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  1. For us we planned everything in the year or so before he arrived, something I don't recommend doing for most people. Vendors I chose knew our situation and were willing to be okay with that - we put in nothing concrete until visa was in hand. Most states do have venues which can provide elopement ceremonies or small style weddings that can give you an experience without the hassle. I wanted a great deal of control over factors of our wedding instead of handing it off to family members that would likely run things into the ground, but usually it's important to delegate if you can. Don't be afraid to discuss options with venues and vendors, many are understanding. They want the money afterall. I used many websites like theknot and weddingwire to search for vendors that I needed. Still there were problems: 1) I had my wedding dress long ago and the hardworking ladies in the back got it looking great in time. The problem was everyone else's outfits had to be ordered. The company claimed they had ordered months ago, but when time came to collect the orders went missing. My MoH's gown ended up having to be the last one on the rack that had damage, but the ladies got it fixed in time. 2) Our venue of choice had acknowledged the difficulty in knowing an actual date but worked out a generalized plan that we finalized. I didn't have as much cash for a lavish wedding, but I felt annoyed at times when I was treated as if our wedding was not as important as the rest. The owner was very difficult dealing with at times, and at some point when it came time to sign the contract with a concrete date they went awol. For a good week I was frantic in trying to find potential new venues at short notice. Thankfully they did eventually get in touch and the venue looked just the way we wanted, but by the end of it we were all pretty upset. I'm aware of other couples that had the same experience. 3) We had the majority of his family flying in from overseas so that took planning between 15 people or so. The hardest part was booking a hotel which was apparently problematic because of the Pope (no idea but that was the excuse for the severely full hotels and high prices). 4) The day of we had one party member that really caused some problems. I ended up being shoved in a big closet at the last minute and my photographer and bridesmaid got me dressed to get me away from the situation. I hadn't a clue what I even looked like! 5) The stress was often severe. My husband took care of a lot of things on his side of the pond but there was only so much he could do. By the time he got here and was able to help more he really saw how much of a toll it had taken. There were a few times we wanted to just go elope because of the stress! And I should say there is no shame in that either. People often want the big celebration, but when you think of the money and time, I don't know if we would have done it again. We did get the special day we wanted, even if it wasn't 100% exactly as we had originally wanted. My last piece of advice is everyone always makes a big deal about the dress, but pay attention to what is going on your feet. I had originally wanted combats a friend had painted which my family threw a fit about, and pushed me to get heels which then the bridal company lost. They offered backups. Well they were the absolute worst things - bloody blisters, dye that ran straight off... get what is comfortable for your feet the rest of the noise can shut up about it! My point is a small or medium sized wedding is doable depending on several factors and how much help you have, even at short notice. But I certainly wouldn't recommend it. Most people do a courthouse ceremony.. I've been to one of those and it wasn't for us, but it absolutely works in a pinch.
  2. Yep, that's the same thing he had to do with ours the pulley and the rollers.. He's also replaced belts, a timing mechanism, and most recently some kind of circuit switch? He said the only thing that would be left is the main board. Most parts are cheap enough to replace instead of buying a new unit.
  3. Our nightmare with Samsung was with a washer and dryer. The washer would become 'stuck' washing and refuse to drain or release the clothes trapped inside and the dryer would not dry the clothes. It took months dealing with it, but the gist was Samsung had no repair people that could come out because we are ''too far away'', that was despite arranging appointments for a person to come out. So even though you have a warranty to repair you will never actually get it repaired or replaced. I hear many of the repair people are actually DirectTV contractors that have no experience anyway. We ended up explaining the situation to the big box store we bought it from, and they were aware of the situation, so they gave us whatever replacement units of our choice we wanted so long as we didn't get Electrolux because they suffer from the same issue. Whirlpool has served us well as these years (though our replacement Whirlpool washer did kick the bucket eventually). Now, to be fair the dryer has died many times over these years past the warranty, but my husband has replaced almost all parts and can get it running within some days. I'm told if you want something to last Speedqueen is supposed to be good. But no I'd never get a Samsung. Phones yes, appliances no. He also hated having to deal with them when needing to replace TVs.
  4. I'm so confused. How did she manage to pass anything and how is she being accepted into college? At any rate she has special needs that clearly were not addressed. I'd also argue she'd likely have benefited from one-on-one tutoring, a different method of learning (it sounds like she is more audible processing than visual), visual therapy, and other methods that could have helped. Where are the parents though?
