My sympathies to you TB for the current situation. Slightly similar circumstances here, except for the hospital actually kicked my dad out of his bed and dumped him into a hallway without telling us and left him there with no monitoring until we collected him. They had ordered he be discharged to a rehab facility and *not* the one we had instructed. They said they would not send him there because my dad had the ability to stand... ah yes, he can stand.. barely, it's what happens next is the problem. They told us we would have to take him to the facility ourselves.
My husband returned home after taking him and was in quite a state. He told me the facility which does not show actual photos of it on their website, and splashes a 5 star CMS rating (a lie I learned) is not fit for any human being. It is old, dirty, smells, the night staff is incompetent and have a bare understanding of English or nursing skill. There is nothing to ensure he will not fall, no bedrails, no alarms, not even a proper wheelchair. They are not following the doctor's instructions of wound care. I'm not confident he is being given his right medication. I went there and started asking questions... the staff will barely speak to you and only with vague answers. I have been struggling for many days now to see if I can get him out of there and moved somewhere else.
From my experiences with my grandma, she sold most of her belongings at auction and her POA took care of setting up accounts which enabled her to go live at the retirement home and then a year later, the skilled nursing care center (basically hospice). Because she did have some means, her choice of facility was pretty good by my standards. But it's always very important to make sure that if you are able to make decisions for her that the facility is safe and clean and can meet the patient's needs.