryer broken every few years, my husband has always been able to fix them. If you can look up your make and model and some googling will get you the right idea of what's gone wrong. There will be videos online of how to access the insides. You might also need to do some testing with a multimeter. There's limited amount of parts inside, so when it does break you don't have to always replace it unlike a washer. If it won't turn on at all start with: check the circuit breaker, it seems dumb but you never know. also check the outlet by plugging another item in and seeing if it runs. clean that dryer out completely (the hose, the vent flue, the back panel, the floor around it). when it's full of crud in there, it'll overheat and shut off for your protection. a thermal fuse is gone or the start switch (if you hear a hum but nothing is happening it is not the start switch), could also be the motor. There's only one or two parts that at cost might just be worth purchasing a new unit entirely. We've always gotten OEM parts for ours but so far each repair hasn't been too costly and about an hour of work. Always get new hoses for the new dryer if you decide to replace it.

Up is down and down is up.🙃

What do you do when one officer shouts get out of the car and the other shout to move the car and another points a gun? Again, I'm pretty certain we'd each know what we'd do nor do I think we'd put ourselves in that situation to begin with. But this doesn't seem to be a very bright individual, way over their head. I don't disagree that the officer may have felt his actions reasonable, but I don't know if the evidence supports those feelings. We will only know that in court eventually, long after the screaming on TV stops. I don't know that any of us believe that she was intentionally trying to run him over nor do I think evidence supports this. There is however training, and that training and burden is on officers to not place themselves in front of a vehicle (though they may place themselves at various safer angles) because of various case precedents that have come to court. This is different from situations where an officer is dragged in a window (which is what happened to him previously) or is very clearly and maliciously struck. Officers in the city have been in these situations, and there are many where it hasn't gone favorably for them in court. He may have felt he was going to be struck, but that doesn't mean he was struck. We will certainly know in court. I would like these officers to sometimes handle situations better and be safe while doing so. I would also like protestors to handle themselves better as well, it is clear many are naive and are shocked at results. A small example for you guys. My husband was stopped at a red light yesterday. He observed someone blow through the intersection from the right, high rate of speed, running that red. His light had turned green so he proceeded with the rest of the traffic into the roadway, and had to make the quick decision to slam on the brakes (and of course so did everyone else) when the vehicle which had been behind the light runner, was an undercover cop (put on lights but not sirens) and then barreled into the roadway. He certainly did not want to hit anyone, but the officer made a decision which could have caused a T-bone multi-car accident in order to chase the guy. He could have seriously hurt himself or others. Maybe the officer was not thinking about that at the time, but it was a decision that was risky.

There are several, not the best quality imo. There's been a few media outlets that have analyzed the videos and cannot conclude she struck him. There have also been faked videos, sadly. There are some that have attempted to speed up or slow down the videos to give it whatever 'favored' outcome. I don't feel this gives us clear 100% beyond reasonable doubt in the matter. Some might hedge the line to say the car may have potentially brushed him, if only because he put himself in that scenario against training. But it is not that I am being unsympathetic to the officer, who had been struck by a vehicle in the past and that experience may have weighed his decisions. He may have felt he was going to be run over (why did his colleague give a contrary command for her to move then?) and there may be people that would find his split second conclusion, reasonable. In either case there is still no evidence to suggest that he was injured in any way. He was not crushed, killed, laying on the ground, or had any noticeable injuries. He was not sent to the hospital. He walked away from the scene. I find claims and hyperbole of him being viciously run over a little insulting to those officers, including one that died just this week who were killed in the line of duty from genuinely being struck by a vehicle due to negligence or intent.