  5. You only need the vaccines that are age appropriate for you. You could go and get any of these at your doctor or at a pharmacy of your choice. Take proof of receiving them to your medical. Do you recall having chickenpox as a child? The vaccine is not really available in the UK so that will be waived. Hepatitis is a multi-shot course which needs to be separated between intervals longer than the time you have. Getting the first will get you a pass. If you'd like to complete the series in the future, I'd again consult your primary care or pharmacy either there or in the US. Don't leave the medical without having any missing and make sure the form is marked complete, just keep in mind it will be expensive. As for getting them at once, my husband had quite few that he got done at his doctor ahead of time - that included an additional MMR that he actually didn't need as he likely had some immunity from a prior infection. With the exception of feeling crummy a few days, tetanus shot usual culprit, he was fine afterwards.
  6. To better help you here people are going to need to know the circumstances needing a joint sponsor and exactly what you sent in your AOS package.
  7. You are an independent contractor, but if you do not make enough anyway you will need a joint sponsor. No there is no way around a financial requirement. Regardless of if you choose a fiancé or marriage based visa, there is financial requirements. You need to be aware that the fiancé would not be allowed to work for a long time on a K1 as they will need to adjust their status. You must also consider additional expenses such as health insurance and living expenses.
  8. If you live in the following states, then yes, as it describes unfortunately she cannot use the marketplace until having LPR status. She could purchase insurance privately, or she could seek insurance via an employer.
  9. Seems like they arrested the leader of this group today. https://www.thebaltimorebanner.com/politics-power/national-politics/jack-lasota-zizian-cult-border-patrol-XYT7QCHZV5HEBAFPLLOBFOHZMI/
  10. It sounds like he applied for his citizenship when he joined the Army at 16 or 17 years of age. Being charged with 52 years is just crazy to me. There are hardcore killers that don't even get that much time. I think that our military and the government could try harder on behalf of people that served our country to not lose things that may be lifechanging to the soldier. Just as they should in getting them proper support they need.
  11. My husband and I had a very very long relationship before filing (since 2003/2004) so we also wondered how to approach the amount of evidence we should provide. In the end we likely did a lot of overkill but tried to go for quality over quantity. We did provide things like passport stamps and plane tickets from almost every meeting we had and made sure to get about ten photos (with dates, names, and locations on the back) showing the course of the relationship from then to now - you could see we were a lot younger when we started lol. We also had receipts from some of our meetings, but those were more focused on the most recent meetings. We also wrote a letter detailing the relationship, when it started, listed all meetings, and how the course of the relationship progressed (that includes detailing your most recent meetings). USCIS loves killing trees and you're going to have a ton of it in later applications. Make sure you have plenty of copies of any and all evidence you send.
  12. Thoughts on this story? This individual applied for his citizenship via the Army, and they seem to have lost that paperwork. Soldier believes he is a US citizen and by all accounts served the US bravely. Unfortunately, like many wounded and decorated soldiers that came out of Ft Carson unit found problems adjusting to life with severe emotional and PTSD issues. Doesn't seem to have had support and ended up panicking and firing a gun into a crowd. Received 52 years for that but let out on parole, and that's when ICE picked him up and are intending on deporting him because the Army doesn't want to prove his status. https://denvergazette.com/news/immigration/jose-barco-army-veteran-facing-deportation/article_d90ef248-e3ee-11ef-97be-eb7d73f906c6.html https://gazette.com/news/jose-barco-army-veteran-facing-deportation/article_162bfd7e-e435-11ef-ae51-ffce14df930c.html?mode=nowapp
  13. You can toss a salmon into an air fryer and have it done in 8-10 minutes. https://downshiftology.com/recipes/air-fryer-salmon/ https://cookswellwithothers.com/2021/01/06/air-fryer-lemon-garlic-salmon/ https://www.skinnytaste.com/fish-cakes/ Turkey meatballs https://pinchmegood.com/easy-air-fryer-turkey-zucchini-meatballs/ https://healthfulblondie.com/air-fryer-turkey-burgers/ Meatloaf https://www.skinnytaste.com/air-fryer-turkey-meatloaf/ I actually grew up on microwave meatloaf, but an air fryer will cut down on that time. Turkey meatballs with zucchini noodles - but you can buy microwaveable pasta packs and sauce for ease and convenience. You can also buy frozen zucchini noodles. https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/healthy-air-fryer-turkey-meatballs-with-zoodles-9483246 Chicken https://www.skinnytaste.com/air-fryer-chicken-breast/ https://www.skinnytaste.com/air-fryer-chicken-tenders/ Pork chop https://www.allrecipes.com/most-saved-air-fryer-recipe-8721947
  14. OP: Your girlfriend is pushing it and I would not try to enter until she has a K1. Spend the time visiting her instead - this will provide good evidence in the future. She is extremely lucky she wasn't sent back. When my husband, then boyfriend, first entered the US we had no clue about anything. No idea what to expect. He was grilled for an hour about every single aspect of our lives. Anything you can think of they demanded to know. It was brutal, annoying, and accusatory. But for every question, he kept cool and had an answer. For over ten years, we made sure to keep those visits brief and about twice a year - never pushing it. Always leave when you say you will and always stay out longer than you stay in. The CBP was satisfied with that. In your case the pattern of behavior and burden of proof is on your girlfriend. The CBP is suspicious and I'd never try and push their buttons ever again.
  15. Why can't you cook protein? This is what I've been doing lately. For breakfast put some muesli mix topped with high protein greek yogurt, add frozen blueberries and bananas for potassium and vitamins. Let the fruit do the sugar lifting or add a tiny bit of honey. Slap some ground lean turkey, low sodium chickpeas, low sodium diced tomato, tomato paste, with a diced zucchini and onion into a pot. Throw in some spices. Let simmer. Have it with brown rice or wrap it into a tortilla (whole wheat, low carb, or higher protein type) sprinkled with low fat cheese and you've got a nice high protein meal. For snack try low sodium Nut Thins, air popped popcorn, apples and cheese, rice cake or an egg and some chicken salad. For dinner put a frozen chicken breast or frozen salmon in the oven, put some frozen veg and potatoes in microwave. All men are attractive to someone in their own way. There's a difference between one that is so vapid and vain that there are no other thoughts going on upstairs and one that has the secret smolder. That's pretty much the same for men and women.
  16. Went to the doctor today. They've moved practices.. no idea why. Office is now small and concerningly dingy. Was seen very late, and in walks... someone who isn't my doctor. Basically fobbed off onto a nurse-student who seemed to be into woo-woo and not anything professional or doctor-like. This person had to basically complete the appointment and inform my doctor without me talking to them myself. When my doctor finally came in, I re-mentioned two ongoing issues. They told me that wasn't something they could help with and I'd need to go see someone else. I was not actually examined in any way. I drove an additional 40 minutes just to be there and waste my time. Think it's time to look for someone new... The same is true about men 😉
  17. In this state the way I understand it is - if you contest the ticket, you are denying you did what the camera/AI says you did. The state says you did it - so even if the judge says it's too ambiguous to prove 100% you are still made to pay a reduced fine and court costs. If the judge doesn't care about you arguing your case he can then tack on even more fines higher than the original fine for denying you did it. I know two people that got hit with this - in one case the bus driver having engine trouble waived the driver past and the camera still got them. $250 + "administrative fees" is quite a hefty donation to the local school system.
  18. I think coming from a broken home per say is a two-fold problem. Some people take coming from a broken home over-seriously and overcompensate in their own relationships. The friend we are helping through his divorce wanted to strive to have a good marriage for his kid, based on his experiences growing up in a divorced family. This left him significant blind spots to see what the wife was up to and issues dealing with the failure of his own marriage. On the flip side the wife seemed to be very traumatized and nearly inspired by her family's broken home, to the point that she seems to look at breaking her own marriage as nearly an afterthought and entirely inevitable. I look at my own parents and as I've said before at times, even after 50+ years, they remain married but they are completely incompatible and do not particularly like one another most days. That has always put a strain on the family as a whole. But they never thought of divorce because of traditional reasons. Essentially, I looked to my grandparents as role models in that regard. My parents taught me (not intentionally) how people should not treat one another by example. If they treat each other one way it's a very good idea to do exactly the opposite! I'm thankful my husband is in a similar mindset about most things. There are countless articles and books; or self help type stuff on love, sex, and marriage from just about every perspective you can think of. I don't think there's a lack of material advice. It's really very learned behavior. The examples our parents give can be helpful or detrimental. People out there got major issues these days and could really use humility and therapy if they weren't so prideful. Kids these days are a mess, but man.... sometimes I think some of the parents and even grandparents are worse.
  19. I concur. I have traveled both international and domestic flights recently and observed the CBP checking. I even saw them remove an individual from the plane.
  20. Well this somewhat old fashioned, anti social, high standards, didn't actually date in the traditional sense gal finds this article very insufferable. If people want to be single then I'd say in many cases this is a good thing because a lot of them these days don't seem to be ready in any form to be in a committed relationship. The tales of woe I've heard from recently divorced or soon to be divorced or those in a continual loop of failed relationships that I've known... one thing stands out - they or the partner had no business being in a relationship to begin with. The author is talking about the notion of marriage as an insurance policy, what a strange way to think of a loving partnership. Women and men should have reasonable expectations and high standards. Having a relationship or getting married used to be tossed up as some important rite of passage to achieve satisfaction or favor, so that unreasonable expectations were placed upon it. One does not need to be married to be happy, one does not need to be alone to be happy, and one can be alone and be happy. One does not even need to be married to have children, though if you do my standards go even higher - because the suffering caused upon children due to their parent's selfish choices raise my ire.
  21. I'm going to tell you what I told a male friend of mine going through a divorce. In his case he devoted a huge chunk of his life to a lady, had a kid, and then she threatened to take everything from him. You have to get mad enough to stop being taken advantage of and you need a competent attorney. Divorce, get out, move on with your life. There is nothing left for you in this relationship with her, because there never was a true relationship to begin with. Likely you saw the warning signs, and ignored them. People likely questioned and warned you, not out of maliciousness, but out of concern for your well-being. People are not perfect, and make mistakes. If such mistakes result in not having a parsonage or being a pastor at a location, then you need a backup plan - not just for yourself, but for your child. Perhaps this kind of change is a new direction that's needed in your life. As a pastor you should understand that what this lady is asking you to do is live in sin. A type of sin that is lying to yourself, your family, your parishioners, your church, your government, and your god. You were a ride and she'd like you to continue to be that ride. Biblically, what are you told to do? You might think it is to offer some charity and continue to dig yourself deeper into the hole of the lie because you are afraid of what will happen to her. But that is just stumbling some more. Yes, she might be taken and removed - well, that's a her problem. If she wants to turn herself in - okay, call the bluff. She has proven herself to be resourceful in such a short time, I guarantee she will move onto her next best scam. You ask if she loves you, and you already know the answer to that question. It is clear in everything you have stated. It is unpleasant to think about I know, but she doesn't need to tell you what you already know. I'm sure she is desperate. Her desperation has nothing to do with you. She was not desperate enough to love you. What did Jesus do when he entered the temple and saw the money changers? Did he offer sympathy or charity? Was there offers of love or acceptance of their blatant behavior? Did he tell them they could stay and do their thing in case they got into some trouble? No. I'm not trying to come off as harsh but you need to think of yourself and your kid. I am the child of a former pastor who once made the choice to upend his family and leave that parish house and ministry because it started to feel like a millstone around one's neck instead of a calling. It was very difficult for a time, but I often remind him, of how far he came and what blessings came of it, in the times he likes to forget.
  22. While a K1 visa holder does not need vaccinations to enter the US, it is always advisable for a K1 visa applicant to obtain any and all required vaccinations in their home country before entering the US. The process of obtaining vaccinations stateside is expensive and can contribute to needless delay.
  23. I have actually been following this story, because it is the first time that I have ever heard about this group, but supposedly they have been on law enforcement radar for being particularly violent quasi sovereign citizens manson-esque death cult. I know that NYPost is preferring the term leftist, but it is vastly more complicated because it's nothing to do with political ideology. Simply put it seems they believe in a fatalist type of rationalism, end of the world type stuff, with a dash of transhumanism (modifying or evolving oneself into a higher species), alternate timelines, also mind control, worship of mathematics, and magic powers type stuff. Being trans in this group has little to do with sexuality and more with possessing a male and female entity of multiple personalities inside of them evolving to a higher power or some such nonsense. https://openvallejo.org/2025/01/27/suspects-in-killings-of-vallejo-witness-vermont-border-patrol-agent-connected-by-marriage-license-extreme-ideology/ https://davidzmorris.substack.com/p/deepseek-and-the-ai-murder-cult
  24. Apparently there was only one ATC monitoring both airplane and helicopter traffic instead of two. Another helicopter near-miss had happened the night prior. That time the plane's TCAS system warned the pilot in time to pull to safety so it would seem that again the helicopter was not flying in the zone and at the altitude it's supposed to be restricted to. Supposedly PAT25 was also flying at the wrong altitude and not on the right course. So what's going on with that? There is some criticism that the ATC was not more specific when they asked PAT25 to confirm that they had visual on the plane. It may have helped yes, but I think by that time it was too late. Clearly the helicopter was not paying attention. I feel so terrible about the whole thing.. the poor pilot had no idea what was coming at him.
  25. Since you have your EAD and SSN, most of the hard part is done. They could require some other documents like name on a bill or bank account but their website seems pretty straightforward with info. Many states will allow someone who is already licensed in another country to obtain a US license a lot easier than someone just starting out. Generally passing the written test and road test, rather than spending hours of driving time and classroom time. Note that the license they issue you may only be for as long as your EAD is valid for in some states. When you have your green card, go back to the DMV, update your status and they will issue you a full one.
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